Embarrassed by boyfriend

[DogDmor]

Been seeing someone for around 3 months. We get in we'll but he's quirky, which is fine - well I thought it was. Sometimes I'm starting to think he's just plain odd.

He's overweight and said he wanted to get fitter so I suggested he come along to my karate class. He did and I ended up mortified. He wore scruffy old jogging suit bottoms with paint on them and a massive baggy t-shirt with Harry Potter on. Whenever instructor showed him something he giggled. Instructor is hard arse, old school - I've known him for years and knew he was going to react badly. After 3 or so giggling moments and DB stood in weird positions and flapping his arms around like a little girl instructor said "what are you giggling at? Are you a girl or what? Do you have something wrong with you?". Everyone was looking. DB started stuttering and instructor carried on with "you know this is karate and not ballet don't you? Are you in the wrong class?". DBs face went bright red. I was mortified and just wanted to hide. Another female instructor said "alright, it's his first day" so instructor said "but what's he giggling at?". Anyway later on instructor came over to me and said "where the hell did you find him? Is he one of your patients or something?" I was so embarrassed I just said "he's a neighbour".

After the class I asked DB why he kept laughing. I'd warned him beforehand about the instructor. He replied "it was funny, I thought I looked silly!" So I said "you did, why did you act like that? It's a class full of martial artists, nobody else was acting like that" do he looked embarrassed and said "I don't know" so I said he shouldn't come again as instructor will have it in for him now. He got upset and said "but I like spending time with you" so I snapped and farted and said "well you embarrassed me, I've been going there for years and now I don't want to go back because of you, find your own hobby".

Anyway this isn't an isolated incident, a couple of weeks ago he embarrassed me in a cafe shouting and making a scene. In private we get on really well but in private he mortifies me.

He still wants to come to karate with me tonight. AIBU to tell him I don't want him there?

I have had a really shite day and this has cheered me up no end
Thank you OP

Is snap and fart the new bend and snap? Was it a ninja fart to follow the karate theme, silent but deadly?

Your instructor is horrible (if this story is true).
I understand being serious and “old school,” and that can be done without nasty and misogynistic comments. WTH with the “is he one of your patients” comment?
“Please be serious, karate may be new to you but you can learn if you focus. Try to do the best you can; everyone starts out as a novice.” There, see? Serious and professional, not unprofessional and douchebag-y.
Yes, you’re unreasonable to be embarrassed by your BF and not bothered by the way the instructor acted.

OP can you pleeease just indulge us all by recreating the scene as it happened, fart and all. I think I can speak for everyone when I say we just can't imagine how or why this fart became part of the story!

😂😂😂😂😂 I've just had to explain to the whole office why I'm crying and laughing like a hyena at this post and comments #snappedandfarted

I just had to leave the office because I couldn't stifle my laughter at this thread!

Are you a girl or what? Do you have something wrong with you?

Charming! I can see why you love this instructor so much Old school? He sounds like an old school sexist pig to me.

As for your BF - well he does sound odd - but you're choosing to be with him so either like him for himself (oddities and all), or dump him, but don't collude in humiliating him along with your arsehole karate teacher. Be a decent human being FGS.

really want to hear about the cafe too!

OMG i'm dying!!!

Why would a beginner be in with very experienced people?

My ex was livid once when pontificating to my da about politics, he told me that my DF farted loudly and deliberately. I refused to believe ex at the time, but now I think DF did, and what's more he was right.

I got as far as the fart.

Forget MNetters saying LTB, there is now a new option of “snap and fart”

"Girl" "girl" "girl", I couldn't read any further! Boyfriend should walk awAy from such sexist

Oh please read further, you won't regret it

I also laughed at 'snapped and farted' hahahaha!

But on a serious note: it sounds like your DP was just embarrassed and trying to make a joke out of it in order to not be embarrassed further.

I think the instructor was the problem more so! I really wouldn't be paying someone to be an arsehole like that and the 'are you a girl or what' comment would definitely be a deal breaker!

Find a new instructor!

Ignoring the elephant in the room

um, dump him. he enjoys embarrassing his partners I expect.

are you only taking him along tonight so you can update us here?!

Not helpful at all but I'm pissing myself at "snapped and farted". I can't really get beyond that

I have IBS

You've made say OP.

snapped and farted.Brilliant.

I meant day. I am laughing so much I can't see the screen.

um, dump on him. he enjoys embarrassing his partners I expect.

Don't encourage her

Please break up with him.

Not because of his behaviour but because you shouldn't be ashamed of your partner and he deserves to find someone who loves him for his quirks.

He sounds like my kind of person. You on the other hand sound like the school bully. If you can't except him as he is then leave him and let him find someone better.

I've just read further in the thread 'chewing his hands' wow!

I was in a short term relationship a good few years ago with a man not too dissimilar; really nice, but so so weird and would come out with lines like this!

I'd also follow PPs' advice and call it a day, but definitely find a new instructor as well!

"I snapped and farted" sounds like it was done as a kind of reprimand? rather than just an accidental fart. Do you often fart to make a point Op?

moonoflove stop it