I’m so happy to finally not struggle I could cry.

[GratefulGreta]

NC’d for this I have been a single parent…went through a messy divorce a while back. Met a new partner and we have finally bought a house together. Don’t worry everything is sorted legally etc!
my dc finally have their own rooms and a warm, non damp home.
I’m getting paid today and instead of scrambling and stretching after I have paid my half of bills and food, and saved a good amount I will have just under 2k left for the month! I actually don’t even know what to do with it! I have spent the last few months sorting out furniture etc for the dc’s rooms so it has been used up. But now that all of that is done I’m left with the reality of what Is left. I could actually cry. Just wanted to share my joy, not being goady at all, just wanted to share that things can change for the better is all. I never thought they would!

As a single mum myself, I am so happy for you 💗 🥳

Wishing you lots of happiness x
a beautiful post x

Love this! Big congratulations 🥂 Good luck in your new home. 🥰

It's a huge relief isn't it. I'm comfortable financially now but when my DC were small I really struggled especially after exh cheated on me which led to divorce and he didn't pay maintenance on time. I recall one Xmas he didn't pay maintenance for Nov or Dec. He had to catch it back up over time but I felt really humiliated as I had to ask my parents for a loan. After we divorced I met my now husband and now we are both comfortable but I never forget how tight money was once. Enjoy the feeling of not having to penny pinch anymore and being able to treat yourself as well as DC.

Congratulations OP. I'm thrilled for you. Well done.

Buy yourself something nice and then save whatever you don't need to spend. Your savings will always be there for you - for nice things or emergencies or whatever.

That is so wonderful. Have a lovely weekend out with your son - enjoy it.

So happy for you! Congratulations on the new home and your happily ever after 😊

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Bravo op feels good doesn't it

Congratulations 🎉 wishing you every happiness now, and in the future.

So if you’re honest… how long have you been with this new partner?

I’ve been on mumsnet too long clearly

because I read an OP has been in an abusive marriage, then divorced, found a new partner, moving in hook line and sinker with him and has young children…. And I think… risky.

Congratulations!
Haveva brilliant Christmas, but don’t forget to build up some savings and pay into a pension.

DM is 82. She still has the first £10 is earnt after digging us out of financial crisis, framed on her wall.

Left my ex when the eldest was 2 and youngest was 1 (yes there’s exactly a year between them, they share the same birthday) I was on my own for 2 years. So they were 4 and 3… they are now nearly 13 and 12. So long enough. My divorce was long and drawn out. I left with 2 bags and that was it! I stayed with an aunt of mine until I found a rental (through a friend) my ex used my leaving against me. My new partner is nothing like my ex.

Well done OP, that feeling is such a relief, isn’t it?

A couple of years ago I somehow got a job that tripled my salary overnight. I’ve only just started to not panic about losing it all, and making proper plans for the future. The luxury of not having to take packed lunch to work is something I will never, ever get over.

Really not the point of this thread though is it?

You don’t think it puts a different slant on the thread if the Op says…. We met a year ago? 6 months ago?

I’ve had this in recent years and more so again this year. My disposable income doubled. I treated myself to a new handbag, £75 so nothing outrageous but more than I ever dared spend before and every day I look at it and smile as it means so much.

well done to you too 😃