D'y ever wonder when it is going to stop snowing??

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Morning girls xx

School is on thank goodness, but not til 10, and dh is wfh

dodgy spelling "alright with a bit of plaster and paint slapped on"!

Evening girls............what a day Ive had. My dear friend with dementia Hella had to travel to Dorchester today via London. We had her here y/day for 2 hours showing her how to use her mobile phone. At 2pm she phoned me on her mobile in a state she had got off the train after 4 stops as she had left her luggage on the platform at Deal! The station she was at is unmanned, ours is unmanned after 11am, I told her to stay there until I got H to run up to the station to see if her bag was there, it wasnt. She then phoned me back and said a kind lady had taken her to her house and she was putting out the washing!! I begged her to get the next rain back to Deal, but she hung up on me. 1Omins later she phoned again to say she was coming home, she then phones me 1 stop from Deal to say her bag had been found and had been taken to Dover so she was going back for it and would go on to London as planned and would I phone her daughter to say she would be late. Daughter not there so I left a message, this was 3pm. I had three more calls, she was on a train but wasnt sure where! I phoned daughter again, answer phone. At 6pm I got a call from Hella but it was not her mobile. She was at Waterloo and she asked to speak to Anne Peace. I said its me , she got angry and said why wont you let me speak to Anne. I tried to calm her and said she must ask the staff to help her find the next train. She said she wanted Anne, Anne would help her, her phone was out of creditand a kind lady let her use her phone. Then it all went dead. I was in a right state, worried sick about her. At 7pm her daughter finally phoned, she had been to the station and of course she had not turned up at 6.30pm. I told her the whole sorry tale, plus alot of other things I felt she should know. She is worried but says she cannot force her Mum into a home, she herself is moving to Ireland in 2 weeks time to start a new life with a new man. I am dreading it, it is so unfair to Hella she cannot help having dementia, isn`t it cruel? Must sleep........and you Mrs Shabs!! xx

Oh Gawd Trips - that sounds like an hour of my life with my Mum. By the time Dad came home last week I felt like my Mums Alzheimers was catching. I spent ages looking through my bag and sorting it out over and over again like my Mum does. I am going to find out if there are any tests for Alzheimers and/or anything I can do to prevent it. Every female in my Mums side of the family has had the fookin' awful disease that it is!!

It terrifies me. I would prefer to take my own life than to even try and live with it.

Shabs- I have exactly the same tjought as you, every time I am forgetful, I say to R if I get like mum, please help me end it all. its all the mord worrying as her brother hss also been disgnosed with altzheimers too
Trips - has she been found yet? It must be very hard for her daughter, but was she not aware hoe bad things had got?

Bubby I am going to go and have a talk with my lovely GP. There must be some way of screening relatives for it. I need to be here, in fairly sound mind, for my Dan & Tom. My Mum must be living in a time when I was a confident, strong 16/17 year old. Over the last week she has shouted at me, insulted me and got so angry with me. Just like we were all those years ago. Its terrifying.

Morning girls x

that is so sad, Trips. It is such a horrible disease. It was the funeral for our neighbour where I grew up last Mon. I couldn't go, it was too far. She was a lovely lady, the kids really liked her. She was like the little lady who owns Tweety pie But she developed alzheimers, kept wandering the streets, getting increasingly lost. One day she must have been wandering for hours overnight and my mum found her absolutely frozen cold, took her in and called her daughter.

It got to the point where it was just too dangerous, and her daughter took the decision to put her in a care home. She died of a massive heart attack a week later. So sad, but I guess almost a blessing in a way, she was getting so unhappy and confused. She was desperate to go back home, but would have ended up seriously harming herself.

Morning girls xx

Evening girlies. Shabs & Trips, hope today has been a better one loves. Hi Soks, wilderness, chops and Ruby . Not much to say here except we have a 4 legged easter egg thief in our midst. Unpacking the Asda delivery, and put 2 eggs on the table, came back in from the freezer and only one egg visable, but no Staffie, J went down garden, and found in the course of just 5 minutes, she had devoured nearly all a cadburys egg, There was just the box, foil and the 2 cream eggs left in the packet

Happy anniveray shabs!
I was wondering if I could ask advice on teething...
T1 has become beside herself when it comes to feeding in the early evening.....I know it's prob teething as she has rosy cheeks, drools, runny poo, chewing on her hands like mad... The problem is I know she's really hungry but she seems to find its actually painful to suck on the bottle and becomes hysterical! Normally she is pur chilled out twin and is a complete dream baby. Calpol hasn't helped lately----is it normal to find feeding so painful when a baby is teething?
Does anyone think I am misdiagnosing? The reason I ask is because the calpol isnt doing the trick so maybe I'm missing something else?
A

Is it common for teething to affect some babies more at certain times of the day?
Thanks again! Xx

hi Sassy- sounds like she is just having a really bad time of it. Have you things like the freezable teething rings she can chomp on before feeding ti numb her gums, I froze carrot and cucumber sticks and slices of banana too. I also used neldons teething granules, they seemed to work better than bongela on the gums, andhad a calming effect too. If she gets a high fever, shows any other signs of infection or dehydration, or loses a lot of weigh, get her checked out by gp.
J was a particularly bad teether, and used to projectile vomit when teething,.

sp...Nelsons teething granules

Evening. We're all good here. Babies sleeping, after we had sorted out Joshua practising his wrestling moves on Jennifer. Had to bring her down with us until Joshua fell asleep. All he really wanted was to snuggle up to his big sister. But she just does not want him to.

Bigs were relatively good today. Finally got them occupied, Emily dressed as rapunzel and playing with plasticine. James with a new 35 piece jigsaw. Sat happily doing that.

Jen was seen by physio yesterday. She's still at the bottom of her centile for development, but she is 'within normal range' She just needs to start pulling herself up to feet/weight bearing for longer than 3 seconds - she hates it. But happily kneels at the toy box. Her hips are wobbly apparently, but should strengthen as she crawls properly more. She crawls two or three moves forwards then resorts to crazy tummy spider to get there quicker. Joshua apparently is above expected development. But he is very determined as the repeat trips to empty my bookshelf will attest

morning girls x

aww Soks, your post brings back so many memories - mine used to constantly empty the dvd racks and the cd racks! Drove me insane. Our DVD racks are glass too, and dt2 stood on a shelf once and clean snapped it off. Since the dts weren't actually planned we had rather a lot of glass furniture when they were born! Pretty much all been replaced now, after being scratched to death. That is great news for Jen. She will get there!

sassy i would second the teething granules. We never had any luck with teething rings, etc but those granules are good. Hopefully the teeth will erupt soon.

I've been busy working on getting this weight off. 2 stone down now, and I ran my first 10k!

Morning girls xx

Well done Chops with the weight loss - I know how hard that is to do xx

As from tomorrow morning till they go back to school on the 8th April we have Lew at ours....you know, just to add to the 'mix' that is our house. The mix of anxiety, running backwards and forwards to my parents and the general confusion that reigns here!!!! Of course, Lews other Grandma cant have him at all - not even for a few hours. I get that his other Grandad is not well at all but they do manage to look after Lews cousin during the school holidays

:( shabs. that is so unfair, you have so much on at the moment - they must know that.

Ours finish next thursday, not looking forward to it much.

Yes they do love and they both wish there was someone else to share the child care. BUT there's not. To be honest, even though I am dreading it, he brightens the house up - runs amok and never stops chattering. He knows his 'Gee Gee and Pop' are very poorly but I think I will take him down to see them. He will certainly 'stir things up' at theirs and they will love it.

I am just moaning out loud to be honest.....feeling a bit shell shocked with my parents health but really just moaning!

I meant the other GPs must know. Dan and Em are kind of stuck really, aren't they. :( Moan away!

How are your parents doing?

I really 'get' that Ems Dad is very poorly - his GP has said he will not improve and he needs to 'get his affairs in order.' He has multiple problems - including emphasima (wrong spelling) and he is only in his very early 60's. Her Mum is lovely but a ditherer IYKWIM. I would just appreciate a short phone call from them. Just to acknowledge whats going on with me and mine. BUT then I realise that is me being a bit precious and selfish. Em is embarresed by the whole thing and I love her like she was my daughter and so I keep my mouth shut.

My parents? Dad will only eat ice cream - he used to have a good healthy appetite. He says it hurts to eat anything else. Which makes my Mum worry and fret. They are having daily visits from the district nurse and the Mcmillan nurses have also kicked in. They live 10 minutes drive from us but it feels like they live a million miles away. Mum gets very frustrated with me - even if I am not there!! She has been telling my brother how I am a stroppy, bossy, arrogant teenager - which I was about a million years ago. I realise that she has Alzheimers, but it still kind of hurts my feelings and sometimes the whole thing makes me feel like I am loosing my mind.

Oh yes.....my Dad is enjoying his beloved Whisky - not seen him without a little glass of it since he came home from hospital. Yes I know its wrong and he shouldn't but then I think 'what the hell'. To be totally honest I hope it makes his days of pain and illness shorter. Never thought I would say that I hope he passes away but I cant bear to watch his futile fight with the bastard Cancer.

aww, keep going with the whisky! It makes me smile to think of him with his whisky bottles, and I think it is a great attitude, he should enjoy himself where he can.

What about ice cold fruit smoothies? Maybe he can't bear anything hot. Or possibly cold tomato soups (gazpacho style?)

It's so hard but it isn't really your mum talking when she says things like that, it's the bloody Alzheimer's.

Emphysema is nasty, my ex - FIL died from it. But like you say they could acknowledge you a little, and I don't blame you for feeling that way. And poor Em!

Thanks bubby and chops. Justvgot the teething rings and had some boots own granules which hopef will help.
Soks, how old are your babies?
We are just about to move our book shelves upstairs out the way, not that the babies can do much yet at 4 months, but equally I doubt we'll be able to read any of the books for a long time so may as well move out the way!
Just preparing things for solids, still 2 months to go but like to get ready and excited about things way early!

Shabs-I hope the visit of Lew to his grandparents goes well, and he helps cheer things up. I absolutely agree that your dad should have his little comfort of a drop of the hard stuff, esoecialky as he is having suvh difficulty in eating. I bet poor Emma is worried about putting the extra stress on you gor childcare.
Chops - wow - well done, not only on the weight losd, but also on managing the 10k, amazing
Trips- are thingsany better there love
Soks - good news about your 2 little ones, and I'm glad the 2 biggies not that they are that big are a bit better behaved.
Sassy- I hope the teething aids work, and both babes settle.
J is continuing to have a hard time at school, he came home today in tears saying that all his classmates have now said they dont like him M has said its because he is being really annoying, embarrassing and childish at school, and he is bringing it on himself. We have another meeting with the school and a social worker friday, do we will discuss it again then. Trouble is he is playing up here again, and, to be honest, he is being a rude, mouthy argumentative little git
R is also really under the weather, and finding dealing with J a real trial.

Have been screamed at again by my brother tonight. He said that our parents can claim money for a carer and that I should do it and get the money. I tried to explain that I would do it but didn't want paying. Told him that IF I accepted the carers allowance it would mess up our current benefits and we would have to pay rent/council tax etc if I accepted more benefits. That there is a limit to how much money you can claim when you are on benefits. He went berserk at me and slammed the phone down????

He texted some choice words that said f**k your benefits, this is my mum and dad we are talking about. Go to work like I do!!' So now we are getting nearer to the truth of his feelings. He also hates people being overweight so I am expecting the word 'fat' to fall out of his mouth to me any time now.

Oh so very childish. I just said I didn't want paying for something that I felt was my natural 'job' - repaying my parents for all their care and nurturing they have given to me.'

Has made me think about Gareth & Matthew a lot and the longing to see them again has been overwhelming.

Bad night but tomorrow is another day....so I will wake up (if I manage to sleep) and pin on my elanor Rigby face....you know (as the song goes) 'Elanor Rigby picks up her face that she keeps in a jar by the door, who is it for????' Life is shite xxx

What a bloody heartless "b" your brother is, I feel so on your behalf. Its bad enough getting your head around living with the "c" word, I know that. Have the Mac nurse spoke though about attendance allowance for both your parents, they should both get the higher amount, that wont affect you or any benefits they already get, its not means tested. As for Dad eating, I would say let him eat what he fancies, even if its icecream all day. When dk was on trial chemo he just couldnt look at food for months, but he liked icecream and could eat chocolate all day..............they told him to go for it! My friend with the dementia is travelling back form Dorset tomorrow, I am only hoping her daughter took my advice and has asked for assistance for her, it was terrible on Mon. Had a nice cheery time with my tiny tigers today, always guranteed to make me smile and feel good :)

Its going to be discussed tomorrow Trips....I wont be going to the discussion - my knob of a brother has got it sorted!! I dont care if they give me a million pounds and say that we can keep our benefits I WILL NOT BE PAID FOR LOOKING AFTER MY PARENTS!! When we first went onto benefits we had to wait 12 FOOKIN' weeks for our money....we were 12 weeks behind with our rent etc etc etc. It all finally got sorted out BUT we had a few nights just before our benefits went into the bank when the fridge/freezer was empty and I fed the family using tins of stuff and lots of imagination AND I DIDNT FECKIN' EAT!!! Im so sad and so angry....his argument is about money and mine isin't!!!!! The other day I walked to my parents house because we didnt have enough money for busfare.....it took me about 90 minutes to get there but I didn't ask him or my parents for the money - my lack of finances...my problem!!!!!!! I hate the way he makes me feel like I am a lesser human being than him. He has no idea what I have experienced in my life - he has no idea how I have struggled to survive and, worse than anything, he doesnt care