I am at my wits end - how the hell do you bottle feed both twins at the same time

[Ewemoo]

My dts are now a month old and have turned into babies from hell. They are by no means placid and when they wake up they immediately scream for food or just pure frustration who knows?? After many attempts at staggering feeding they still seem to wake up at the same time both screaming. How do you manage warming two bottles and keeping the babies calm? I am sure it's not possible but it is doing my head in at the moment. Also how do you manage this situation in the night when your dh needs to sleep and can't help you?

Parents' visit went ok. They didn't help out much but we didn't argue for once. I am afraid I am starting to put the dts on their tummies to sleep as they seem most comfortable that way. poshtottie - I am in North Wales but no-one seems to live out this way!
Poorbuthappy - I want to try a similar routine as I feel it is too noisy and bright downstairs in the evening and this is not helping them sleep. However, I think I'd go mad going up and down the stairs for hours on end.
Thanks for everyone taking the time to tell me their experiences and the advice. Keep posting and I'll do the same.

poshtottie - tap water seems to suit them fine and my GP doesn't think there is anything wrong with it either.
Ewemoo. well done on weathering the family visit. Good that the babies are getting comfortable to sleep longer. Maybe they have turned a corner.
How are you feeling? still exhausted? How is your daughter managing with the babies? Does she like them?

jennyroper, but you mean tap water that has been boiled first surely.

no I don't. You weren't asking for for ideas, someone else was. The beauty of mumsnet is that you can read about everyone's experiences and take what you need from it, discarding the advice that you aren't keen on or doesn't suit you. The last thing I want to read is someone's 'I know better than you' style of comments on a matter about which you have absolutely no idea of my situation or circumstances or indeed anything my twins and son may have experienced which have led me to feed them the way I do. Therefore keep your unsolicited, condescending, negative comments to yourself please.
I'm on this thread because I feel for ewemoo and her frustrating and exhausting situation. I'm not here because I need a parenting lesson from someone who helps someone else with their twins.

Jennyroper, you have me entirely wrong. I have never been rude to anyone on this site at all. As a maternity nurse I have to follow the correct advice for making up formula or if god forbid something went wrong I would be sued. It is not my own opinion but guidelines set down by the authorities thats all.

I never meant to be rude to you and apologise if I came across that way.

Jennyroper, I think it is you who is being rude! Tap water unboiled is absolutely against guidelines as you know and seems to me to be totally unneccessary - why not boil it first, it's hardly difficult?

The problem with tap water is sometimes the supply gets compromised and you might now know about it until it is too late. Boiling the water just rules out the possibility that something nasty has got into the water.

And adding formula to hot water means if anything nasty has got into the formula (eg bacteria) that gets killed off too.

i have had different information from different people and I make my own decisions. Guidelines in the UK aren't the start and finish of baby care wisdom. As I live in New Zealand the tap water situation is a far cry from that in England. Neenztwins I am not being rude by defending my own actions. I wouldn't come on here and tell other people what they should and shouldn't be doing, I just read what they write, say what I do and that's it.
Poshtottie thanks for your apology that's kind.

jennyroper. Yes I am sure the quality of water is far superior in NZ than it here thats why we are so paranoid careful.

Am hoping to get to NZ in a few years when ds is old enough to sit on a plane for 24 hours.

Dear Jennyroper,
Good point that uk advice is not be all and end all of parenting advice.
How does nz tap water differ??

poshtottie
NZ is beautiful, amazing for children. it's worth the pretty horrific journey with children.
I have done the marathon trip a few times now - once with son at 8 wks old, omnce with son at 1 yr old both times with my husband then once on my own with 20 mth old son and 15 wks preg with twins then bacck to nz on my own 30 wks preg witrh twins and son who was 2 by then. Not my favourite way to while away a day but worth it. We live at the beach and every time the crying of all 3 together seems like it foes straight through you i walk them all down to the beach and my son and I swim and the babies enjoy the sea breeze.
you could try campervanning round the country. Perfect fun for chiddlers.