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How do I get me ex partner to pay what he owes me?

43 replies

Lolasummers20 · 09/12/2022 09:14

Hi
Recently split with my partner after almost 5 years. For 2 of those years we lived in his house (he has no mortgage) and I paid for all the food, wine and holidays which was 3 times the amount he paid for the utilities, council tax and broadband etc.

I've sent him a spreadsheet which details the costs and he's now added 'rent' of £950 a month in an attempt to reduce the amount he owes me!

We've never discussed a rent payment previously, he owns his house outright so there has not been a mortgage or rent to contribute to.

My question is how to deal with this? He's adamant that he doesn't owe me anything whatsoever hence the fabricated rent charge that he's just introduced...

OP posts:
YomAsalYomBasal · 09/12/2022 09:16

You can't, sorry.

ChessieDarling · 09/12/2022 09:17

You can’t. You should’ve addressed the discrepancy in costs at the time, not try to claim back some cash after the event.

GetOffTheRoof · 09/12/2022 09:18

What are you trying to bill him for?

PeekAtYou · 09/12/2022 09:19

He doesn't owe you anything. The unfair split of bills should have been addressed at the time and not used as a fuck you after the split. You owe him nothing too.

Hoppinggreen · 09/12/2022 09:20

You can’t unfortunately

Moonlightsonatas · 09/12/2022 09:22

You can’t bill an ex partner for living costs! I imagine living with him was still cheaper than renting and paying all the bills on your own.

NoSquirrels · 09/12/2022 09:23

He doesn’t owe you anything because you never had a loan agreement with him. You paid for things willingly when you were with him. He willingly let you live in his property without charging rent.

If you try to retrospectively bill him, he’ll bill you.

Move on and bear in mind being more cautious in the future.

Pleaseaddcaffine · 09/12/2022 09:23

What on earth are you trying to claim? You can't claim unless you have a contract even a verbal one saying he owes you an amount eg half a holiday cost.
Him charging you rent is as insane as you charging him half for food shopping 2 years later.

Theunamedcat · 09/12/2022 09:24

So send him the message please can you forward me a signed copy of the tenancy agreement? Because I know I didn't agree to pay you rent

Reality is unless you have a signed agreement from him that he will reimburse you for all your outgoings then you won't get them back

There is no court for almost married people and tbh even if you were married you wouldn't get the money back that you spent on food wine and holidays its ridiculous

Persipan · 09/12/2022 09:24

He doesn't owe you anything and you need to move on. No good will come from trying to pursue this.

Maldedos · 09/12/2022 09:24

You're not owed anything and neither is he.

username8888 · 09/12/2022 09:25

No contract to pay equally either verbal or written and you lived rent and utilities free Give it up and move on.

MolesOnPoles · 09/12/2022 09:26

He doesn’t owe you anything.

CrampMcBastard · 09/12/2022 09:47

Just walk away

AngelDelightUK · 09/12/2022 09:49

What are you trying to bill him for!

Parky04 · 09/12/2022 09:52

He is right, he doesn't owe you anything. You lived with him rent free and he paid the bills. It appears you did pretty well out of this agreement!

Therealjudgejudy · 09/12/2022 13:44

This can't be a serious post..

MithrilCostsMore · 09/12/2022 13:45

Hilarious

barneshome · 09/12/2022 13:48

YOU LIVED RENT FREE

littlebirdieblu · 09/12/2022 13:51

Omg this is ridiculous....you lived at his rent free!! You had a good deal living with him, accept it and move on.

Catapultaway · 09/12/2022 13:58

😂 this made me chuckle.

AlwaysFullOfQuestions22 · 09/12/2022 15:58

You can't. I mean in the nicest way, why do you believe he owes you?

imnotsickbutimnotwell · 09/12/2022 16:01

This must be a joke post. He doesn’t owe you anything. You didn’t pay any rent to live there! Block him and move on!

imnotsickbutimnotwell · 09/12/2022 16:03

To be clear unless there was was a contract between you showing amounts paid and he has signed this saying it was a loan rather than just normal household expenses you won’t get anywhere with this. It will be seen as you contributing to the household where you lived, for two years, RENT FREE.

Batshittery · 09/12/2022 16:04

Have you really added up the cost of food and wine that you have bought over the last 2 years? I hope you remembered to deduct your half 🤣
He doesn't owe you anything. Move on