Mixed Race Hair

[KatieMac]

If I start it here they can move it to the right place (If they decide to start a topic (& ever decide what to call it))

where do I start......

Gosh I started this all those years ago

DD's hair is lovely atm, I use that Aussie shampoo, conditioner & spray - it is really nice - her hair feels lovely and it isn't expensive

Thank You Katymac for doing so!

I'm mother of 3 DD's (learned it..!) from Finland and it's difficult to find both products and experience from other mums here. I just found this and studied the looong loong thread through, learned a lot and found very good new netshops.

So far I've been fan of www.mariposa-import.com, especially Curly-Q's, Qhemet, Oyin and Fuzzy Duck -products. Unfortunately, many of my favourites has been sold out for long time. But now I can try new one's I found through here!

girls,
for about 18mths now i have just been using conditioner to wash dd's hair with.

i was told that any type of shampoo would dry it out and cause it to get matted, so i started to wash it with conditioner only.

her hair is in excellent condition and rarely gets matted anymore.
it does tangle of course when she has been sleeping on it, but no way near as bad.

i would use a mild shampoo only if her hair had gotten very dirty from playing etc.

what i do is wet it in the bath, cover with conditioner and wash it.
then put in more conditioner and brush it while it' in.

i use a brush i got in boots called "airheadz" and it's specfically for curly hair.
it's excellent.

then i rinse her hair and comb it again when it's been patted dry with a towel.

i usually plait it up then, or if im leaving it down i rub some conditioner through it in the same way you'd use hairgel.

when i want to tidy it between washes i spritz it with a soloution i have made.
it consists of cooled boiled water, a few drops of either tea tree oil or lavendar oil, and a few drops of her conditioner.

doing her hair this way really works for me and it looks great.

for the kids skin i have found a lotion called "lipikar" by "la roche posey".
it's the best cream i have found, and believe me when i say i have been through hundreds of them!!

You don't need to get to an Afro hair shop if you've got the internet!

Can I recommend Organic Root Stimulator, Olive Oil Nourishing Sheen Spray - you can get it from Amazon! See tinyurl.com/yrap28
DD loves it and it comes in a really big can. The cream's quite good too.

Hi everyone

This might sound like a strange silly question to ask but here goes. My baby is 4 months old and has fair straight hair, but his dad is black carribean, is this normal? i would have thought his hair would at least be curly, or does it go curly when they get older. In other words im trying to say "do all mixed raced babies have curly hair"?

My answers would be: yes it can go from straight to very curly later on (my DDs' did); but no they don't all have curly hair in the end

Anyone have texturised hair? Hello out there. I'm mixed race and have texturised hair in a short bob. It's more gentle than relaxing but I can manage it more easily than when it's natural (and no, I'm not a self-deluding victim of the Empire, I just can't fight the frizz). Problem is, I find it hard to find good products as many are for curly perms and very greasy. Anyone else have a similar experience or products to recommend? Do you ever blow dry texturised hair?

Phew! Thanks franch, that was really bugging me cheers for clearing the issue up

my lil girl is almost ten month old and her hair tangles really bad really easy and is always looking really dry. i asked what i could use on her hair in a shop in nottingham and a woman told me not to use anything n her hair till she was 1, but to stop it being as out of control told me to use soft n precious nursery jelly. thats not working for her hair anymore any advice on what i can try, i have tried baby oil and olive oil leave in conditioners but nothing seems to be working?????????? HELP!! plz!

See my post of 24 Sept above lea - get some Elasta QP - I really can't see what harm it can do to a 10mo

thanks franch will give it a go! :0 and unsure 1 my other lil girl is 21 month old and her hair just like mine thick n straight their dad even made me have dna cos he thought she wasnt his!

got elasta qp on tuesday her hair loads easier to comb now! thanks!

hooray! spread the word!!

They should be giving me commission ...

Hello, I am Kay a 23 years old hairdresser...i just specialise in european and mixed textured hair, i do cornrows, extensions, braids and twists, please check out my profile page for more details.

HELP!

Hi i wonder if anyone can help me out here again. Im not so sure if my baby is mixed race. you see there is a possibility of two different fathers, one is black carabean and the other is white british. My child is 5 months old and has quite light skin, kind of olive skinned like me, in fact he looks lighter then me. He also has straight blonde hair and grey/light brown eyes. (i have brown eyes and the white guy has blue). the soles of his feet and the palms of his hands are pink but his belly button looks brown. im really confused as ive never really seen a mixed race baby in the flesh before. this might be a no brainer, but what do you guys think?? blush

Are you serious?! Seems a bit obvious to me...If you are white (or expecially if ur olive skinned) and had a mixed race baby it would be the norm for your baby to be darker than you and unless (not to complicate matters) the baby was albino, it would not be lighter than you or have blonde straight hair. Of course there are exceptions to the rule, but generally even if your baby was light they would probably still have "black features" hair, nose, lips etc. So my money's on the white guy. Have you got a picture? It would be easier.

This is maybe something to start a new thread on, unsure - goes a bit beyond the 'hair' subject ... I'd say at 4 months it's pretty hard to tell - absolutely possible for a mixed race baby to have white skin, light eyes, straight blonde hair etc but as Ghetto says it would be very likely to have at least an afrocaribbean type nose, lips etc. There's a chance your black partner is more mixed than you (or even he) realise, but the odds do seem to be in your white partner's favour

Great thread by the way! But Femi - just wanted to let you know that I used to work with a lovely lovely Nigerian lady who used to ask me quite frequently if she could touch my hair (me = white, naturally blonde straight hair).

So it does happen you know!

Hi guys, thanks for your reply. And yes Ghetto i am serious ): its been so confusing for me. When my Jay was born he was very pale skinned but had a full head of dark curly hair, so naturally i thought ok, he has to be the black guys as the other guy has neither black or curly hair. i just assumed his skin would go darker eventually. By the way i am olive skinned.

anyhow, about 3 months later my little boys lovely dark curls fell out due to cradle cap, and you can imagin my surprise when he new hair started growing through blonde and straight! alarm bells started ringing big time!

with regards to the features i have never thought i could see any of the black guys features in him apart from his nose, but then my white partner has a broad nose! as Jay got older his nose has become more promenent and less flat. He has my lips and mouth which are full, but not very big like the black partner i had.

My gut feeling is that he is the white guys baby, he has the same ears, eye shape, head shape, face shape and build but if he is then i got to change his name as his surname is registered under the black guys name! its such a mess! Its been driving me crazy ever since his hair fell out! and ive only just found the courage to tell the white guy he could be a daddy. he didnt even know i was pregnant. i was so sure my baby would come out dark skinned with dark loose curly hair. the black guy is quite dark skinned with black tight afro hair. his lips are quite big too.

Ive also noticed that the soles of my babys feet and the palms of his hads are pinkey white, would that make a difference?

Ghetto i do have pics but not sure how to get them online.

I would really appreciate your thoughts peeps

I did not mean to sound rude with my question, but it was just a bit of a strange post! Now you have provided more detailed information I stand by my original opinion that your son is indeed the white guys baby, especially if he has all the same features you have mentioned!Also you should always follow your gut feeling, in my opinion. The only way to be 100% sure is with a DNA test, if both men were willing of course! I understand it must be difficult for you, but at the end of the day you are lucky, you have been blessed with a son and regardless of who his father is, you are still his mother, so just try not to let it bother you. Are you still with the black guy? Is he involved in your sons life? Does he think he's his son?

If you want to post pictures you can do so on your profile, just browse your computer for the photo and then upload and make sure your settings aren't on private so we can see!

Hey Ghetto i did not take offence to your msg, like you say it was a bit strange.

I dont know if either men are willing, but im taking to the csa now so i guess he will have to do the test. i really dont care anymore, like you say he is my son, he is the best thing in my life and thats the main thing that matters to me.

i found out i was pregnant three weeks after i split from the black guy. im with neither blokes.

the black guy has been in and out of my sons life, he is not consistent with his visits and sometimes dont see him for weeks and weeks on end. he aint paid me any maintenance apart from £50 at the begining, but has gone halves with me to get his buggy and car seat and brought a few bits here and there like clothes and toiletries, but i could count how much on one hand.

I dont know if he thinks he is his son or not, but got a feeling that he will not make things easy for me.

i dont know how to put the pic on the comp im not good at these things, i got them on my mobile tho if thats any good?

My advice is that you don't even have to buy afro haircare products.

I'm black and my hair is about as afro as you can get, so I do use afro products. My son, who is 4, is mixed race and I've found that things like Herbal Essence, especially the conditioner, is really good.

This might sound obvious but holding one section of hair at a time (about an inch from the end), and combing out the tangles at the end doesn't pull the hair at the root, thus saving a lot of tears.

My son is just lucky that he wasn't born in the 1970s and doesn't have his grandma combing his hair every day. That's a reason to cry.

don't any of you have black relatives that will teach you how to do the hair? or the dad? surely he has a sister or mum who can help? also take the child to a black hairdresser to have the hair done. don't cut it off. i am white but i have realy thick curly hair and my mum was scared of it and cut it off. i go to an afro hairdresser now I get a wash and steam condition, very cheap and it looks fab. i'm expecting a mixed ( black) child and i can't wait to play with her/his hair. it's so versitile, for thick afro type try twists or dreads, so cute come on use your imagination. if you wanted a mixed child don't try to make it white cos it aint

Goodness ginger, where on earth did that last sentence come from????

And even the 'don't cut it off' bit - I haven't read every post here but I dont think many (any?) people have suggested that - ??