Partner moving in temporarily- how to manage the £?

[Toadsnotfrogs]

A change in his living arrangements has meant that he will be staying with me for the best part of 6 months. He’s having some major building work done, the house will be uninhabitable and he lives 90 mins away, but he also works away a lot too so he won’t be here 100% of the time.

How do we best manage expenses and money etc? His income is peaks and troughs but it is solidly double mine. Plus if he wasn’t here he would have to rent somewhere.

I own my house solely and have my 3 kids and the dog here too. And his doggy comes with him, whom I will be minding when he’s away.

I had no plans whatsoever to live with him or anyone frankly, until my children were older (all KS3 at the moment.) and we are both clear that this is a temporary thing.

All advice and ideas are very welcome.

Divide the bills and food between however many of you there are and charge him that amount each month/quarter. Make him put his big stuff in storage and state that he must tidy up after himself.

Only you know if this is all a good idea op. If he's reliable and tidy it'll probably be okay.

Sounds like you haven't been on Mumsnet very long.

You invited him, he is a guest and as @Keykat said, when she offered $$ in a similar situation, her partner refused to accept any. I would say that is what most partners would say. If my boyfriend invited me to live with him while my house was in uninhabitable, I would not expect to pay him rent. You shouldn’t be out money and I am sure he will contribute but you should expect your expenses and output to be the same as it was before he moved in. Your responsibilities for yourself and your kids don’t change. He still has his mortgage and all his reno expenses. He should cover all dog expenses too.