How do I get me ex partner to pay what he owes me?

[Lolasummers20]

Hi
Recently split with my partner after almost 5 years. For 2 of those years we lived in his house (he has no mortgage) and I paid for all the food, wine and holidays which was 3 times the amount he paid for the utilities, council tax and broadband etc.

I've sent him a spreadsheet which details the costs and he's now added 'rent' of £950 a month in an attempt to reduce the amount he owes me!

We've never discussed a rent payment previously, he owns his house outright so there has not been a mortgage or rent to contribute to.

My question is how to deal with this? He's adamant that he doesn't owe me anything whatsoever hence the fabricated rent charge that he's just introduced...

You can't ask to be reimbursed for things you paid for in the same way that he can't retrospectively charge you rent. You've lived rent free for five years! You should have sorted out division of costs when you moved in. What a weird thing to do!

If you are trying to bill him for food and wine you willingly bought up to five years ago, then I'm not surprised he's being petty and charging you rent. Or have I misunderstood?

Who the hell adds up the costs of doing things in a relationship and charges someone when it ends? He's right, if he owes you half, then you owe him half. Don't be ridiculous.

He agreed at the time that he owed you that money and would pay it to you if you split up, did he?

What does he owe you?

Why does he owe you?

Don’t be a dick 🤣
He’s not even taking the piss about the “rent” because he’s just making a point in response to your ridiculous.
You got no legal basis for a claim, and frankly the moral basis is against you too.
I can’t say you made a foolish decision though - you’ve had someone else house you whilst you got to have lovely holidays.

🚂 <<< see that? It’s the gravy train just ending!

You can't retrospectively grow a spine. You accepted it, the fact that things have ended doesn't change that.

In future, talk money.

And you should be happy you had no rent for years. Look on the bright side!

Did you not eat the food, drink the wine and go on the holidays?

Why do you think he owes you any money?

Ha as if this is real! Try a bit harder next time!

Please tell me this is a private dispute and you’re not using court time to pursue an ex-boyfriend for the cost of half the wine you drank together?

Am not surprised op thinks like this given the advice on here sometimes! Also that no ones popped up saying she's entitled to half the home value! 😆

So u paid for his food and his holiday in return you lived rent and bill free
your taking the piss

How do you deal? You walk away. You weren’t married. You lived rent free. He owes you money the way you owe him money, ie in a totally non-binding, cloud-cuckoo land way.

Maybe I’m misreading - but you lived in someone’s house rent free (partner or not) - contributed by buying food and gifting holidays - now you’ve moved out, you want half of what you’ve paid for (gifted) back?

there is not a legal leg to stand on, for any of this. Culturally I’ve never heard of it either.

This is simply bitter and weird to me …..

I'll adjudicate for you, OP. I'll need copies of all the receipts going back to when you moved in.

Zombie 🧟‍♀️ 🧟‍♀️ 🧟‍♀️