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Muslim women married to english converts

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beeny · 10/06/2008 21:27

Just wondered if there were any muslim women married to muslim converts

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Pomegranate · 13/06/2008 20:11

Hello

I am also married to a Muslim convert, and I have just had my fourth baby!!.

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beeny · 13/06/2008 20:55

Nice to get message how did you two meet.Tell me story in detail,please

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Pomegranate · 13/06/2008 22:56

Will let you know, busy with a demanding baby.

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beeny · 14/06/2008 08:34

Sorry should have said congrats you are very brave am thinking about having number 2

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Pomegranate · 17/06/2008 12:33

Beeny

Sorry for not being on, very, very busy with 4 children, as you can imagine.

You wanted to know how I met my husband, well here is a shortish version.

We have been married for 15 years' now, and unfortunately, throughout our married life, have suffered appalling racism, Islamaphobia, and, sadly our children have suffered terribly as well.

I met my husband at work, and he was always interested in Inslam, he converted very soon afterwards, and he does say to me that coming to Islam was the making of him. He turned his whole life around. He is such a good Muslim, and he has given up so much for me, and sadly he has suffered terribly as well.

Unfortunately, my parents disowned me, the whole community disowned me, and I was called every name under the sun.

These stupid sad people. didn't know their own religion, to shun us like that. If it wasn't for Islam and each other, I don't think that we would coped.

We now have 4 children, still suffer from racism etc., but, what do you do , We just put with it now, I would love to move away, particulary London, but like everyone else cannot afford the house prices.

Well, this is a very short version, keep in touch.

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beeny · 17/06/2008 12:58

So sorry to hear what you went through.We live in north yorkshire.My parents had already died before i met dh and had been introduced to other men who had said im muslim but drink and not bothered about halal meat.dh told me he liked me told him we cldnt date.We are both criminal lawyers so people cldnt understand how i had not had lots of boyfriends.Only had pronblems from women at work.He doesnt drink eats halal meat and prays (not all the time) but i cant really complain would love to get updates when you get the time.

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Pomegranate · 17/06/2008 13:39

Beeny

Lovely to hear from you.

Nice to hear your read your story, a bit different from mine!!!

My husband and I are both civil servants, and I am currently on a 2 yer career break, (ater working full-time for 16 years'). Insh'allah, after 2 years, I plan to go back to education to study Nursing or Midwifery.

My husband is a practising Muslim, he prays 5 times a day, work are more than happy to provide a prayer room etc., He has also performed the Hajj and Umrah.

It has been a constant struggle, but, as a result of this, we are both stronger people, and we try to instill that into our children, who, at times do find it hard, especially, when asked by other children.

Better go now, before the baby wakes up.

Take Care

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beeny · 17/06/2008 20:15

Who have you suffered racism from

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Pomegranate · 17/06/2008 20:28

Most of the time, it is people of Asian origin (Pakistani), and some caucasian people, But, sadly, Asian people have been the worst .

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beeny · 17/06/2008 21:07

That is so pathetic given that a lot of professional muslim people i know do all
sorts.I bizarely only had hassle from women one of them was very keen on my husband.I think girls at work thought i would be marrying a greasy asian guy.

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Pomegranate · 17/06/2008 21:36

It is so sad, The sheer hypocrisy of the Asian communities, never ceases to amaze me.

Beeny, would like to keep intouch outwith Mumsnet. Let me know

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beeny · 17/06/2008 21:39

i would love to keep in touch without mumsnet
what do we do?

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Pomegranate · 17/06/2008 22:32

I am not sure Beeny, I will need to find out. First time posts for me in mumsnet.

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beeny · 17/06/2008 22:35

Have only been doing about 2 weeks when had horrific throat infection.

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Pomegranate · 19/06/2008 08:34

Beeny

How are you today? Probably busy getting ready for work. Your work must be very interesting.

How old is your little one. My children are aged 12 years' 10 years', 5 years', and the baby who is 12 weeks'. They are all girls, (yes, unfortunately, I have had so many comments regarding the fact that I have all girls). We are so very blessed having them.

I am taking the baby today for her immunisations, I am dreading it, as last time, she had a very bad reaction to them.

Hopefully, insh'allah, she should be okay.

Keep in touch.

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beeny · 20/06/2008 21:52

Gosh you must have your hands full.My little girl is nearly 2.My work is interesting not many asian women in the north who are senior criminal barristers really missed my male collegues when i was off work.Hope injections went well.I wasnt at work today like to have a good tidy on fridays.

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Pomegranate · 20/06/2008 22:58

Beeny

Hello Again

You must be really clever. I am so glad, that I am on a career break of 2 years', working full-time with a young family is very stressful. I was constantly busy all the time. I am so glad that I am out of the office politics.

Yes, sometimes, you don't get a minute to yourselve, but its all worth it. The older two are a good help.

The baby was fine with her injections. Just 2 more lots to go with this one. Then thats her until she is 15 months.'

Beeny, if you want, I can give you my e-mail address, and keep in touch via that. Let me know

Take Care

PussinJimmyChoos · 20/06/2008 23:02

I'm an English convert married to an Arab Muslim...don't fit the thread title really but had to pop in and offer my salaams

Pomegranate · 20/06/2008 23:03

Pussin Jimmy Shoos

Salaams to you

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PussinJimmyChoos · 20/06/2008 23:04

Sorry to hear your husband suffered Islamaphobia

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beeny · 21/06/2008 22:48

Hi Pussin Jimmy Choos nice to hear from you.I am very nosey and would love to hear your background.

Hi pomegranate,glad you well would like your email.

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madness · 22/06/2008 13:34

well, other way round here, married to "Muslim " dh, but who doesn't really believe in any religion. Despite that I had to convert to Islam, although I don't believe in any religion either, just for the sake of his family. His sister wouldn't talk to me, except to interrogate me about Islamic pillars. They don't live in the UK, otherwise we/marriage wouldn't have survived.

PussinJimmyChoos · 22/06/2008 19:57

Beeny - am English born and met my Arab DH while at Uni. We fell in love and decided to get married in secret two weeks after we decided to get together!

Fast forward 10 years and we now have a lovely two year old DS (Ill Hamdu Illah) and I converted to Islam about 4 years ago....had been reading a lot about it and one day it hit me that I did not want to die without being Muslim so I took the Sha'haddah right at my desk under my breath and then text DH and said Guess what? I'm Muslim now!

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beeny · 23/06/2008 19:58

Madness i suspect your dhs family are asian (me too) most of them think of nothing of ramming religion down peoples throats dont realise it has opposite effect.PJChoos your story is very interesting.Its a nice story as you were allowed to make decision in own time.

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bateeha24 · 26/09/2008 01:09

salam alaykum , can i join in ?
im portuguese been married for a year with an egyptian
man and expecting our 1st child

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