Coping strategies undiagnosed ADHD

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Hi,

What are your everyday coping strategies?
I recently posted in another topic and it was suggested I should consider ADHD. And it makes total sense!
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sahp/4485396-what-s-wrong-with-me-ppd-neurodiverse

I will call my GP next week but I understand getting assessed takes a long time and need some strategies to get through at the moment.

My baby is sniffly and possibly cutting a tooth and I'm feeling overwhelmed. I have to choose a daycare soon too and even trying to make the showarounds is too much.

Also, I'm beginning to think that DP may also have ADHD and that we trigger each other. He too misplaces things, leaves the hob on and leaves the keys in the door. He often gets down about work/late doing something so I ask him about what he's doing/what's next. This seems to help him focus but then I'm plunged into panic as he is the main earner and also I have lots of fear /feelings of inadequacy around not coping at work either. So then he uses his energy to stop my meltdown to crash himself for me to reassure him.
Everyday feels emotionally draining and I always feel at least low-key stressed.
What can I do or try to do?

I'm sorry to read that you're struggling op. One of the things that overwhelms me is too much choice, it paralyses me and leads to me avoiding choosing anything at all. So rather than going on (e.g amazon) and spending 3 hours looking at the variations of something and loads of unhelpful reviews (in the sense that it's never universal!) find a way to narrow it down to say 2 brands. You could use this board to ask for recommendations for most things I expect, it certainly helped me to find out about and choose some ear plugs! With the daycare issue, do you have any friends or friends of friends who can recommend somewhere? I know that sounds obvious, so apologies if that's not helpful, but I know overwhelm often costs us our logic! The only other thing I can think of to help with overwhelm is to try to be really strict with what you say yes to. If you're already at capacity you're going to need to either get help for anything extra, or say no. Which is hard but try and think logically about the consequences of saying no to something, will anyone get hurt by your saying no?!