Cash gifts at weddings?

[Shulee]

What are people’s opinions on cash gifts at weddings? I was reading a recent money diary and the poster had gifted £40 to the newly weds. Some of the commenters felt this was not enough.

weddings are expensive but also for the guests, due to stag/hen dos, hotels, transport and childcare etc.

would you expect a cash gift if you were getting married? Or would you give a cash gift and how much?

I think cash is better than a random gift, unless there is a registry so that you could be sure the couple will like the gift you get them. £50 is fine, though, I did that for a friend's wedding when I couldn't attend, so there was cash and a Smartshow 3d video card from me.

We specified no gifts for our wedding (do the same for birthdays etc) but I don't see the issue with people asking for cash, I'd rather them combine the cash they receive for something big than waste my money on something cheaper they don't want/need.

In Irish culture giving money is the norm. 100 euro is the minimum, really; if they're close family it should be 200 or more. This is on top of dressing up, hotel etc...That's why I don't always welcome an invitation! You can't give something tight like 20, though. That's social death.

Agree with the Irish English difference- I used to live in the south of Ireland was it was normally expected that each couple gave 150-200 euro- basically the cost of what it would be to have you there. Not necessarily to be showy but to be generous. My English partner was shocked by this and I was equally shocked and horrified when we were invited to his cousins wedding when we moved to England who wanted a contribution for a honeymoon and he wanted to give £50 between us both. This was more than his siblings were giving despite all high earners! I insisted we gave more because we could wells afford it and it’s nice to be generous as possible to those starting off married life. The bride and groom were appreciative and now I always give what we can afford. I would never ever expect anyone to give me something as you never know someone’s financial situation. However I think there’s a big difference between people who genuinely can’t afford it and others who could can but chose not to . My partners family are big earners ,have second homes , boats etc but they’d be the first to ask to split the bill or fight over who owed £5 to who etc. I just accept different people have different thoughts about money and ownership of it !

£100 per couple is crazy! If you had 50 couples attend that would be 5 grand! (won't lie, I'm secretly hoping we get gifted 5 grand now 😂😂)

( I’m happily divorced 😉😂)

I would always give cash for a wedding myself.

I didn't care what people gave us for our wedding, or if they even gave anything. Having our friends and family there to celebrate with us was the most important thing. As it happened we got around €17k in cash gifts and 2 actual presents. We live in Ireland.

My friend got married at the weekend and I gave £40 because I was a bridesmaid and live 5 hours away. The hen do cost me about £350 (£150 in fuel!), and the wedding itself was another £100 fuel, meal out with bride night before, plus taxis, nails, shoes, hair acessories. I only work part time!