Chickenrategg · Today 13:23
My husband earns a lot less than me; he's on I suppose the equivalent of NMW but he's self employed so sometimes it's a little more, sometimes a little less.
He does not work any less hard than I do and between us we earn enough to live relatively comfortably. He loves his job, he spends all day outside and he's one of those incredibly rare people that when you asked them what they wanted to do a child, he told them pretty much exactly what he's doing now. I would be able to cover our basic bills and mortgage by myself but only just so his contributions to the household income take us from just scraping by to what I call comfortable.
I much prefer that our children see both of us loving what we do and that we have our evenings and weekends together than DH being away all the time, brining in a massive salary but for a job he hated.
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yes, I started as live in aupair in the UK. My aupair mum saw the husband only at the weekends, there were numerous financial benefits, but she was on a very tight budget and had to keep an excel sheet because of her own financial past. I thought they actually could do well to live together full time and liked them as a couple. Not sure what the situation was there and why. He could have any job he wanted , anywhere.
if you read this, sweetheart, I love you and always grateful for you.