More children after twins?

[HattieHarriet]

Hi everyone. Would appreciate any views/experiences on this

My b/g twins are 14 months old. My husband and I said very early on that we wanted to stick with just the 2 children as:

I had hyperemesis throughout the whole of my pregnancy (including staying overnight on a drip etc 3 times). I basically hated most of being pregnant and really struggled with the sickness

I had a C-Section which ended up being abit of a horrible experience for me (epidural didn't take properly) and lost a fair bit of blood- I don't look back on it very well!

We had originally wanted 2 children.

I've become a SAHM due to cost of childcare and I'm planning on going back to uni, either to do postgrad or something completely different

AND.....

The possibility of having twins again! (was told have a higher chance as I have twins in my family and I'm in my 20's)

BUT

I feel a little bit sad I guess, only experiencing pregnancy (however bad) and that newborn stage once. We didn't have the easiest of times when they were younger, with bad colic that lasted for months and both very poor sleepers. My husband and I were like zombies for a long time! Because of me not wanting to put my career on hold any longer, we would have to try again sooner rather than later.

I guess we're 90% sure we're not going to try for anymore children (I have even sold or given alot of baby things away).... I would love to know how many of you went on to have anymore children after twins, how you decided, how you coped and any experiences please.

I can empathise with this. I had a not great pregnancy, and premature delivery with emcs under ga. For a few months after I had an almost physical need to be pregnant and give birth again, it was like my body knew I'd missed out on the third trimester and been stopped halfway through labour and needed to finish the job! It kicked in very early too - my son was in intensive care and hadn't even been named but I remember thinking 'we'll use that name next time'. Also I missed out in the early newborn stages, struggled with bf, plus if course the while twin factor.

9 months down the line I feel a bit differently. my body is starting to feel like mine again, sleep is improving, and I feel more like 'me'.

Ultimately I feel like wanting another baby would be quite selfish. The Dts have each other so don't 'need' a sibling. I would worry if they were a singleton that they'd never have the same bond as the Dts, and I'd worry I'd they were twins that it might finish me and dh off! Never say never though (which is not what I say at baby group, so I wouldn't believe those comments!)

I have a 2 yo and 11 week old ID twins. After the birth I was pretty much thinking "never again!" because it had been such a long hard slog being pregnant - hated pretty much all of it. However, now I'm recovered and have mostly forgotten blanked out due to serious trauma the feeling of being pregnant, I'm now thinking that yes I would like to have one more child.

For me it's not the baby thing though. I don't like the baby stage, it's pretty dull (they can't do much except eat, sleep and poo), it's dreadfully hard work, and of course there's the matter of hardly any sleep. But I'm from a big family myself (9 kids) and I really value children as they get older, and would love to have 4 kids ultimately, i.e. when they're grown up. Plus, we'd like to try for a girl, as we have 3 boys!

The thing is, for us, having another child after our twins would just be a breeze. Even if they were really awkward it would NOT be worse than my toddler (terrible feeder, made first 7 months dreadful) or the effort of twins! (Despite having ID twins there are also twins in the family so there's a chance I could have twins again, but I'm blanking that out...)

Still not sure I could cope with another pregnancy, but there we go. It'll be a few years before we have another anyway, I should think!!!

Update as promised. Had my scan and there is a one healthy baby, wriggling around :)