Hello! I've had my "Uncle Barry" living with me for 6 months. He had to leave his housing association property due to arguments with his son who became violent. My uncle paid for everything from his benefits as my cousin was also on benefits and didn't pay lodge/rent. My uncle did the cooking (freezer food, not from scratch, it's relevant) and the cleaning but now he lives with me, my husband and my son. I work 2 days a week due to ill health, my husband works full time. We have paid for everything for my uncle since he moved in, including buying him emergency personal provisions for the first week, all the meals at restaurants, 2 holidays that he wanted to come on, all the utilities of our house and sometimes he gets bread/milk from the shop.
My company can now only afford to employ me for 1 day a week which has hit us hard financially. I told my uncle and his reply was "Oh that's a shame, I want some tea" so I told him I need him to start giving money towards his food, laundry, extra water etc. He said he doesn't have any money ... then he bought a £25 wallet from town. We do all of the cooking, the cleaning, meal prep everything because my Uncle can't cook and can't clean. We can't live off freezer food otherwise we could ask him to cook once a week or whatever. We moved his possessions out of his house, stopped all the direct debits for his old house and he's on £850 a month. No plans to move out at present as the council won't help.
In my shoes, would you ask for money and if yes how much? This is destroying my relationship with him. What really hurts is when I told him about my job he also said "Well your husband earns enough doesn't he?", like we're his gravy train because we earned enough in his eyes.