Life with twins 3

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Like some sort of film sequel, or a royal dynasty, welcome to Life with twins III, a thread for general discussions and sharing experiences of having (or expecting) twins.

Thanks, I do keep popping back!! I'll pass it on when I next Speak to her, I feel so sorry for her siblings and parents as they are all exhausted too.

She's had twins but everyone is loosing sleep as she can't cope, they are all camping out sofas and getting stressed.

You guys rock, one was hard enough!!

I would love to go Centreparcs the ad makes everything look so dreamy and relaxing. Isn't it just one great big park with a cabin or two?

I've seen a few twin mums on my travels but they never stop to say hi, we just smile a sort of "yes I know we've both got twins but we also know we're both far too busy for idle chit chat about it!" and walk on

QOD no offence intended but if she really can't cope she really shouldn't have anymore although I suspect having twins has put her right off the thought!

Has she seen social services or HV for help?

I know and when her sister (who I am closer too infact) heard her telling someone they might have more . . . . She nearly cried!!

maybe she is getting too much help from others! If she really can't see the situation then maybe people need to step back and let her cope alone! It can be done, many single mothers have done it too!

I don't think she's asked for help but she is in the medical field herself!

I will see what comes up next time we speak and pass n your sage advise to her sis.

Thanks lots

Fox I was wondering where you had got to!

Chesticles at Center parcs, I will have to check it out, in dire need of a change of scenery.

Mum yes to the knowing looks between twin mums

Hello, just popping in quickly. Our little cherubs are one year old now! and still not crawling or standing with only one tooth between them It is very nostalgic looking back over that year, as they were so so tiny when they came and now you'd never know!

I've made the return to work this week but it's been hijacked almost immediately by them getting sticky eyes and the nursery requiring me to keep them at home. Very very irritating, the eyes really don't look that bad and they clearly picked it up there anyway! hippy, how has your return been?

Polka how is the sleeping situation? Did you ever do sleep boot camp and if so how did you get on? Do try going to a playgroup, it seems like a mammoth effort in advance but getting out and speaking to others does you all good. Make sure you grab someone to give you hand getting them in and out of the buggy though - in my experience people don't tend to volunteer so you have to demand it!

Mumofone you are doing so well still to be bfing and managing so much on your own! Sounds as though you enjoy it too. I have to say, I feel a bit like wonder woman sometimes when I hear of the amount of help others get with a singleton and I think we should all quietly applaud ourselves once in a while for achieving what we do. Will be interesting to see how good or otherwise I'll be at work now I have so much more on my plate at home but so far I think it's going to be nice to have the mixture of roles.

Hi Cerubina !
I'm doing well so far, not sure how things will be once they get past 3...if they turn out anything like DD I'll put them all up for adoption!

The boys are a joy but DD is at a difficult stage atm, head strong and defiant...all my own fault

Well back to the housework...

Hi there, not been here before (site I mean) however I do have 8 year old twins and could do with some advice please.

I managed the early years with relative ease and the logistics with minimal disruption. However, I now have inseperable identicles which appear to be disrupting each others ability to form their own identities and shun the rest of the world as 'interferers' when we try to introduce anything new.

In addition they have very different personalities with one being extremely explosive and the other stubborn and introvert. The issues are affecting home and school and have an impact on our older son who is 15.

Anyone got any ideas please?

Well, hello everybody! We've just had a birthday, with a cake with a "1" on it and everything! Mine are very close in age to yours Cerub, I think. They do crawl, and can stand with a lot of support - DD is obsessed with climbing up things, and DS got a Little Tikes plastic rocking horse for his birthday (for the garden in the summer) which he likes to rock on ALL THE TIME. DS has four teeth and DD has none at all... They're just more fun all the time - very keen on books at the moment, and copying the noises the animals in stories make (like roaring and quacking).

QOD I found it really hard going when they were little, especially as DD didn't sleep through till 10 months. I really didn't think I could cope, but I did. Totally agree with what everyone else says - routine is the ONLY way through it, head down, grit teeth, get on with it. And yes, do the same thing at the same time with them both, whether they like it or not! It does pass, and it does get waaaaaay easier and more enjoyable.

DS has decided he's not a baby any more, and has given up bottles . On his birthday, no less! Went from three a day to refusing every time I offer. Bit worried he's dropped all that milk at once, but he's a big boy and does have milk in a cup with his snacks, porridge for breakfast, and he loves yogurt and fromage frais, custard etc. Got to get my head round thinking about him like a child instead of a tiny baby. DD is still quite small for her age so I'm keen to keep her on bottles of formula as long as she wants them (along with her three meals a day - she's a good eater!).

Polka, was it you asking about food? I can't remember what mine ate a few months ago but I do know they're constantly going through crazes and phases - DD refused breakfast all last week (I think she wanted an espresso and a cigarette, actually), but this week she's as good as gold with it again. They're mad about homemade hummus just now - I can tell when they want it because they give the HARD STARE at the fridge till I say "is it hummus?" and they jump for joy. And anything cut into tiny pieces they can pick up between finger and thumb (you'd be surprised what you can get into them like that - scrambled egg works if you cook it dry enough!).

Hi roddersb sorry my twins are only a year so I can't help but I do know where you can ask, on this very place but on the other twin thread OR better still you can make a whole new thread with your question! (sorry I couldn't be of more help)

fox your DTs sound adorable, I haven't actually met and sat with anyone else's DTs at all so can only go by my own but I kinda would like to see other twins too.

I have been stressing about how little my twins eat and drink (except milk, although it's a struggle getting it into DS sometimes)
I took DS to the doctors yesterday as he has a virus which I thought was getting worse. The doctor is concerned about him becoming dehydrated as he has been refusing water or juice for the past few days. He shaving milk but she said he may have to go on a drip if this continues. He has had a little from his cup with the lid off, had already tried other cups etc and she said to try a straw. DD isn't much better, although she has used her cup a little bit more today. They also are both AWFUL with their food now- really struggle to get any decent amount of solids in them (DS will scoff anything fruity down though) DH panics about it all as well

I'm seeing HV next week but I;m really not sure what she'll suggest.

Cerub we've been crap with the sleep thing and have them in bed with us full time. We are at least getting some decent sleep this way and they, of course love it, but it will not be forever...

I really need wine but can't because of flippin co-sleeping. ARGH!

roddersb are your twins in the same class at school? Do they have shared/seperate friendships?

Oh poor you Polka
Have you tried giving them a cup that looks like yours? Maybe pretend to drink from it first and then they will want to?

The whole food thing is such a stress, mine are breastfeeding to sleep so I'm also co sleeping and as you said fox, it won't be for long. I use tommee tippee 4m+ beakers, they like it because it has handles but they don't drink much.

DH is doing my nut in, he's home now because he just finished his last week of work before he works from home but already he's started to irritate me! He has no idea of the system I have with DTs or how I have to do things because I'm alone with them and DD yet he acts as though I could be doing more around the house! Seriously it's a case of feed and attend to DCs or clean the house...
Men are so stupid sometimes.

I want too Fox!

I do find whenever DH has days off from work my routine goes out of the window. The twins seem to play u to the fact daddy is home!

I have tried and also from a plastic bottle which they love to drench themselves shake about. I just hope it's his cold and teething, but he has been off food for a while now- is very inconsistent in how much they will have.

I have lovely bottles of wine staring at me. This is the worst thing about co-sleeping. I used to love the occasional few times a week glass of rose in the evening

I am looking for inspirations for boy/girl nursery ideas (as have just moved)- any thoughts anyone? Or please tell me about your nursery (any gender!)

My boys know that daddy will pick them up even if they're playing happily. They just have to squeak and he comes running!

He annoyed me today because whilst he was in the bathroom I had to change their nappies, put Baby A in the cot so he cried, I continued to change Baby Gs nappy, DH comes in and says "why did you leave him crying?" why? I dunno maybe because I'm not an octopus and can't physically change a nappy and pick up another baby?
'sigh

I have had similar- he/she is crying because you have picked up the other one blah blah. They always seem more demanding when he is home (although they are both very demanding at the mo anyway)

I was looking at some of their old tiny clothes ysterday and felt a bit sad that I don't feel I remember as much as I should? I feel the first 6 months at least is a total blur and that I just didn't always get time to appreciate them. I keep saying to DH that one day we will look back and really miss all of this (we're not planning on having any more children)

Oh don't feel guilty, from what I've read on here no one remembers the early days!!
I will definitely miss the euphoria (sp?) in the early days, the whole world could have collapsed and I'd still be sitting on the sofa bfing boys on cloud 9

No more for us either but I don't think I'll be feeling broody anytime soon! or ever

I too was recently sorting through their old clothes, it just got smaller and smaller til I got to their little newborn coats soooo cute!
I still see them as my tiny babies tbh poor little guys will soon be running away from me saying "Your soo embarrassing mum!"

Today has been interesting, Baby G is literally crawling everywhere as soon as his bum touches the ground! And when I feeding him he decided to try and stand up in bed! Right little fidgets they are

How is everyone else?

Hello everyone (or, er, Mumof1plustwins)

Yes to little fidgets. It is getting so hard to dress them as they just want to escape (plus they seem to love being naked so hate having clothes put on!)

Well, we had the HV check and everything is good. She did say thought that we should be cutting right back on the milk now and only having an evening bottle.... oops.

Lovely and sunny here, only wish I could appreciate the sunshine but have period pains from HELL and feel crap. Luckily twins are napping nearby thus allowing me to stretch out with my feet up and mumsnet

What has everyone been up to?

Threads gone quiet again!

No periods for me (yay!)

I actually see no point in having periods seeing as I won't be having anymore kids - wish there was a way to turn them off

Have you managed to get out more with other mums yet?

I have always suspected that if it were men who had put up with periods they would somehow have done away with them years ago

I am going to 2 groups next week (but with a friend) so hoping I will enjoy those. Happy the weather is sometimes picking up now though as I got out a lot more in the summer. We live within walking distance to some lovely woods so hoping to do more walks up there to help me get fit although I don't go on my own as I am a wuss and may get murdered don't you know

How are your twinnies doing?

@ being a wuss

I can't wait for my boys to reach 15, if they take after their dad they be about 5"6 an look 18 free bodyguards which I need being only 5"1!

They've put on some weight so no worries there and whatever they pick at I supplement with yoghurts or porridge.

They crawl everywhere now, next step walking! I'll have to buy those twin reins soon I guess...

how are yours re eating?

It will be great having 2 strapping lads

Mine are embracing anything they can eat themselves and taking porridge,yoghurt etc from the spoon. The HV said they are doing well as putting on weight (I was worried this, but have put a couple of pounds on in the last 3 months or so) DS is 75th centile for weight and DD 50th, which is the highest she has ever been (was under 5 pounds at birth) but I had to explain that they are still drinking a fair bit of milk, although it is around what I read they should get. My HV always seems eager to move on from milk??