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triplets!

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triplets · 31/01/2002 23:03

Hi, are there any triplet mums out there I could chat with?
I am very much an older Mum, will be 50 in March and my triplets have just had their 4th birthday!
Love to hear from you.
Anne.

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jasper · 13/09/2002 14:29

Looks like it triplets....if there are any others they are probably slumped in an exhausted heap every time they get a spare minute

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triplets · 15/09/2002 23:01

Thats probably true Jasper, still I can`t believe I am the only one, feels lonely!

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kindabusy · 10/04/2003 14:29

I have 10 1/2 month old triplets, one boy and two girls. I would love to chat with you. How did you feel when you found out you were expecting triplets? My husband and I were devastated at first. We had one child and only wanted one more. Of course we wouldn't trade them now, but we went through a very difficult time coming to terms with it. Were you in the hospital very long? I was in for seven weeks for no reason other than the fact that I was having three babies. They were born at 37 weeks and were 4lbs 13oz, 4 lbs 15oz and 5lbs 10oz. They went straight into my room with me and home with me in five days. I hope it went as smoothly for you. I don't have to tell you how hard it is some days to care for three babies and all the restrictions it puts on your life - it is so much different than having one. Thankfully our son is seven now and he is a huge help. I would love to chat more if you are interested.

mum2toby · 10/04/2003 14:31

Kindabusy and Triplets.... I admire you both!! Well Done!!!

eemie · 10/04/2003 14:41

Triplets, I've been wondering about you and would love to hear how you are.

Kindabusy, welcome

kaz33 · 10/04/2003 14:45

Wow

EmmaTMG · 10/04/2003 15:26

Phew I'm exhausted just reading about you both.

Meanmum · 10/04/2003 15:38

I also would love to hear how you are both coping having just read this thread.

I must say I read this thread at work before heading off to a meeting with my General Manager and I ran 10 minutes late to the meeting as I had to get rid of the tears. Very sad to hear all of your news and I am still on the verge of tears even thinking about it.

edgarcat · 10/04/2003 15:43

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Meanmum · 10/04/2003 15:58

Edgarcat - thank you, thank you, thank you. Here I am thinking I give wrotten advice and have terrible opinions and you brighten up my day.

PS - I got bollocked in the meeting for not doing my job properly so it was especially nice to get your message.

edgarcat · 10/04/2003 18:25

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Meanmum · 10/04/2003 21:28

Yes, you may well think I'm holding down my job but by the bollocking I got I think I may be failing at that.

I'm only featuring on mumsnet at the moment purely because it is so addictive and I feel like part of a large family. Oh yeah, I'm hating the company I work for and am currently job searching too.

kindabusy · 11/04/2003 14:06

Thanks to you all for the welcome. I live in Canada, but was born in England and moved here when I was thirteen. The City of London in Ontario has a terrific multiple birth association. They have family outing days, kids Christmas parties and support meetings for parents if that's something you are interested in. They have two big sales a year where you can sell all the baby things you have finished with and buy other peoples left overs. You also receive a monthly newsletter and they are always having guest speakers on different topics. Do you have anything like that? We just joined recently and are looking forward to the spring sale which is in a couple of weeks.

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triplets · 04/05/2003 21:25

Hi kindabusy!
At last another triplets Mum! Sorry I havent been here for a while but I have been unwell, its a long story, but I am feeling better now. What sex are your babies? I have Rebecca, Thomas and James, they were 5 in Jan, and are exhausting! It is now 9pm and they are still chatting, been in bed since 7! Mine were born at 32 weeks as baby number three had stopped growing, Rebecca was first born and was 4lb 3oz, Thomas next 4lb 7oz and finally James just 3lbs, none needed any help at all and were kept in the baby unit for three weeks for James to grow a little and now hes the biggest! You may find it different but for me it was much easier to look after them as babies than now, they are so exhausting, of course being 51 doesnt help, but I think if I were 31 I would probably feel the same, may I ask how old you are? We do not locally have the sort of clubs you are talking about, probably do in London or the bigger cities. I live in Deal in Kent, its a lovely old fashioned seaside town where on a clear day like today I can see across the channel to France. I hear that Canada is a good country to live in, have never been, had three super holidays in California, twice with Matthew my son who died, and once after just before we started the long and weary and tearful road of the IVF clinic, looking back on the last nine years I honestly dont know how we survived.....but you do.
Anyway I must go, its way past my bedtime, very glad to have someone to talk to.
Anne x

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triplets · 30/06/2003 21:01

Wher are you kindabusy triplet Mum? I was really hoping to hear from you as I have been the only triplets Mum on this site for over four years! Hope you are all ok.

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tigermoth · 30/06/2003 22:25

well even if they are not around, it's nice to hear from you triplets I often think about you having a threesome to cope with, when my youngest son (nearly 4 years) is especially active. I imagine it's lovely and exhausting in equal measures.

If I ever visit Deal (a distinct possibility) and see a fortysomething/ fiftysomething woman with triplets, I will make myself known.

bunny2 · 01/07/2003 20:18

Hello. We spent the afternoon with a friend of mine, she has triplet boys, nearly 3 y/o. I am endlessly impressed by her, she makes it seem so easy and takes everything in her stride. Of course I know it is far from easy but I still envy her, I'd love more children. . She skimps on the things that arent so important ie they only get a bath once a week. But they are gorgeous and happy, healthy boys so she is doing a great job.

Lewse · 05/07/2003 09:22

Hi Triplets,

Have you tried twinsclub.co.uk. there are a few triplet mums who regularly post on there.

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triplets · 10/07/2003 22:32

Hi, nice to hear from somebody! Yes please make yourself known Tigermoth! We cant be missed, especially if Thomas is in the middle of one of his many tantrums! Things have been a little hectic this last week, Rebecca fell at school last Weds and the result was a fractured clavicle. We were due to go to Manchester on Frid to meet some very special friends for the first time. Three of us all lost our boys around the same time and we have been writing to each other for nine years. Anyway we went, Becca was fine as she is tough, like all us women, and it was a lovely evening. Then yesterday was a horrid day, it should have been a happy day. It was my Matthews birthday, he would have been 24, unbelievable. I went to the cemetery and was determined not to cry but ended up sobbing with anger at the unfairnest of it all, it was a really awful day and I just couldnt get to bed quick enough so that the day would be over. It shouldn`t be like that I know, I have a long way to go on this journey of grief, I feel as though it will always be this way.
Sorry to have gone off, not many people here talk about Matthew anymore, but I need to.

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gingernut · 10/07/2003 23:37

Dear Triplets,

I've just had a little weep for you and your Matthew. Talk as much as you want, you sound a very brave lady.

One of my antenatal group friends had twins and they are totally exhausting. I can't imagine how you cope but obviously you do so very well.

gingernut

PS we are namesakes

eemie · 11/07/2003 00:19

Triplets, I've only just realised you're back, glad to hear from you. Sorry though that Matthew's birthday was so painful...as my Mum says, sometimes you've just got to keep putting one foot in front of the other, and you know that better than most people.

I often think about you, especially as I'm also older than most Mums - at the hospital the other week the SHO asked me if I was the grandmother...
and because a good friend of mine lost her beautiful boy suddenly when he was 12 last year. She got a lot of comfort from Tom Stoppard, who writes about the death of a child in one of his recent plays...would you like this or do you have it already?

How are they doing at school?

My Annie ( another namesake) broke her arm two weeks ago and is coping amazingly well, hope Becca is too.

Ghosty · 11/07/2003 00:22

Triplets ... do keep talking ... we are all here if you need to offload.
I have never had a tragedy like yours so I can't give any words of wisdom to help but I am not surprised to read that birthdays and anniversaries even 9 years on will be hard.
It is so unfair that your Matthew was taken away from you.
I echo gingernut in saying that you are a strong and brave lady ....
Thinking of you .....
Love Ghosty

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triplets · 14/07/2003 20:39

Hi,
Thank you all for your words of friendship, it does help me enormously, especially if the day has been a stressful one, most seem to be with these three! They had their first sports day today, poor Becca had to sit out of most of the games, it was good fun, but even that made me think of Mattthews sports day, he never really enjoyed them. Thomas is so much like him to look at, it was like watching Matthew all over again. Still, today was good, and I felt as proud as punch watching my three have fun! I did duck out of the Mums race, I thought that as on average the others were 20 years younger I was at an unfair disadvantage! Eemie, I dont think I know the Tom Stoppard play, can you tell me more? I do find that I want to read and read about other peoples experiences, sometimes there might just be a single sentence that hits home, and sometimes some of the things you read make you realize that there are others out there who are worse off. Today for instance I walked up through a local church yard on my way to school. I remembered that a lady who lives in the village had lost her daughter also aged 14. The lady is locally known as the cat lady, as she has a house full of them and we got our first two kittens from her when Matthew was four. It didnt take me long to find the headstone as her name jumped out at me, it simply said BECCA, she had died on Christmas Day 1986 from cancer, I could have cried, she was their only daughter. Well I had better go its now 20.30 and the two boys are still going! Soon be my bedtime!

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Copper · 15/07/2003 14:23

Dear Triplets
lovely to find you again on this thread. I often wonder about you and how you are doing (and envy you for living in Deal!)

The big days must be so hard for you, the unfairness so overwhelming. Is Thomas like Matthew in character as well? Or are the ohters more so? My sister has a theory that I think is interesting - that siblings 1, 3,5 and so on are similar, and siblings 2, 4, 6 etc are like each other. Having not got beyond 3 I can only say that of mine 1 and 3 are alike and 2 is quite different. Worked with my mum's 4 though.

Anyway, it's lovely to have you back. Was this meetup with the friend who needed a computer? Did she get one?

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triplets · 16/07/2003 10:15

Hi Copper,
Thank you for your message. Thomas is like Matthew in looks and also sharing exactly the same interests, but oh so different in nature, he is very bossy and demanding and not at all studious. James is totally opposite to Matthew in looks but has the same sensitve, kind, keen to learn nature. So in order they are Matthew one, Rebecca two, Thomas three and James four!
Yes the wonderful meet up was with Sharon and yes thanks to Horse she did get her computer, only good old Royal Mail delivered the monitor in pieces!!! She is overwhelmed by the gift as is now busy churning out appeal letters for Nathan.

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