D'ya ever wonder where all the other mums of multiples are?

[bubby64]

....or have we scared them all off with our inane chatter and multple moans!

Hi All - Drums were ok, just a programme problem as I thought!
Pictures on profile now.
Soks Like Chops Jack, my Mike has hypermobile joints too, and took longer to get going than James, but got there in the end! You sound like you have a great midwife, wish i had had the same.
Trips sounds too hectic for me, I must admit, I prefer mooching around the older town near us (Bury St Edmunds) rather than big malls.

Morning girls xx

morning,
i have been following your chats - nice to see everyone so festive ! - and I thought I'd check in today. 2 and a half weeks with new twins and still v challenging, but at least got some sleep the last day (have a new system where I go to sleep at 7.30pm til 9.30pm before night-time dramas).
I was wondering what you thought of a comment my HV made last week. I was meeting her for the first time at home and I explained how exhausted I was, being shellshocked by the time it takes to care for twins and how little sleep you have to get by on. She has asked me to see GP to discuss anti-depressants.
I was disappointed by this, and thought maybe she was covering her own back by making sure she advised this. I think feeling exhausted and shell-shocked is pretty normal after 1.5 weeks of having twins and following severe blood loss ibn hospital. I just wanted someoneto moan to, but she's made me doubt my self by making the comment about being depressed!
Anyway, registering the twins at the GPs today so will meet him then and discuss it anyway, but still feel slightly uncomfortable about it all! Defo don't want anti-depressants, maybe just some reassurance :-))
Anyway, hipe you are all getting into the spirit of xmas. We had a little photo with our babies with santa in his grotto - obviously more for our beenfit than theirs (they were aslkeep!) but was nice to do something normal and xmassy!
xx

ditto
thanks rubyrubyruby

Morning girls xx

No love - was up at half 6 as usual - The Hairy face fooker (Richard Branson) and his team of engineers have been doing 'essential maintenance' in our area. Everything went off about half 7 this morning and has just come back on!!!

spacegirl I agree with ruby, she was covering her back. Did she actually go through the questionaire designed to see if you are at risk of depression, or just make her comment on what you said? Baby blues hit about now anyway, and you will be very tired and overwhelmed with it all, so no wonder you are a little down,but you dont soundn clinically depressed. She is just another of the usless HV that are around I guess.
Snowing here this morning, boys hoped for a snowday, but they just delayed school start until 10am, so they got a bit of a relaxing morning, but not the whole day as hoped!
shabs - our local electricity board has just sent us advance notice of "interupted supply" for the 18th December! trust them to schedual maitenance during the lead up to Christmas!!

afternoon girls

No one should try to diagnose over the net, but sassy, I agree with the others, you don't sound depressed to me at all, twin babies is just bloody hard work, and the hormones are twice as bad! I think you are doing great, just take it a day at a time.

The dts attend a church school, even though they are Hindu - no choice in the matter around here, so yesterday i had to request that they be excused from the usual xmas church service.

In the email I was told -

'We are a church school so the good news of Jesus? birth will be expressed in readings and carols. Pupils will share music, art and dance.'

AIBU to mention that she might be a couple of thousand years late with that good news?

She granted them an afternoon off anyhow.

I do wish education was mandatorily secular.

Where is it snowing chops?
thanks all for support re: HV
bubby64 she didn't go through the questionnaire. But I know the one you mean as the GP talked me through it later this morning. Its fine - as it showed I am just anxious about all the new crazy life with twins, and not depressed in a clinical sense. the GP is a nice man, talked about his own kiddies who are small and how tiring it is with them ...though obviously not like it is with twins!!
Well just about to enjoy a steak (trying to boost iron levels!) before i pop off to bed.
Hope you all have a good evening and looking forward to your weekends
xxx

Glad the gp visit went well.

Think it was rubes that said about snow, and that would be Cambridge. Just sleet and frost here (Ascot), though the kids got prematurely excited when they saw a white garden this morning!

SNOW SNOW SNOW SNOW SNOW SNOW SNOW SNOW SNOW SNOW SNOW

dy like my snowflakes? Went up to my Tiny Tigers this morning and it was bedlam! The student teacher was being observed and I was her assistant! We made real bread rolls, I was covered in flour, we had a birthday boy who was hyper and then it snowed..............and snowed.................and snowed......everything was abandoned as they all rushed to the windows...........oh the excitement! As they werent allowed out at playtime :( they watched a video.............yep, The Snowman:) Made me feel Christmassy

Spacegirl feel very and what a thing to say. To even have time to pop in here is amazing............grrr what do they know??

Spacegirl......it was thick snow here in Deal nr Dover!

Really Rubes, what channel?

Sassy I remember being stuck in the house when my twins were born - they arrived on the 28th December when I was 38 weeks pregnant....they had only been diagnosed as 2 babies 10 days before they arrived!!!

Gareth had serious multiple heart problems.....he was at our local childrens hospital for two weeks and when he finally came home he was just 3lbs 15 (had been 4.1 at birth) I was told not to take them out.

Finally....the big day arrived to go on our first outing - would probably have been at the end of February. We walked to our local town (my mum was with me) everybody kept stopping to have a peek at them. I overheard one person say 'Oh my word that young girl (I was 25) looks so very tired...I wouldn't wish twins on my worst enemy.'

I dragged my Mum to the car park and just sobbed. I remember saying to her 'I dont exist anymore...every part of me is sore, I dont like these kids and if someone came and wanted to adopt them I would give them away in a heartbeat

In my opinion - you are a totally normal multiple mummy xxx

Morning girls xx

shabba how old are your twins now? do you feel the special bonding now after many months/years being their mummy?

Sassy - They will be 31 this year - but, very sadly, Gareth died from congenital heart abnormalities when he was almost 8 months old.

Once we got into a routine I enjoyed being a twin Mum.....they were very different personalities which totally complimented each other. Its a very special job being a Mum to one baby but to have a multiple birth is amazing. Gareths twin brother, Danny, is an amazing man - a great husband and a fantastic Daddy.

I do think that the routine thing is vital though. xxxx

Sassy a picture of my 4 year old grandson is on my profile!!! He is barking mad LOL....ginger curls and a teenage attitude already

Hi All. Chops do they learn about other religions at all in your boys school, I know my 2 did at primary, they celebrated divali(sp?), and muslim celebrations as well as chinese, islam, and jewish festivals.
Just had a call from carers to say mum was on the floor, she had cut her head, but paramedics said no broken bones, but her legs are swollen and it looks like she has cellulitis, so they have called the GP out to her. I was about to drop everything and leave work, when she called and said DB1 was going over!!! What a shock, the DB's normally leave everything like this to me to sort out!!.
When I saw mum yesterday, she was more confused, had forgoten how to spell M's name, and kept falling asleep, but I know kick myself, as I didnt think about the fact she might have an infection (She was wearing trousers, so didnt see her legs), I just thought she was having a bad day with the alzheimers

aww bubby, it must be so hard, you couldn't have known. Hope she is on the mend soon.

They spend 90% of the time learning christianity in the greatest detail whilst the other religions are briefly glossed over. Though they do a visit to a mandir and to a synagogue which is quite good.

Hope she is soon feeling better Bubby. Alzhaimers is a revolting thing......it feels like my Mum is fading away even though most days she is OK (thanks to her tablets) xxxx

Tom has been 'open-air' ice skating in central Manchester....yep 'open air' in one of the wettest parts of the bloody country!!! Great idea school - take them to the most open part of Manchester and get the buggers wet!!! It has snowed all morning and then rained since lunch time. Everything he has worn today (including 2 coats) is in the washer. He had a great time - bloody kids, bloody teenagers, bloody rain, bloody freezing, bloody had enough AND he has homework to do now - Gawd give me strength!!