To want another child when money is tight?

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I have a beautiful boy who is nearly two. I want a sibling for him. DP is not onboard with the idea purely because money is tight for us. We aren't poor but we both work full time and live pay to pay. We don't have luxuries we can cut back on to afford another but if we had another child we have enough and could manage. DP thinks enough isn't good enough and that we should wait until we are more financially secure. I think we will be waiting a long time. Whats everyones opinion please?

I would def have a second. And agree the sibling is as much for him as for you.

Given your age I would wait a year and in that time cut back expenses, save as much as I can. Maybe your DH will be more on board with it then too

People shouldn't have children they knowingly can't afford.
Harsh yes. You can't expect other people to pay for you.

If you push this and have a second when your husband is unwilling and this does end up severely impact your standard of living then your husband is likely to start to resent the situation and that could spell the end of your marriage. If you were 41 then the advice would be different but at 31 there is no harm in waiting a couple of years until your eldest is about to start school.

You are being daft. You can't afford it. You will struggle and just get by.