Or is my neighbour about my laundry...?

[laundryninja]

Name changed in case she's on mumsnet

Don't know NDN well. We are quiet and (I thought!) inoffensive so no issues for the last 6 months we've lived here. There's a low fence between our gardens.

Given that I live in the west of scotland, it's a rare opportunity to hang clothes out on the line to dry, which DH and I have been doing the past few days.

Today NDN appeared at the door and asked me to "be more careful" with my laundry. I initially thought something had blown into her garden and apologised. She said no, that us hanging out "personal items" was embarrassing for her and she didn't want her young sons (who are late primary age I think) seeing things like that. After clarifying she meant bras and knickers I admit I snorted with laughter a bit and said "but don't they see YOUR pants drying indoors!?" to which she said that I clearly didn't want to help and that she'd ask her DH to come over later to speak to my DH once he's in from work!

I have not brought my laundry in and have just done another load. She's glaring from her conservatory. AIBU to ignore her? Or should I bring my offensive undies in off the line?

[maddiemookins16mum]

I'd be tempted to hang out the entire contents of my undies draw right now (and leave it out overnight for added clartyness).

[Redpriestandmozart]

When I was first married, bit more shy, young and all that. I used to hang the washing out so the 'smalls' were on the inner lines of the whirligig and put bigger items on the outside so nobody would see them! Now I don't care who sees them, past caring now. So if you wanted a compromise you could do this.

[EverythingEverywhere1234]

I'd have to seriously stop myself washing every item of underwear I owned and hen hang it, raciest to the outside, all over the line. Fucking blighter that your neighbour is. And saying she'll get her DH to speak to yours

[BlurryFace]

Keep some knickers/bras past their best so you can hang them out even when it's tipping it down!

[workingmumsarebad]

OMG - that is almost worth going on line and getting some crotchless undies, basques, stockings, suspenders, g strings and a cod piece and hanging those out!!!

I make my sons help me hang the washing out!

[EverythingEverywhere1234]

Oh my god 😂 mid lunge 😭

[Fluffypinkpyjamas]

I would do a wash of purely knickers and bras and hang the lot out and go buy some crotchless knickers just to piss her off. What a twat.

[usershitloadofnumbers]

I would have told her that it's so rude to pick on other people's garden and laundry and she should mind her own business.

Of course she's barmy!

That said, I don't hang my teen daughter's underwear in the garden when I know her brother will be around with his friend (a year older). I don't even know if she would mind, but I wouldn't want to embarrass her. Anything else is reasonable. Her poor sons, imagine with a mother like that..

[Lolly34h]

I don't hang underwear on the line but that's my issue not the neighbours! I have elderly neighbours one side and a house full of teenage boys and my son's old school teacher the other side! I just hang them on the clothes horse indoors

[laundryninja]

Sadly it's a couple of long straight lines rather than a whirly to hide the offensive pants inside.

katronfon that's hilarious

Maybe I should go and buy some reusable sanpro just to hang it on the line? Never mind that I haven't had a period since 2015 (off-topic plug for Implanon!)

[YetAnotherSpartacus]

I tend to hang my undies in the centre of the rotary thingy surrounded by larger items as I dont want all and sundry to see my pants

My mother taught me that this was the correct way. No matter what style of line smalls should always be hidden by towels and sheets.

[ItsNachoCheese]

😂😂😂 she sounds utterly cuckoo haha

[ElphabaStrop]

Oh my actual christ. Please tell me you're joking, OP?? 😂😂

[peachgreen]

I've never heard of anything so ridiculous in my life! YADNBU!

[BorpBorpBorp]

At what age does NDN think it's appropriate for her sons to learn that women wear pants? Or is that a special surprise for their wedding night?

[laundryninja]

I wonder if it's only my laydee pants that are offensive? DH has some pretty terrible garish boxers that I mistakenly let him buy at Universal Studios. They have T Rexes on.

[CoughingForWeeks]

Stunt knickers is a great idea, and YY to leaving them out overnight to get darked on 'for added clartyness'. If you wanted to appease your batshit neighbour, could you possibly drape them over an indoor airer instead? Preferably in a window in full view of her garden ;)

[OhBeggerItsMorning]

How ridiculous can someone be? If they complain again maybe try complaining back to them that they are peeping into your private property and making you feel uncomfortable because you feel your privacy is being invaded. If they don't want to see your undercrackers then they shouldn't be looking.

Please, please, please put all your underwear out (even clean stuff, doesn't need to be rewashed, just hang it out already dry for a bit), and post a photograph of her face for us all (black out her eyes for privacy/so she can't see anything.) Could even borrow some from your neighbours, see what amazing things they can find in the back of their wardrobes for you!

[HildaOg]

I would absolutely have to get put the kinkiest underwear i have on the line after that... If you don't have anything outrageous enough, borrow from a friend. She would be so much fun to drive up the wall.

[Deathraystare]

Unless you're putting out crotchless pants or fetishwear I think yanbu



Gosh how tempting would it be to do that!!!! Jeez. Some people! My bras are on the large side and I could 'pretend' they are 'dinner plate protectors'! Not that I would give a shite.

[FlamingoFlower]

no YANBU your neighbour is!! mind you I no longer hang out underwear on the line because I also have a low fence and I heard the weird creepy asbo neighbour next door discussing my choice of underwear with his equally creepy friends one day when he obviously didn't realise that when he's sat in the garden and my windows are open I can hear everything that's being said!

So yeah my underwear dries indoors now but you should definitely not start drying yours inside to please her!

[YetAnotherSpartacus]

would your DM approve of hiding the knickers with reusable sanitary towels

Of course. Although by the time I came along they had developed the disposable ones with the belt which she made me wear until I refused and bought the inch thick stick on ones until I graduated to tampons against her will.

The modern ones these days are environmental hell because they don't break down.

[SootSprite]

I'm afraid this would just make me wash every single piece of underwear I own and peg it out. Every week. In fact, I'm so petty I'd probably go and buy some more undies so I could fill the washing line with them.