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DP has joined me in Uk - what do I tell UNiversal Credit pls

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ucspur · 11/09/2024 17:16

Hello

my DP has been living abroad - just very little support from him once in a while as things were tough over there , that’s why we have gotten a spouse visa for him to come work here to support each other

pls what would UC need ? I want to report asap as I get anxiety over UC matters, but would they need make him look for work compulsorily, he brought just about 2k with him to support himself , does he need to declare that and would they take that into consideration with my income?

PS: he is not entitled to benefit because he is on spouse visa but I’m aware I need to report a move in partner

thank you

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ucspur · 12/09/2024 18:03

deltabluesandpinks · 12/09/2024 12:26

But why?
The OP works most likely full time but the CoL means that she still needs UC to manage.
The partner is not entitled to benefits when get move here and it's highly likely the OP will lose some if not all of her UC.
The OP is reporting the change to UC so is being completely honest and upfront about the situation change.

What is the problem with that?

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Thank you 🙏

im not sure what the fuss is about with other posters or what I’ve done wrong? I’ve explained he has come In here to also start working so we can get off benefits as well as he is here to support

i have two kids so maybe that’s why im entitled to something on over 35k

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ucspur · 12/09/2024 18:05

gardenmusic · 12/09/2024 12:51

deltabluesandpinks
I have no problem with UC top ups to working people.

I want to report asap as I get anxiety over UC matters, but would they need make him look for work compulsorily, he brought just about 2k with him to support himself.

I really cannot put on here what I would like to. I would be banned, or it would be deleted.

Pls do

im quite keen to read it 😌

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ucspur · 12/09/2024 18:09

KerryBlues · 12/09/2024 12:54

She’s anxious that he may be expected to look for work to support himself / them, while continuing to claim benefits.
That’s a bit of a problem.

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Ffs, pls re-read my post

i have stated that he has come in to LOOK for work to support the family as I’m. Keen to get off UC

i just want to know if he will be PRESSURED into looking for work and attending job centres as I’ve heard this is normally how it is done and I don’t k ow first hand how it works as I have been working full time since I ever started claiming UC

does that help ?

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ucspur · 12/09/2024 18:11

JustAnotherUserHere · 12/09/2024 15:12

I think it's more about the pressure. OP has said that their aim is for him to start work ASAP so they can get off benefits. I doubt they're trying to lounge around while collecting benefits.

UC is known to apply pressure that often affects people's mental health and worsens those with already poor mental health. I don't blame anyone who wants to avoid that (OP mentions anxiety) while still doing what they're supposed to do...ie looking for and getting a job.

As long as OP is upfront with UC, accepts her correct entitlement and her partner starts looking for work, gets one ASAP and starts contributing, I see nothing wrong with any of it.

I really appreciate you, thank you for understanding

bless you!

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gardenmusic · 12/09/2024 18:19

You would not get to read it, because it would be deleted. You have since stated that he is your husband, not your partner, which makes a difference.

You have asked: but would they need make him look for work compulsorily,
So if he is here to support you, and look for work in order to get you off benefits, why are you asking if 'they' would make it compulsory for him to look for work?
Why would you worry if it was compulsory?
Surely, if his aim is to look for work, any help he can be given, for instance 'make him look for work compulsorily' would help him in his aim?
Heaven forbid we pressure the poor man into helping support his family.

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ucspur · 12/09/2024 18:23

gardenmusic · 12/09/2024 18:19

You would not get to read it, because it would be deleted. You have since stated that he is your husband, not your partner, which makes a difference.

You have asked: but would they need make him look for work compulsorily,
So if he is here to support you, and look for work in order to get you off benefits, why are you asking if 'they' would make it compulsory for him to look for work?
Why would you worry if it was compulsory?
Surely, if his aim is to look for work, any help he can be given, for instance 'make him look for work compulsorily' would help him in his aim?
Heaven forbid we pressure the poor man into helping support his family.

Ok 👌

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gardenmusic · 12/09/2024 18:25

Glad you get it.

Blushingm · 12/09/2024 18:29

Pressured? Well yes, he should be pressured - I needs to get a job. Why should we be paying UC for a family where there is someone not working or just looking for work when he feels like it. He needs to be firmly told he must do everything possible to get in to work

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ucspur · 12/09/2024 18:38

Blushingm · 12/09/2024 18:29

Pressured? Well yes, he should be pressured - I needs to get a job. Why should we be paying UC for a family where there is someone not working or just looking for work when he feels like it. He needs to be firmly told he must do everything possible to get in to work

Not sure why you are taking it personal but ok boss 🤷‍♀️, he will

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Blushingm · 12/09/2024 18:54

Personal?

Because as a tax payer why should I support someone who doesn't want to feel pressured into find a job when they've come to this country to work

Maurepas · 12/09/2024 18:57

Where is he coming from?

gardenmusic · 12/09/2024 18:59

Not sure why you are taking it personal

and this is the crux of the matter. Where do you think your UC comes from?
I have absolutely no problem with help going to working people who do not earn enough to live - I have every objection to people who do not want to be 'pressured into looking for work' gaining from benefits paid for by people who work.

BeachRide · 12/09/2024 19:08

Is he your children's father? What do they think about him moving in?

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ucspur · 12/09/2024 19:22

feellikeanalien · 12/09/2024 19:06

Thank you

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ucspur · 12/09/2024 19:29

He is

they are very excited as he’s been away long enough due to circumstances outside our control 🙁

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titchy · 12/09/2024 19:30

Blushingm · 12/09/2024 18:54

Personal?

Because as a tax payer why should I support someone who doesn't want to feel pressured into find a job when they've come to this country to work

You realise OP also pays taxes yes?

Blushingm · 12/09/2024 19:31

gardenmusic · 12/09/2024 18:59

Not sure why you are taking it personal

and this is the crux of the matter. Where do you think your UC comes from?
I have absolutely no problem with help going to working people who do not earn enough to live - I have every objection to people who do not want to be 'pressured into looking for work' gaining from benefits paid for by people who work.

@gardenmusic - that's what I was getting at

Blushingm · 12/09/2024 19:32

@titchy yes she does - but she's not earning enough as she's also getting UC. So we are already supporting her, why should we support her DH who doesn't want to be 'pressured' in to finding work.

Also as both parents are here - she's no longer a single parent so her UC should really stop as the childcare won't be necessary anymore

gardenmusic · 12/09/2024 19:33

You realise OP also pays taxes yes?

Well, when her husband gets work, she can pay some more - and stop claiming UC.

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ucspur · 12/09/2024 19:34

Blushingm · 12/09/2024 18:54

Personal?

Because as a tax payer why should I support someone who doesn't want to feel pressured into find a job when they've come to this country to work

I wouldn’t either !

but don’t you think I could tel him to stay back where he is while I enjoy benefits and I go back home to see him?

or do you think he gets benefits while he is on spouse visa?its still the same amount of benefits I have been getting that we get while he is here so I AM WORSE OFF if he doesn’t even start working

not everyone is a cheat or is a lazy arse.. I just bloody came on here as I get extremely anxious with govt rules etc to know what the process is and just to know what to expect not to get lectured by your opinion about trying to cheat the system

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ucspur · 12/09/2024 19:37

titchy · 12/09/2024 19:30

You realise OP also pays taxes yes?

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Thank you 🙏

I think they missed the part where I said I earn way over 35k,

im not relying solely on benefits, I just get a little top up most likely cos of the kids

It’s not everyone who wants to cheat the system

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gardenmusic · 12/09/2024 19:37

I just bloody came on here as I get extremely anxious with govt rules etc to know what the process is and just to know what to expect not to get lectured by your opinion about trying to cheat the system

... and to ask if the system would make him look for work compulsorily.

Blushingm · 12/09/2024 19:37

You said will he be 'pressured' into finding work - I responded yes - and so he should be!

Why shouldn't he be 'pressured'

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ucspur · 12/09/2024 19:41

This thread has given me more stress than what I was even expecting from UC - just what I was avoiding

Thanks to everyone who has kindly responded with sensible and objective views

I reported the change this morning so waiting on next steps on what they need me to do

im out 🤞

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