Happy Valentine's back to All, DH has redeamed himself, comic card (boys don't understand it, I roared with laughter) chocs and flowers, and a little box for both boys from us, I usually do this, but hadn't been able to this year, and he actually thought to do it for himself!
Very useful meeting this morning with SS and school. They have agreed we need help and are going to provide 1 2 1 councelling for both boys, each to concentrate on the different issues they each have.
J is also going to be provided with a youth support worker, and they are aranging some family therapy. Also, DH actually asked himself what he could do when either DS, but especially J kicks off , and he has been told to do what I always say, which is walk away rather than shout back, calm himself down , then come back when calm and deal with problem. Also been told to ignore 2ndary bad behaviour, ie, when child has behaved badly, and is told to get out of the room, if they shove over a chair or huff and puff, ignore that at the time, but talk about it later. I have said this, but now someone different and in authority has said the same, so we'll see how it goes.
The school had noted that J seems to have difficulty in maintaining friendships, and also he is prone to "exaggeration and embellishment" is a lying little sod if things not going his way.
I have spoken with both boys and told them what will be happening, and they seem happy with outcomes. Also spoken to J quietly to try and finally get to the bottom of this "exaggerating" problem, He says he is scared of getting in trouble, and tries to get out of it, but, as I said tonight, 1 lie leads to 2, then to 4 etc, and it is the lying about things when we know the truth that really upsets us,