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Rent for child

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HannaBannana · 30/11/2022 17:55

My daughter is planning on moving back home to save money for her own place - she moved out to rent a place with her then partner at 18 and has since broken up with him. The plan to move home is to help her save money for her own place now at 21 and I was aiming to charge her £100 a week. She is not happy with this as she pays just slightly more than this where she is now so she won't be putting much more in savings away and is a 3rd year university student. I have taken into account then when she gets her first job her take home pay will be about 1500 pcm from August. The £100 a week would include the room and bills but not food or chores and I would also expect her to look after her younger sister when I am at work. Is this amount of rent an unreasonable amount? She has her own car and phone that she pays for as well.

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OurChristmasMiracle · 01/12/2022 22:46

Covering the extra costs associated with an extra adult- extra heating food etc is fine. Even a small extra contribution to ease things. An expectation of doing own laundry and cleaning up behind themselves and mucking in with normal household chores all reasonable expectations- so no treating it like a hotel with a maid service.

regular childcare plus £400 for literally a room plus the expectation of helping with the housework is far too much. She will never be able to save enough for a deposit and move out

ConnieTucker · 01/12/2022 22:59

That was around my mortgage at 22 / 23. I got a whole house for that and didnt have to babysit

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 01/12/2022 23:18

Reverse or a troll. OP's only post. Either way not nice.

2catsandhappy · 06/12/2022 21:00

Just incase this is a genuine thread.
UC take off £75 a MONTH for non dependant adult living with me. Shopping and utilities is extra.

Beansontoast45 · 06/12/2022 21:06

I don’t charge my two 19 and 21 anything. They are both saving for deposits. I’m not rich either, I have two jobs but I just couldn’t charge them while they are at uni.

shivawn · 06/12/2022 21:39

I'm not sure you're being genuine with this question. You say she's moving home to save money for a house and you want your her to pay you only slightly less rent than she's currently paying and give you free childcare? She has been living independently since she was 18 which is unusual enough these days. Most people probably wouldn't charge anything in this situation.

Lougle · 06/12/2022 21:43

My (council) rent is only £120 per week and I get a 3 bedroom house for that. Do you have a mortgage or do you rent?

Cas112 · 06/12/2022 22:03

I would not move in just the expectation of her having to look after her sibling alone. It's not up to her to provide your childcare

Margo34 · 06/12/2022 22:11

What would it cost her to live in a house share with uni peers, or in uni accommodation? Charge her way, waaay less than that and don't forget to pay her for her babysitting services.

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 07/12/2022 13:05

I see this has come up again so reported.

lookersnoopy · 07/12/2022 13:12

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 07/12/2022 13:05

I see this has come up again so reported.

Reported it, why? It's come up again? It's only a week old thread

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 07/12/2022 13:33

i thought it was a PBP

TheTeenageYears · 07/12/2022 13:45

If she's a uni student is she getting the full maintenance loan? Maintenance loans are different depending on if you live in or outside London or with parents. They can't borrow as much if living with parents so presumably that's on the basis that they either pay nothing or pay significantly less than if living elsewhere. Do you need to charge her? If you do then I would only charge what it actually costs for her to be living with you whilst she's a student and then review once she's graduated.

SueVineer · 07/12/2022 23:04

She is a student- you should be supporting her not charging her rent and getting her to give you free childcare

KnickerlessParsons · 07/12/2022 23:19

My DD pays £50 per week but buys all her own food.

Appleabananasandpears · 27/12/2022 18:52

Agree with everyone saying £200 is fair. Doesn’t make sense to potentially scupper your daughter’s finances and future financial security if you don’t have to.

Essexexile · 27/12/2022 18:54

We used to charge our dc’s 20% of their take home pay for their rent. I think that’s reasonable.

Twillow · 27/12/2022 18:57

Yes it's far too much, especially as you said it didn't include food?

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 27/12/2022 19:00

Almost as much as her current place, childcare when you work (who is your current childcare) plus food and bills?

Almost as if someone wants the live in babysitter not to be able to afford to save and leave again…

Kerrybemmy · 03/01/2023 09:58

Wow....I live in my own flat and only pay £60 a week. That is excessive. Mind you my aunty charged her daughter £350 a month to live at home...not including food...so people do rip off their own kids.

redskydelight · 03/01/2023 10:23

Kerrybemmy · 03/01/2023 09:58

Wow....I live in my own flat and only pay £60 a week. That is excessive. Mind you my aunty charged her daughter £350 a month to live at home...not including food...so people do rip off their own kids.

To be fair, £60 a week is abnormally small for all rent and bills, even in a cheap part of the country.
I assume it must be subsidised rent from family or low cost due to being part of the package for a job?

We charge DS £400 a month, but it does include food and doesn't include the need to provide unpaid childcare.
But he is working and not a student.
No ripping off is involved.
He knows he's getting a good deal and is very happy with the arrangement.

rainbowandglitter · 03/01/2023 11:18

redskydelight · 03/01/2023 10:23

To be fair, £60 a week is abnormally small for all rent and bills, even in a cheap part of the country.
I assume it must be subsidised rent from family or low cost due to being part of the package for a job?

We charge DS £400 a month, but it does include food and doesn't include the need to provide unpaid childcare.
But he is working and not a student.
No ripping off is involved.
He knows he's getting a good deal and is very happy with the arrangement.

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I think that's high. We charge dss £250 pm and that includes his food. He works full time for around £24k pa.

Goingcrazyimsure · 03/01/2023 11:27

I would charge her nothing while she is in full time education. I would want her to be making the most of that and not worrying about working to pay rent. Perhaps she could buy her own food/contribute towards food and help with her sister from time to time. Then when she has a full time job charge rent accordingly so that she is able to save. It's bloody tough to get started these days and the least parents can do is give their kids a chance to save up. If she wasn't saving it would be different I think xx

shivawn · 03/01/2023 11:48

We charge DS £400 a month, but it does include food and doesn't include the need to provide unpaid childcare.
But he is working and not a student.
No ripping off is involved.
He knows he's getting a good deal and is very happy with the arrangement.

£400 a month to live at home with your parents. God it really is tough for anyone young today. I'm so thankful I wasn't born 10 years later than I was.

redskydelight · 03/01/2023 11:58

shivawn · 03/01/2023 11:48

We charge DS £400 a month, but it does include food and doesn't include the need to provide unpaid childcare.
But he is working and not a student.
No ripping off is involved.
He knows he's getting a good deal and is very happy with the arrangement.

£400 a month to live at home with your parents. God it really is tough for anyone young today. I'm so thankful I wasn't born 10 years later than I was.

He's welcome to move out if he wants to. He's chosen not to. Possibly because he's worked out that it will cost him at least double to do so. Or possibly it's because he'd then have to do all his own housework and cooking as opposed to just some of it.

his food alone probably costs £400