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Morning girls I think a vampire would sleep more than I do at night!!

Very impressed my friend I almost typed coleslaw though.

I feel a right mess, had an attack of vertigo this afternoon to top it all, made me feel very sick. Boys "say" exam was easy...........they had better be right! Hope J is ok..........Mama how yer doing? Shabs got some spare bags if you need one :o

Goodmorning............just tried to get up and the room is spinning, not what I need! I didn`t touch a drop last night I swear!

Morning girls xx

Trips that sounds awful.....hope you soon feel much better.

Tom has just two GCSE's left to do - both Maths....one today and the last one on Monday. I thought it was about 10am when I woke up and he has to be in school by 8.15...........it was only 6.22 but I read the clock on my phone as 8.22!!! I feel sick now!!

Afternoon All
Trips and Shabs - hope you both feeling better.
Ruby- you sound very stressed, so try and take a little "me" time too
Mama - keep on hanging in there, it seems like a long time to stop in hospital, but in the grand scheme of things, its a drop in the ocean vompared to what you will gain in the end (((hugs))
Hiya Chops

James's wound looks a lot better today, the combination of antibiotics seems to be working well, its still oozing, but no where near as much as before.

We had the boys parents evening last night, what a stressful experience! The teachers were all based in different areas of the school, and the boys had booked 5 minute appointments with the ones we wanted to see. In a very sensible approach they had organised their appointments so they were not supposed to clash, however, every 5 minute appointment over-ran, and it was a real scramble getting between them In the end, we had to split up to get everyone in.
Despite everything that has gone on, both are doing well and meeting or exceeding their targets, James is going to be moved into top set in maths as he has exceeded his target and got a 6c, and the biggest surprise was that Mike's s artwork, especially in clay, is so good he is reaching the highest mark for the subject in the whole year, a 7b . He was never really able to show this ability at Primary, so it was a huge but fantastic shock

Evening ladies.

Bubs - glad the parents evening went well and that your James' wound is getting better.

Shabs - bless you! Hope you are feeling a little more rested today.

Trips - hope you are feeling better. Or safely tucked up in bed being waited on hand and foot.

Mama - here's hoping you are not going too stir crazy and twinlets are still doing well. I second bubs' hang in there.

Chops & ruby. Hope you are both well.

Sorry to hijack thread for non-twin but James...

I was talking to another mum at my twin group Wednesday. There were only the two of us there and she has met James during Easter half term. She too has a James who, like mine, is middle child and attributes much of the problems they have to this. She said her eldest makes sure they get time with patents, the twins naturally take up a lot of time as they are so much younger. So the one in the middle gets overlooked.

I also spoke to preschool about James. Mainly to find out how he was doing and partly to raise a couple of concerns about things he has said about some of the other children and hitting. They have said because he is still at the younger end of their age range, only just turning 3, they won't worry about him yet. But if they can't start getting him to focus on one activity until it is completed, they would think about strategies then. I was quite relieved as he has been very unwilling to go into preschool again, but is fine 5 minutes after I have left and runs to me when I go to pick him up.

I was intending to pop along to the sn group today just to ask their opinion but alas it was not meant to be when another car clipped my mirror and we spent an age sorting that out. A sign maybe?

I'm trying to give him more attention, to stop what I'm doing so he can see I do think what he has to say is important, rather than telling him to go and play. But when he's waking at 4am this morning, 5:30, 5:00 last few days, getting into bed with us and then bouncing all over me. I'm afraid my patience is limited.

We have also upped the ante on house hunting. We saw a perfect house, affordable even. But the landlord hasn't got back to us and it has now been taken off rightmove. It would have been ideal - literally across from a park, masses of solace there for the dc to run around. 4 bedrooms! So instead we have put ourselves on the council housing list. We are rock bottom right now.

Morning. I'm getting a lie-in . The children are still asleep! Well, apart from James. But he has only been up since half 6 and is watching cbeebies on the iPad.

Morning girls xx

Morning...........still feeling the same, its a real pain. The dizziness is awful, head full of catarrh............fed up! Dh has sprung another leak, his own fault as he went of to his allotment y/day, God knows what he was doing. He just won`t learn to let his body heal. Men!! Cloudy and windy..............I sooooo love the Summer

Trips - hope you feel better tomorrow, your H is his own worst enemy, isnt he
Soks - I hope you get some reassurance about James.

Well, broke again after paying yet another bill for the Catalina, which I feel was not essential at the moment, and I have still got my car ( which is enssential! !) to get MOT and tax. I know for a fact it needs at least 2 new tyres, and I am very worried about a noise coming from the drivers side front wheel, hope its a ball joint, and not the drive shaft! I know DH could fix either, but its the time and parts we have to pay for DH has his priorities wrong I am working this weekend, and experiancing massive stress just to keep us afloat, and I am looking at taking a 4th job to pay for his hobby!
I am fed up with adking J and M to tidy up after themselves, and had a bit of a meltfown over the state of the house, it looks like a bomb has hit it, dirty crockery and cutlery left everywhere, dirty (and clean) clothes dropped on the floor, surfaces covered in general crap and rubbish, I am really pissed off as I only cleared and cleaned through yesterday
Massive thunder storms here, cold and damp. I guess summer is over, or did it ever really start??

I just rang my parents. Mum answered. I said 'Will you ask Dad what he would really, really love for Fathers Day because I am struggling to find him something.'

Dad answered....

'The only thing that I would love for Fathers Day is an amazing daughter called Shabbs....Oh hang on a minute I already got my wish come true.'

He isin't usually very sloppy with me but that made me cry xx

Sob.........aw Shabs how lovely is he ? I took a yellow rose to the cemetery today for my Dad, as soon as we parked and I saw my Mums name on the stone I just wanted to bawl. Dad, Matthew and Mum........all together and I miss them all. xx

In bed by 7.30pm after row with dh over dd. Because I dont feel well I bought curry and bits from Tesco, cost a fortune. One son disappeared to a friends for the night, told dh but not me, other son ate half of what I gave him and dd who <strong>said</strong> she was starving picked at it and wasted everything. Dh who suggested curry had a tiny helping...............she just picked and then after 5 mins said "can I go"? Dh said yes. I said I was fed up wasting time and money on food, so he had a real go at me. Shabs...........sorry but a 4 letter word came out <img loading="lazy" class="inline-flex mumsnet-emoji" alt="Shock" src="https://www.mumsnet.com/build/assets/shock-7MJQdU1X.png"> So I came to bed as I get to the stage I dont want to be in the same room as them. When you have been married for almost 35 years and cooked 3 meals a day you get a bit peed orf!!

Annnnd to top it all she is in her room now eating cereal, thinks I can`t hear her

Bubbs you sound as fed up as me have a and a glass of xx

OH FOR FUCKS SAKE TRIPS.....sorry I had to shout it out loud. I wish I could change things for you but I cant. I want to come to your house and shout and swear. Holding you close my friend. Yellow roses?? Oh my word I had them in my wedding boquet and in my Gareth & Matts funeral flowers. They are beautiful flowers.

I love you my dear friend xxx

Aw Shabs. That is so sweet. Your dad is such a great man.

Trips. Hope things are better for you today and you get some apologies.

Mama. Thinking of you. Hoping radio silence is just because you are getting plenty of rest and the twinlets are cooking well.

Bubs. Keep a clean set of crockery for you and leave the others to it? In your situation I'd love to do that but realistically I wouldn't. Am I going to have all this to come? Clothes get scooped up and washed again in this house! Dh was not impressed when he was looking for his jeans and realised they were in the machine. My reasoning was they were in the floor with his dirty socks so assumed they needed washing. If he doesn't bother using the wash basket my next line of attack will be to fold all his clothes up and put them away (even if they are dirty). Since he's complained about the jeans being wearable and he would have put them out if they needed washing.

Chops & ruby. Morning :)

Morning girls xx

Goodmorning girls.............Shabs, you are such a dear and special friend, you understand only too well. xx
Well at least there is a hint of brightness out there, hoping when I get up this awful dizziness has gone, feel like getting out. What plans does everyone have for today?

Trips - I had yellow rose too, and they were in my dads funeral flowers - bitter sweet memories of them here too.
Shabs- what a lovely dad you have
Soks - I have already done the washing thing . I once refused to pick up or wash any clothes that were dropped on the floor, it ended with all three men saying they had no underwear or socks, and I told them if they wanted things washing, to put it in one of 3, yes, 3! laundry baskets in the house, or wash it themselves. It ended with both boys putting on individual washes of less than 1/2 a load on a full hot wash each, and I decided I couldn't continue to afford that!!
We all went out to a pig racing and BBQ event last night (not real pigs btw, but little battery operated ones ) and really enjoyed it. Then it all went pearshaped. We came home and the boys started fighting and rowing (overtired and over excited), them hurting each other and R shouting at both them for fighting, and me for not being able to stop them This all resulted in me losing it as well and saying a few home truths about the way i am feeling lately. The atmosphere this morning you could cut with a knife, I am the "bad guy" in everyone elses books.

Update!! Boys went down shop and came home with "I'm sorry" gifts for me sour cherries, my fav!) and fathers day + I'm sorry gifts for DH, all bought with own money . DH has apologized and said he hadn't realised what an arse he was being towards me, and peace is restored in bubby household!

Good Bubbs because its not fair. All very quiet here, gifts given and kids scarper, looks like its a wander down the road to the annual dog and horse show for me, its in the grounds of Walmer Castle so its quite nice.

Hi all.........dog and horse show was great fun, dogs tangled up everywhere and over sexed horses!!!!!!!
Dh had a very quiet day, not feeling well but won`t admit it.
Shabs you around.............I need a song playing for me.........Clifford T Ward........Gaye............reminds me of someone long ago........er not the one I married