Embarrassed by boyfriend

[DogDmor]

Been seeing someone for around 3 months. We get in we'll but he's quirky, which is fine - well I thought it was. Sometimes I'm starting to think he's just plain odd.

He's overweight and said he wanted to get fitter so I suggested he come along to my karate class. He did and I ended up mortified. He wore scruffy old jogging suit bottoms with paint on them and a massive baggy t-shirt with Harry Potter on. Whenever instructor showed him something he giggled. Instructor is hard arse, old school - I've known him for years and knew he was going to react badly. After 3 or so giggling moments and DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl instructor said "what are you giggling at? Are you a girl or what? Do you have something wrong with you?". Everyone was looking. DB started stuttering and instructor carried on with "you know this is karate and not ballet don't you? Are you in the wrong class?". DBs face went bright red. I was mortified and just wanted to hide. Another female instructor said "alright, it's his first day" so instructor said "but what's he giggling at?". Anyway later on instructor came over to me and said "where the hell did you find him? Is he one of your patients or something?" I was so embarrassed I just said "he's a neighbour".

After the class I asked DB why he kept laughing. I'd warned him beforehand about the instructor. He replied "it was funny, I thought I looked silly!" So I said "you did, why did you act like that? It's a class full of martial artists, nobody else was acting like that" do he looked embarrassed and said "I don't know" so I said he shouldn't come again as instructor will have it in for him now. He got upset and said "but I like spending time with you" so I snapped and farted and said "well you embarrassed me, I've been going there for years and now I don't want to go back because of you, find your own hobby".

Anyway this isn't an isolated incident, a couple of weeks ago he embarrassed me in a cafe shouting and making a scene. In private we get on really well but in private he mortifies me.

He still wants to come to karate with me tonight. AIBU to tell him I don't want him there?

Some people giggle when they’re nervous, it’s a curse but they can’t help it.

@DfEisashambles

Some people giggle when they’re nervous, it’s a curse but they can’t help it.

You realise this thread is 3 years old (and in “Classics”), right? I reckon OP’s well-shot of the poor bloke by now!

The karate instructor sounds like a sexist nasty pig. I would not be going back to karate if I took friend along and that's how he was treated. What did you want your boyfriend to wear? New designer gear? You sound precious and exhausting.

Zombie thread....but now I’m intrigued. What happened to the OP?? Did they get married?

Really MN should prevent additional posts on "classics". OP is probably married to the instructor she hero worshipped rather than the boyfriend anyway.

Can't believe 'snapped and farted' goes back so far - seems like yesterday!

Just realized it's a zombie thread. Was so angry at the sexism and demeaning ballet. But broke down at snapped and farted. Am still laughing

I so late to this thread there are ten pages! But I'd be more annoyed at the karate instructor using 'girl' as a disparaging comparative. 'Are you a girl?''. And you thought it before the instructor said it.

I think when you have a weak sense of yourself other people can embarrass you. As though they didn't exist for their own selves, as though they just existed to reflect well on you!

@Yokatsu

Boyfriend sounds like he was nervous, instructor sounds like an arse. Are you sure your compatible? Or give him another chance to overcome his nervousness

Totally clear. It seems like the guy was really nervous and awkward.

As for your instructor - giant dickhead bully. Who talks to a student like that?

He wakes you up in the middle of the night to tell you the time?! That alone would make me think I'm better off alone!

😂🤣😅😄😃😀thanks for this thread op its very funny

I am intrigued. OP, come back!

I think he is very childish and you should get rid

'Are you a girl or what'

'Instructor is hard arse, stupid fucking misogynist , old school...'

Corrected that for you.

Zombie but it's reiterated to me that I just didn't find this funny and don't get why it's made it into classics

Oh didn't see this was a zombie.

In classics? Wtf.

Yawn.

It wasn't funny the first time, it's still not funny.

Bloody hell where did those 3 years go?

Read this without seeing the date and wondered how people are getting to karate classes atm

You need to let him free to find someone nice, caring and supportive. He can do WAY better than you by the sounds of it.

Yay Snapped and Farted is back in circulation 😂 just re read this....still funny 3 years later

I've never seen the original snapped and farted post, pleased it finally resurfaced!

OP you sound absolutely ghastly.

Everything this guy does clearly pisses you off. Why are you with him?

@FuckyouCovid21

Zombie but it's reiterated to me that I just didn't find this funny and don't get why it's made it into classics

A lot of crap gets put into Classics, unfortunately.

Is 'snapping and farting' a way of expressing anger then? I didn't realise it was a 'thing'. One becomes angry and then releases a fart - to convey anger? how interesting.

OP your bf sounds as if he has problems reading social situations and you sound like a miserable friendless bastard. HTH.