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LOTS!

bums, morning Shabs!

Oh shite, shite and treble shite (and no Im not crossing the shite words out) a lovely Mum of one of the kids at Toms school just emailed me cause she said her son is concerned about the level of verbal bullying with Tom at school. thats two people now! Im going to print off the messages I have already got and go in, first thing Monday morning. I AM NOT PUTTING UP WITH IT - dont know why Im shouting at you lot!

I want to stand in the classroom and scream at them about exactly what my family have endured, exactly how many nights we have all cried ourselves to sleep and how pissed off we are with the bullys. Trouble is that would just make things worse.

I am now officially getting on my own nerves with all this - sorry to offload it all on you girls

Morning Ruby - Im sat here with snotty tears so we can share a hankie if you want xx I went through similar stuff with Danny at this age but Im 16 years older and wiser now and I feel like I cant 'do' all this again. Of course, there is no question, that I will 'do' all this again. However my lack of patience and lack of controlling my temper now is NOT helping. Thank God its Friday - I am repeating over and over to myself 'Come on Tom, stand up for yourself, Come on Tom, stand up for yourself.'

Awwww Ruby - 11 years old!!! Its sooooooo much easier when they are babies in my opinion. Would swop the sleepless nights and nappies for any of the teenage stuff. xxx

I soooooooooo wish he would get the biggest gob of them all and beat him to a pulp [bad mum emoticon]

Coffee? On white towelling???? - not good - chuck it here Im just putting a whites washing in the machine xx

Shabs I'm so mad for Tom......you know my DD1 is having bullying issues (she's almost 9). Nothing as serious as yours but it still hurts in the same place. I'm trying to convince her to laugh and get cheerily sarcastic with her bully. They HATE it when you laugh at them and it really shows that what they are doing PLAINLY isn't working. They are trying to rile Tom and if he can show his sharp wit it might just help.

Important he doesn't laugh viciously.....more a sarcastic "oh, you're so RIGHT, I wish I was YOU" with a big smile attitude. Know what I mean? Its hideous. And if he can ride this he will develop a core of steel inside that nothing will break. I am very, very proud of him, and I know you are! Love to you Tomster xxxxxx.

Curiosity, I did the occasional weigh in with my DTs. I was lucky my midwife wasn't too interfering, she offered to come to the house rather than drag me to the clinic with DTs plus DD1 (and the big sign saying NO BUGGIES, how the F* was I going to get in????).

IMHO, I'd tell her that you are concerned that the pressure of worrying over their weights is interfering with YOUR feeding schedule and move to a monthly weigh. I'd ditch the paperwork and stop looking at centiles. Are they alert when awake? Are their nails growing? Have they shed their newborn skin and grown lovely new stuff? Are their poos consistent with BF babies? They are feeding regularly and COOING!! Happy babies IMHO. Reflux concerns can be answered by Momma???? I think who had similar with her DTs. She might be able to help you with some pointers over foods you eat that might hurt their tums.

Trust the bloody NHS to fill you with fear and anxiety!!!!!!!! You with YOUR instinct darling. It won't let you down.

And yes, its wrong to compare what one twin does that the other doesn't so definitely don't let the MW or your mum do that! Its so easy to do. So what if your darling boy doesn't smile so much as your darling girl. My DTs have always been totally, totally different is as many ways as you can find. They are no more alike than any siblings, they just happen to share a birthday. It rubs me up the wrong way when people would say "oh, she's the boss", or "I see he's the cautious one". GRRRRRRRRR!!!!! Stay strong, cut out anyone who isn't helping.

Its only help if its helpful.
Its only help if its what you need, not what is being offered.

Happy Birthday Rubettes!!!!

Hi Momma

Hi HM, will op for DT2, the foreskin hasn't detached from the penis, causing irritation, they are going to.....kind of.......peel it off I think. Should hopefully mean they don't have to circumcise as they say its not too tight. But its a general anaesthetic. I have worries about that. And they've said 7-10 days recovery! Wasn't expecting that.

Does anyone use arnica? Tabs or cream? Info......?

Trips, sorry about the funeral. Always hard.

Merly, did you make it? How was it? You ok?

TRIPS its here, its easy to use, gives great results and its in the SALE!!!!!!!!

I'm horny.

Its one of these dangerous days when I could, and probably will, flirt with any auld geezer that crosses my path. Y'know, the man old enough to be MY grandad who needs help getting his trolley out in the Tesco car park.......I'll get it and he'll say thanks and I'll say something stupid like "well, I couldn't refuse a handsome man like you" PMSL.

Only me I'm sure its only me......

You mucky frog Frumpster!!!!

Wha......?

Good day to you pinkfrog. I am trying not to be flirting with you.

Later my gorgeous ones x.

Last time we saw Dan, Em and Lew was Boxing Day!!! Since then one or the other has been off work and has looked after Lew....we have also both been totally 'snowed in.' Dan was sent home from work because it got so bad and the nursery Ems works in was closed for about 10 days!! Cant tell you how much I have missed them all. They only live 10 minutes drive away from us which says so much about the massive amount of snow we have had.

They are coming for tea tonight, we are babysitting at Dans tomorrow night and on Monday afternoon the Lewmeister returns!! Yeah!!!

Home made shepherds pie for tea - anyone else want to come for their tea? xx

Ooh, yes please shabs .

FG, your posts always make me lol .

Curio hope things are brighter today.

Not doing much here. Nearly slid all the way to school this morning , but finally the snow and ice are going .

dt2 is sitting on my knee and grinning at me every time he thinks I'm not looking. dt1 is asleep on the other knee catching flies. Sometimes I wonder how I made two such tiny funny little people .

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww Bagpuss..... Awwwwwwwwww you have painted a beautiful picture of your twins.... Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

You lot are in a cheery mood today, just what the doctor ordered Shabs, bullying is the pits, blardy cowards that they are, should we all send a friend request, that would scare him FG link didnt work, is it the rollers? <strong>HAPPY</strong><strong>BIRTHDAY</strong> TO THE <strong>RUBETTES</strong> Its dh b/day on Sun and trios on 27th and still havent organized anything, oh well

Shabs, sorry you are having so much trouble with bullies. I think you are right to go in to school. How does Tom feel? I was bullied at school (verbally) and my mum just went straight to the girl's house and gave her a right telling off - the bully was gobsmacked I think that she had been stood up to like that and that anyone had the nerve to go to her house. FWIW I don't even remember what happened because when you're that age things just kind of wash over you, I don't think I was as upset at the bullying as you'd think.

Play, I have a CM for my twins and it costs £60 a day (in Liverpool). I struggled to find one that could take both of them, and that is the problem you might find with a CM. It might be cheapest to get a nanny. A nursery costs £35-£40 a day per child here (no discount for twins but maybe for triplets), so it really depends how much you earn wrt going back to work. If you earn less than about £32k then pretty much all your wages will be wiped out in childcare. Does your work do childcare vouchers? They are £243 a month tax-free (so worth about £75 a month to a lower-rate taxpayer). Have you looked into what benefits you might be entitled to? If your and DH's combined income is more that £56k then you won't be entitled to anything except child benefit, but that will be about £170 a month for three (I think). But you might be surprised at what you would be entitled to if you didn't work. I work two days a week and come out with about £350 a month after childcare is paid for. I get the childcare vouchers. I earn £30k pro rata (so about £12k doing just two days). Hope this helps!

neenz the little farts that are bullying are such insignificant kids - the kind who you dont remember from school. Two of them I have known since they were 3 years old - if I went up to them they would literally poo their pants LOL. The third is one of 'in crowd.' He is going to be a very handsome lad....jet black hair, cocky attitude, clever kid etc etc - if I see him anywhere he always says 'Hiya Mrs Shabbs' I will 'Hiya Mrs Shabbs' him next time I see the little git.....According to Toms 'shameless' buddy the cocky kid is the ringleader - he will wish I didn't have inside information when I next see him!!!

....breathe in....and out....and in....and out!!