Twins to go to childminder from 9 months? Am I being selfish?

[Han2873]

I have nine month old twins and three other children. I am going back to work at the beginning of march so they will be over one but I am considering sending them to a childminder once a week just for half a day but I’m unsure if this is selfish if I’m not going out to work?
i am on my own a lot, my partner leaves the house at 5am and often gets home after 6/7 which means the majority of parenting is down to me which I’m finding quite difficult.
I found it quite easy to get things done with my single babies but the twins aren’t on the same schedule which means they sleep and sometimes eat at different times. I feel like I don’t have time for basics such as having a shower, brushing my hair x

You need you time. Not selfish at all x

If you can afford it I would look into one full day.

Not selfish at all!

Not selfish at all. It will help them settle long term and help you. It's a win win. I put Dc3 to a childminder one day a week from 14 months as my oldest has significant additional support needs and it gave me a day to take him to appointments, catch up on housework or rest. It did him a lot of good especially as he is a COVID baby and he settled really well at pre school nursery and loved his childminder

Half a day once a week is not selfish!

Definitely do it (and for more if you can afford it). They will build a good relationship with the CM before you have to leave them with her for full days all week.

Thanks everyone I’m definitely going to speak to the childminder we will be using FB and ask if she thinks a full day rather than half would be more beneficial for them!

That sounds great, I had x1 day a week and gives you half the day to properly relax (and shower!!) and half to do productive stuff if you want to!!

(Sorry and this is prob really obvious but you do also need to be clear with each other when you agree the terms whether it’s term time only or every week of the year excluding the childminders own holiday dates / bank holidays)

I did this for two afternoons a week for a couple of months before I went back to work with my twins. The eldest was at nursery too so I had 1-5pm to myself. It helped with their settling in before I went to full days and gave me a break. Definitely do it, baby twins are relentless!