Embarrassed by boyfriend

[DogDmor]

Been seeing someone for around 3 months. We get in we'll but he's quirky, which is fine - well I thought it was. Sometimes I'm starting to think he's just plain odd.

He's overweight and said he wanted to get fitter so I suggested he come along to my karate class. He did and I ended up mortified. He wore scruffy old jogging suit bottoms with paint on them and a massive baggy t-shirt with Harry Potter on. Whenever instructor showed him something he giggled. Instructor is hard arse, old school - I've known him for years and knew he was going to react badly. After 3 or so giggling moments and DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl instructor said "what are you giggling at? Are you a girl or what? Do you have something wrong with you?". Everyone was looking. DB started stuttering and instructor carried on with "you know this is karate and not ballet don't you? Are you in the wrong class?". DBs face went bright red. I was mortified and just wanted to hide. Another female instructor said "alright, it's his first day" so instructor said "but what's he giggling at?". Anyway later on instructor came over to me and said "where the hell did you find him? Is he one of your patients or something?" I was so embarrassed I just said "he's a neighbour".

After the class I asked DB why he kept laughing. I'd warned him beforehand about the instructor. He replied "it was funny, I thought I looked silly!" So I said "you did, why did you act like that? It's a class full of martial artists, nobody else was acting like that" do he looked embarrassed and said "I don't know" so I said he shouldn't come again as instructor will have it in for him now. He got upset and said "but I like spending time with you" so I snapped and farted and said "well you embarrassed me, I've been going there for years and now I don't want to go back because of you, find your own hobby".

Anyway this isn't an isolated incident, a couple of weeks ago he embarrassed me in a cafe shouting and making a scene. In private we get on really well but in private he mortifies me.

He still wants to come to karate with me tonight. AIBU to tell him I don't want him there?

I thought he was shouting Dog too

I just read this whilst drinking. I can confirm milk is not a good look up the nose.

Thread is hilarious. My DH is looking at me and not really seeing what’s so funny.

I’m sat here with mascara tears pouring down my cheeks...dh and ddog are shooting me furtive looks.

Absolute gold.

Post some more, OP

As a PP said- you’ve got the Ick- just end it now.

I once went out with a (diagnosed! Aspie). None of his idiosyncrasies bothered me- but for one.

He used to HAVE to close the curtains at the first hint of darkness. I asked him why and he said that “his mum always did so it makes me feel cosy”.

I got the ick and finished with him that night. I knew it as soon as I felt it- it was over. Lovely guy, really interesting, amazing sex- just weird about the curtains.

Just let your lovely, Harry Potter loving chap go and find another lover. And maybe don’t be such a meanie in future

Just to say- I get that the curtains were not an aspie thing. Just a him thing. I meant that none of the aspie stuff bothered me- but the weird curtain thing really did.

😂😂😂

OP do you think he is maybe doing some of this to wind you up?

I know some have suggested ASD but I have known people who just have senses of humour like your boyfriends.

Asda joggers set me off again though, I need to come off this thread now or I won't be able to sleep

Seriously 'I snapped and farted' I have farted several times reading this thread because I was laughing hysterically. I also have IBS but until today I did not realise I could use it in anger ......it's a revelation!!

OP your BF sounds very nervous and self conscious, who cares what he is wearing and I would have anger farted at the instructor not your BF because he sounds like a right dick.

op this thread is hilarious and I thank you for that. But fucking hell, you’re quite nasty aren’t you. Just end things if it’s so bad fs. None of us think you are awesome because you keep setting him up for fail and then pushing him away again just to tell us all how embarrassing he is. Yes, most of us probably would be slightly embarrassed but being mean about him behind is back is not very nice. You have the ick (this is my new phrase for this situation now, love it) and not many can get past it. I sort of had it with my partner, I got past it when I learnt not to really care what others think as he makes me happy and we laugh a lot. Now I’m probably the embarrassing one.

Just to ask though. Did you fart at the karate session or at home?

OP, I don't think you and your boyfriend are compatible. It sounds as though you have a completely different sense of humour.

My husband has had Crohn's for 15 years. If he ever farted in anger, it would certainly be the last word in that argument.

I made it to page 12 but I'm really really struggling to not totally wet myself, meanwhile DP is snoring away next to me for now

Shamelessly place marking to read when I'm not at risk of waking anybody

Too too funny. Laughing so hard my baby bump hurts.

My take: You are both on the spectrum, high functioning and undiagnosed. However, because (as a female), you have spent your whole life masking you love his personality in private, it feels very organic... but can’t understand why he isn’t as good at masking in public.

I see the funny link between farts and masking, but I’m going to post anyway.

Oh and OP do the poor bloke a favour and leave him. He sounds like a sensitive soul who deserves to be loved by someone who isn't embarrassed to be with him in public. You're going to erode his self esteem and confidence if you stick with him and carry on acting like you are. It was a giant monkey turd move to deny he's your boyfriend and very hurtful. You really don't sound compatible.

Loving your updates OP, there just aren't enough of them.
Please start more threads, doesn't matter if you make them up.

Yes could we have a daily thread please

I've done karate for years and years and never had an instructor like that. He sounds like a right twat.

What the fuck would he do if someone with learning difficulties or a disabilities wanted to join?

In my head the awkward conversation happened after the class sitting in the car in the car park

If he is a total beginner why would he be going to a class with you, if you knew the instructor would react like this why risk your dp being embarrassed by him. Poor bloke, he only went because he cares about you, he's better off in a beginners class of something he might actually be interested in and presumably as you say he's overweight you are helping him eat healthy foods.

Boyfriend sounds ghastly. Never go out with someone who embarrasses you, it won't get any better. You can do better though, ditch him pronto.

Snap and fart - snart

fruitloop? bit harsh eh

i do hope youre a troll coz its funny but quite nasty aswell

Just had to name change - this insult made me laugh the most

Omg. I’m not sure if this thread will still be here tomorrow but it has tickled me silly.

I love that the OP still feels that the fart admission is relevant to the plot line despite it not having any form of repercussions from the “boyfriend”.

I’m also disappointed he didn’t shout out dog in the middle of the night. I thought the issue was sleep talking!