I can't take my coat off straight away

[Yuckypretty]

Is this a ND thing?

When I come home I never take my coat off straight away. I will start doing stuff while knowing I should really take it off. Then I feel a bit of resistance to taking it off and think I'll just do one more thing and then take it off. One more thing easily turns into 5 more things.

I'm not sure why I have resistance to taking it off.
I know that I struggle with changes of temperature but I don't really see how this plays a part in that. It's obviously not a big deal just wondered if anyone else has this and weather you have tried to change it or not. I'd like to understand it a bit more.

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

I always feel really restricted in a coat, so I take it off straight away, same with footwear.

[BlackeyedSusan]

No. I need to get mine off asap. Yuk.

[BlackeyedSusan]

(sorry just how I feel, not a comment on you wearing your coat... As I can wear my coat in other people's houses as long as it is not too bulky. )

I have to take off all outerwear once I am home and put on home clothing.

[BlackeyedSusan]

And really that is a lot weirder than wearing a coat indoors which is not weird at all..

[BringBackCoffeeCreams]

It's a act of transitioning and transitioning can be a problem for ND people.

[BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation]

It's a act of transitioning and transitioning can be a problem for ND people.

I really struggle with being all wet after a shower. I have to dry and dress really quickly. I hate the period between finishing a shower and being dressed.

[BringBackCoffeeCreams]

I struggle with transitioning between being up and being in bed. Doesn't matter how tired I am or how much I actually want to go to bed, shifting my arse off the sofa is a daily battle.

[BlackeyedSusan]

I struggle with other transitions definitely.

[Itsalmostanaccessory]

I never wear a coat!
The most I can do is a long, heavy cardigan. Even in the snow, I'll be wearing a jumper and a big cardigan. Cannot stand a coat. I spend a lot of time getting wet in the rain.

[Percie]

Another one who has to change between outdoor and indoor clothes quickly. In my case because it's 'wrong' to mix outdoor and indoor. The brain has some amazing quirks!

[Mabelface]

I struggle with transition massively. Sofa to bed, sofa to kitchen, between deciding to do a task and actually doing it, self care as in getting in the bath or shower. The resistance from my brain drives me insane.

[Yuckypretty]

Thanks everyone. I don't even like wearing my coat inside, it feels wrong. But I struggle to prioritize taking it off. It's like on some level I think it's going to be a big job to take it off.

[Yuckypretty]

I also hate getting out of the shower, which means long showers. This is a bit weird but in the morning I'll often have a shower when I get up, before I go for a wee, as that way it will mean I have to have a short shower to go for a wee afterwards. (I hold no judgement for people who were in the shower!)

[Yuckypretty]

*wee not were

[BlackeyedSusan]

@Percie

Another one who has to change between outdoor and indoor clothes quickly. In my case because it's 'wrong' to mix outdoor and indoor. The brain has some amazing quirks!

Thank fuck for that. I am Not.Alone.

[BlackeyedSusan]

@Mabelface

I struggle with transition massively. Sofa to bed, sofa to kitchen, between deciding to do a task and actually doing it, self care as in getting in the bath or shower. The resistance from my brain drives me insane.

Yep. Same here.

[BlackeyedSusan]

I also so get the seemingly small task feeling like an enormous effort.

So peculiar.

Then sometimes when you have done it you wonder why you put it off. Til next time and we are back at massive effort to complete small task impasse again.

[Pumpkinstace]

Yes to the transitions being problematic.

Taking my coat off, putting it on.
Can't start a task or stop one if hyperfocused.
Showering, getting up, going to bed.

Getting out the car sometimes.

Eating.

I'm diagnosed ASD but I have start thinking recently that it might be adhd, if be interested to hear others thoughts on that.

[Galvantula]

I can manage my coat off it's not too cold (but then I need a big hoodie or something) but I really hate taking off my hat when I get in 😳

I guess it's kinda of related to how I have to work up to getting my pjs on. Dislike getting colder.

[Galvantula]

And yes the transitions. Like how I really want to sit in my car for a bit when I get home from work, before I go in inside to 3 lots of "mum, can I tell you something?" 🤯

[Galvantula]

Oh duh I have ADHD, forgot that bit 🤦

[ofwarren]

Yes to transitions being a struggle. I take coat and shoes off straight away though because they are "outside things".
I procrastinate really really badly. When I need a bath I will sit there for ages thinking about having one but not actually moving.

[Percie]

I'd never made the connection between transition and struggling to actually get up and do the thing I'd been thinking about doing/wanting to do before.

Has anyone else found that a lot of things changed/got worse after having children? As in, previously there was time so lots of stuff was 'managed' without noticing but now there's no space or time so you feel like you're being crushed and everything is on overdrive, e.g., rules, transitions, sensory stuff?

[Yuckypretty]

Has anyone else found that a lot of things changed/got worse after having children? As in, previously there was time so lots of stuff was 'managed' without noticing but now there's no space or time so you feel like you're being crushed and everything is on overdrive, e.g., rules, transitions, sensory stuff?

Yes X 10