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The worst cases of oversharing you’ve seen on social media (lighthearted)

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Anon778833 · 10/05/2021 16:58

In my case a friend of mine took a picture of a bunch of tissues on her bedside table and posted it onto FB with the caption ‘The sign of a good night. I’m shagged’.

Also on Facebook - guy posts a picture of his back, covers in scratches with the caption ‘no wonder she’s pregnant’

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woofgoesthecat · 11/05/2021 13:22

A relative of mine once posted three photos from different angles (one of where she was clearly standing on a chair to get a bit of distance) of a bucket with her own vomit. She was expecting people to feel sorry for her for being sick. I commented that noone wants to see this, and unfriended her.
When our grandfather died she announced it straight away on fb, and that is how my mother (and other relatives) found out her dad had just died.

majesticallyawkward · 11/05/2021 13:53

@JackieTheFart

What do people actually want to see on Facebook?

Because from what I’m reading it shouldn’t be accomplishments unless they are REALLY massive, shouldn’t be the mundanities of life, definitely not pictures of yourself that you like in case someone else thinks they’re cringe, not pics of your kid in case they grow up and get upset about having a photo of themselves shared, not food because who gives a fuck....

Mine is normally for sharing articles about women’s rights. Occasionally an cute memory of a kid.

A photo is fine, a constant stream of pointless/over filtered selfies, pictures of your feet (just wtf on that one). The odd update of an event or achievement again is fine, endless mundane updates on non events and minutiae of your every move is overkill. There's a balance to be found.

I'd love if someone else shared interesting articles on my feed! I tend to share the odd thing I think a few people will be interested in, occasional photos if we've done something interesting or an update on the dc for friends and family we don't see (and I'm too lazy to contact individually).

SemiFeralDalek · 11/05/2021 14:14

@Smellycat54

On a serious note someone I know lost a baby quite late in the pregnancy. She posted a lot of pictures of him on fb. I understand this could be an expression of grief but it was very upsetting and possibly very triggering for some people to see they unexpectedly while scrolling Facebook. I think some things need to be kept private.
Sorry to bring the thread down, but,

So she shouldn't post a picture of her child, because it might upset someone else? Because imagine her grief, if seeing a picture "triggers" someone else to be sad.

That's her son, and those are the only pictures she will ever have to share of him, ever. She should not have to keep her child private in case it upsets someone else. Have some compassion.

Mylittleponysuperfan · 11/05/2021 14:17

I have a couple on mine who have just broken up (I'm only friends with her)
That's fine,but everytime they meet to drop off/pick up the kids they end up fighting in front of them-proper screaming in front of 3 under 5's
Every detail is aired and then he refuses to hand the kids back and she ends up snatching them back after a few days with all details aired about what he's given them to eat/company he's kept/where he's taken them
Cue a million 'oh babes,I know x and he's bad news' and 'bastard!he took them to the park!'comments
Then a million comments about how she's 'strong and nobody will keep me from my babies'
Cue the following weekend and it all kicks off again and we are all treated to the fighting and every detail and how he's refusing to hand them back again-she plots how to get them back and the poor kids don't know where they'll be sleeping that night
Daft thing is,in real life they are both lovely people-but it's when they meet it all kicks off and neither will back down-its all point scoring

ZednotZee · 11/05/2021 14:29

@SemiFeralDalek

Well said.

NeverSurrender · 11/05/2021 14:38

I found out a family member had died from Facebook! The family member sharing had literally just found out and put it straight on , and I hadn't had the call to let me know yet. I wasn't the only one to find out from there. Was a bit of a shock to be it lightly!

Dazedandconfused28 · 11/05/2021 14:50

I saw a man post a photo of his back with scratch marks down it captioned - 'my baby likes it hard' with his gf tagged Confused

Rainbow321 · 11/05/2021 14:51

I have just seen a ' real life one ' .
Neighbour has a 60th birthday balloon and their 60th birthday cards displayed in the window pointed towards the road so everyone can see.

Smellycat54 · 11/05/2021 15:03

@SemiFeralDalek I have plenty of compassion. I understand the reasons for doing it. But to me it's a highly sensitive, personal thing. I would perhaps want to share those photos with friends and family if they asked to see them. Not unsuspecting people on Facebook who I'm not close to or haven't seen in years.

People agreed earlier that sharing a picture of a dead relative in a coffin was wrong. So how is this different.

Each to their own but I don't think I lack in compassion when I say I don't expect to see corpses on my timeline Confused

HannaHat · 11/05/2021 15:10

Ouch, that last line is horrible Smellycat, given you were talking about someone’s baby 😑

SemiFeralDalek · 11/05/2021 15:11

[quote Smellycat54]@SemiFeralDalek I have plenty of compassion. I understand the reasons for doing it. But to me it's a highly sensitive, personal thing. I would perhaps want to share those photos with friends and family if they asked to see them. Not unsuspecting people on Facebook who I'm not close to or haven't seen in years.

People agreed earlier that sharing a picture of a dead relative in a coffin was wrong. So how is this different.

Each to their own but I don't think I lack in compassion when I say I don't expect to see corpses on my timeline Confused[/quote]
You're showing yourself up here.

Smellycat54 · 11/05/2021 15:13

I'm not just talking about someone's baby, I'm talking about any photo of a dead person. How else am I meant to say it?

Is it the new normal to post pictures of people who have died on Facebook?! Would anyone really be comfortable seeing that?

SamW98 · 11/05/2021 15:20

@GravityFalls

I like a drink and am not uptight about alcohol- but if EVERY Facebook post you ever make is about what you’re drinking or what pub you’re at, and it’s daily (not just every weekend), it doesn’t matter if it’s craft beer or artisan gin - you’re an alcoholic!
My ex used to post photos of pints saying he was in the pub when he was actually on the sofa with a coffee. He had a collection of old photos of pints he kept on his phone as he said its the image people expect from him

I still see him post the same photos on mutual friends pages claiming to be out on the piss - even during lockdown.

He's in his 50's and its pretty sad he feels the need to have such a fake party boy image

SemiFeralDalek · 11/05/2021 15:39

@Smellycat54

I'm not just talking about someone's baby, I'm talking about any photo of a dead person. How else am I meant to say it?

Is it the new normal to post pictures of people who have died on Facebook?! Would anyone really be comfortable seeing that?

Literally a million ways to discuss a decreased person than refer to them casually as corpses.

Your post referenced specifically, a lost baby boy. You find it unpalatable to see, fair enough, but that is her son. And all she has of him.

Usually when someone dies, they have a lifetime's worth of photographs, smiling, happy, loving memories. With lost babies, you don't. That is all you have of them. A few days before they're gone forever, and in all the pictures, they're dead.

Smellycat54 · 11/05/2021 15:44

@SemiFeralDalek I apologise for the use of that word, I didn't mean for it to be disrespectful or insensitive, I should have put it in a better way.

I understand your point. But I just think it is a very shocking and upsetting thing for someone to see online when they are mindlessly scrolling and not expecting it. I found it very upsetting. And because it's someone I'm not particularly close to it felt almost like I shouldn't be seeing it.

I would hold the same view whether it was a baby, elderly relative, anyone no longer with us. But I suppose as you say, with a baby it's the only photo they may have and they'd want to share and acknowledge it.

Alcemeg · 11/05/2021 15:51

I agree with you @Smellycat54. I think the image of a dead person (however old they are and however you want to describe it) is sacred and it is not for general broadcast on social media.

Chailatteplease · 11/05/2021 16:05

Peacemaking. Love these threads!

rainingdogs1977 · 11/05/2021 16:15

People who have share parent/teacher meetings feedback ..

TheThermalStair · 11/05/2021 16:16

A friend and her boyfriend had a massive row over FB while on holiday, all in the comments on a photo of them having a lovely time in the pool with the kids etc. It was proper cringe and really upsetting. They seem to be back together now but of course we all know how he talks to her when they're fighting, it's horrible.

A guy I know used to post the lovey dovey "in bed" shots with his then GF. They were obviously naked in most of them, like - thanks for that? And then the photos stopped suddenly and I found out she'd left him at the altar!

Anne1958 · 11/05/2021 16:18

My worst has come from Part Time Working Mummy a while back- her daughter Edie had a sickness bug and she posted a photo of her vomit all over the bed and her iPad. I have emetophobia and was absolutely traumatised by that photo for quite some time

Isn’t Part Time Working Mummy a poster here?

It doesn’t seem right posting her name if she is.

blissfulllife · 11/05/2021 16:24

Family member who talks absolute bollocks once shared a fb pic of herself with oxygen mask on in hospital four hours after she'd apparently had a cardiac arrest and was dead for ten whole minutes. She'd actually overdosed on her morphine for the fake bad back she had

Anne1958 · 11/05/2021 16:27

@TillyTopper it's true 😂 my French FIL loves telling stories from his youth involving suppositories up the bum 😂 luckily, he's not into Social media

I much prefer rectal suppositories when it comes to medication. It works really quickly and is far easier on the stomach.

needtoseperate · 11/05/2021 16:29

my feet are pretty good always fresh varnish and hair free and probably look better than my face plus they’re against the stereotype of runner’s feet so I’ll post when I like and you can hide when you like

petalblossom · 11/05/2021 16:35

One FB friend caught flu a few years ago and updated everyone about 6 times a day on how she was feeling. Every few hours it said
'UPDATE: sooo, temp is up a bit. Still feel rough but taken a painkiller so going to try to sleep now.....'
I think she thought we were all actually on the edge of our seats waiting to hear how she was.

StressMagnet · 11/05/2021 16:37

One of DHS aunts posts "I cant believe the utter betrayal of some people, I will never get over this pain" posts a few times a week followed by you ok hun? Replies. It always makes me wonder if her dh is having a affair. In fact she is in her 70's and her 50 year old son didnt drop off her paper or some other non event.

I just think to myself "Good god you must be hard work" every week is a crisis of betrayal. Such high drama.

Like eastenders but without any real story

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