Embarrassed by boyfriend

[DogDmor]

Been seeing someone for around 3 months. We get in we'll but he's quirky, which is fine - well I thought it was. Sometimes I'm starting to think he's just plain odd.

He's overweight and said he wanted to get fitter so I suggested he come along to my karate class. He did and I ended up mortified. He wore scruffy old jogging suit bottoms with paint on them and a massive baggy t-shirt with Harry Potter on. Whenever instructor showed him something he giggled. Instructor is hard arse, old school - I've known him for years and knew he was going to react badly. After 3 or so giggling moments and DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl instructor said "what are you giggling at? Are you a girl or what? Do you have something wrong with you?". Everyone was looking. DB started stuttering and instructor carried on with "you know this is karate and not ballet don't you? Are you in the wrong class?". DBs face went bright red. I was mortified and just wanted to hide. Another female instructor said "alright, it's his first day" so instructor said "but what's he giggling at?". Anyway later on instructor came over to me and said "where the hell did you find him? Is he one of your patients or something?" I was so embarrassed I just said "he's a neighbour".

After the class I asked DB why he kept laughing. I'd warned him beforehand about the instructor. He replied "it was funny, I thought I looked silly!" So I said "you did, why did you act like that? It's a class full of martial artists, nobody else was acting like that" do he looked embarrassed and said "I don't know" so I said he shouldn't come again as instructor will have it in for him now. He got upset and said "but I like spending time with you" so I snapped and farted and said "well you embarrassed me, I've been going there for years and now I don't want to go back because of you, find your own hobby".

Anyway this isn't an isolated incident, a couple of weeks ago he embarrassed me in a cafe shouting and making a scene. In private we get on really well but in private he mortifies me.

He still wants to come to karate with me tonight. AIBU to tell him I don't want him there?

I've text him to say he can come tonight but told him instructor will probably have it in for him so he'll need to take it seriously to get instructor to back off. We'll see how it goes.

Snapped and farted bahahahahaha He should be more embarassed by you

Ontopic : Your b/f sounds hilarious and your Karate instructor sounds like a sexist dickhead

I’m on the bus. Crying with laughter. People are moving away from me...

Why? Have you lost control and farted?

flapping his arms around like a little girl

well id be mortified to be out in public with you

Snapped and farted...

Crying with laughter here. So sorry op, I have no advice , but thank you for making me laugh so hard!

Lmao these comments though 😂😂😂😂 I need to get ready for school run in a minute & every time I get close to stop laughing I refresh to see if the OP's come back & start all over again 😂😂😂😂

I don't think this went as OP planned....

Well, next time my teens give me grief I know what I’m going to do. Snap and fart.

Seriously, I’ve laughed, I’ve cried, I’ve wet myself (very easy unfortunately).

Instructor sounds like an arsehole.

Boyfriend sounds like he has some social
Difficulties: OP, if you aren't prepared to support him then you shouldn't be with him. It sounds like he embarrasses you which tells you loud and clear that you shouldn't be with him.

He needs to be with someone who respects him, not someone who mocks him. It sounds like an awful experience for him and you're being very hurtful.

Why are you with him?

I love the way the op is ignoring her farting

Lmao Hopping have you urinated on your chair while snapping & farting? 😂😂😂

Oh boyfriend with the HP tshirt
We used to get along,
Remember when we used to flirt?
Where did it go wrong?

I took you to karate,
I'll be honest, it made me snap
And yeah it made me farty
But that's cause I think you're crap.

Well the instructor sounds like an arse, but as for snapped and farted, my dd2 used to go to karate and a lot of the instructors used to let rip loudly during the class. I think this sort of sport for want of a better word does attract a certain macho, sexist type (flame me here if you like) - but years of experience.

You and bf are not suited. He sounds like he has limited social skills, although I do feel an element of sympathy for him. Why on earth did you not admit he was your boyfriend op? Clearly you are embarrassed by him and it is time to call it a day.

Perhaps time to rethink your karate class as well "where did you get him from" and "are you a girl" type comments from the seventies. Sounds like Life on Mars.

Rightly or wrongly this has given me the best laugh for a long time on MN.

I snapped and farted

That'll learn him!

Instructor sounds like an arsehole

An arsehole in control of its flatulence, I hope. He probably has discipline over his anal sphincter, being a martial arts guy and all that.

Is this the plot for Shallow Hal or something?

I love the way the op is ignoring her farting

This post has made my day. Snapped and farted

@DogDmor - why are you condoning the instructor’s bullying attitude, and his use of ballet and girl as derogatory comments? Why do you want to subject someone you are supposed to care about to more of the same?

I'm in IKEA cafe, sitting very alone and now crying with laughter 😭

I was having a pretty crap day but snapped and farted has cheered me right up!

Long time since I did Karate but...

1. No class expects you to show up on day 1 wearing a gi. But on the other hand, they do expect neatness and respect, so scruffy, paint stained exercise gear would be already be marked down.

2. Your instructor is so old school he is a dinosaur. 'Like a girl' 'Ballet'? Geez. My instructor was a sexist but even he we would tend to limit himself to ' this ain't boxercise'.

3. I can see why the instructor got pissed off at flapping and giggling and probably why you felt it reflected badly on you. Unfortunately, when I get nervous I express this is stupid giggling and un thought out comments, so your boyfriend has my sympathy.

At the end of the day, it just sounds like you're not compatible, and sometimes when you 'see' something you can't unsee it.

Also - I have also snapped and farted when going into horse stance.

I have to go to the school in a minute. I need to get a grip.

I'm so sorry OP but was feeling shit & on verge of tears (I'm 12 days overdue & very uncomfortable), now I'm literally crying with the laughter in response to OP farting while DP giggles, and teacher gets mad 😂😂😂😂

But on a serious note, I do think it might be something like Aspergers - like in your second post when you mentioned you told him off so he started chewing his hands, and telling you random things in middle of night.

Tread gently with him as he sounds like a sensitive soul and you might need to look into better ways of responding to him than snapping and farting