Food shopping issue

[Daisy107]

This is so dam ridiculous!
My husband will only contribute £100 a month towards food shopping.he says £50 a week is acceptable for two adults....
We have joint account for all household bills and he likes us to have our own accounts for our own bills, petrol, car insurance, credit card etc etc and personal spending...and he earns £400 more than me a month...both work full time. Its really hard to stick to £50..if go over that leaves us less for following week or i have to put it on my credit card which I've been doing....to get us through....but he does moan that hecaint got enough snacks or he's getting fed up with same food etc but I do explain we need to increase it but he just says NO.....ideas please as its a constant argument..

Couldn’t agree more. My ex was like this - I wasn’t allowed to touch the main account - he made a separate account wgere he gave me ‘housekeeping’ money. If I needed anything for myself or our child I had to ask him of take it out of the housekeeping.

These kind of so called partnerships make me irrationality angry.
Please assert yourself.

Wow your husband sounds like a child!!! I’m confused though, he complains about lack of snacks etc. but does nothing to solve that issue? Maybe ten years ago that budget would be fine but not now. He needs a talking to

We have separate bank accounts but dh is the higher earner out of us both anyway I do the meal food shop meal planning and cooking I spend £60 a week on food for 2 adults we don't really do snacks but I also include dh work dinners in this

If your partner is acting like this then I would say you do the food shop and deal with the meal plans and snacks that he requires £50 is so little especially if Adding toilet roll cleaning products etc

Well simply sorted in he does the shopping and cooking if he thinks he can make it work. I spent £70-80 my teen DD and myself, but could do cheaper bht we don’t really buy many snacks and my ice cream I love is £5 a tub. But we cook our own food and don’t have huge appetites.

Id not wait

Id tell him its getting far to stressful and you'd like to let him do it and show you how its done

tell him you'll be happy with the meals you had this week, but you'd also like snacks

I don’t understand why you just accept this.

Why is it all in you to plan, shop and budget? Just don’t do it.

It is doable if you really, really want to, but it also seems silly if you can afford more. Show him receipts and let him see what it's really costing.

I'd guess you were with my ex, if I didn't know he is very single..

I recognise the totally unrealistic household budgeting (and he tried contributing towards household) as a partnership 😂

He would "allow" me to budget £30 per week for all general groceries per week... Spending any more would be way too much so that would be £15 per week from him. I shut that crap down so fast.

That magic £30 was to cover breakfast, lunch and dinner, his constant snacking, treats, household stuff (laundry) cleaning supplies, toiletries for both of us and having a full stock of food just in case. I should mention a lot of things, he wouldn't eat off brand, only branded stuff in his magic budget.

He last thought £10 a week was overpaying towards electric and oil tank refills. I'm guessing that other people's weekly electricity comes to more £5 per week so could put the other £5 towards the oil tank. He would have a tendency to stand in the doorway smoking while blasting the heat full on.

He was o.k.until we moved in together, He kept It all hidden.

It gave me the major ick..I just didn't have a name for it at the time and is a big factor in why he is an ex. I put him out after a week. That was long enough to see through this whole crap.

He now lives at home with parents who pay for 90% of everything he wants and covering all the bills. He gives his mum money towards clothes when she buys him new clothes, whatever he deems something do be worth he gives her half of it.

My best advice is if your husband isn't prepared to take on board how things have gone up in price and wants everything without spending much (without you topping up from your own budget - been there and did that only once), you need to start thinking about getting your ducks in a row and ending it as he will make your life miserable in other ways with unrealistic budgetary constraints.

Alternate veggie chilli and own-brand beans on toast for a week. Teetotal of course.

Make sure you eat well at lunchtime 😁

He sounds very odd. Marriage is a partnership, your money should be together for all household bills including shopping.
Having said that, we are 3 adults and spend £100 pw on average. We shop at Lidl and eat healthily with lots of veg and fruit.
I agree that he should do the shop or if he wants to be so pedantic, you get your food and he gets his. I couldn’t be with someone like that. You have a husband issue not a food shop issue .

why is it all on you to do the food shopping and sounds like the cooking? tell him it is 2025 and to pull his weight or maybe move back in with his mummy.

How’s it going OP?