Husband is too proud to let me pay for things

[Emmagr1]

I earn 50% more than my husband and we share all household bills and expenses. I would like to pool our salaries together but he won't let me. He wants to pay 50/50 because he's a proud man.

Money is tight for him but it's just not me and he won't let me ease the burden. I find ways to ease his financial pressures by buying things for the kids that they need or food shopping that typically go unnoticed, and not use the joint account.

It's now starting to take its toll. I want to replace things in the house that need updating and he can't afford to pay half and won't let me pay for them outright.

I know this is a very fortune situation to be in, and yes it's a 3rd world problem. Just wondered if anyone has this issue and can make any suggestions?

God I can't stand men who feel insecure when their wives earn more than them. Really says what they think - that masculinity = money. And that women shouldn't be the higher earner.

It's ridiculous really.

It's very controlling if he won't pool finances but also won't let you spend your money on things you want. If he won't agree to joint finances I don't understand how what you spend your money on is his concern?