Does she have the right to demand money from us?

[kneehighinnappies]

DH's x wife is demanding that we pay money for his son who is 17 and has just started to do his A-levels in school, do we have to give her the money, it's not that we don't support his dc's but we preffer to give them the money or buy them the things that they need rather than give her the money. she only has a part time job and a house she can't afford without our help, she has been advised to sell the house and go out to work full time, weather she does or not remains to be seen ,but legally do we have to give her the money and if so how much is it?

Again can i ask you have you taken legal advise?

Sorry I missed this the first time around, no she has only just started this today, dh is going to seek some advice on the matter though.

Sorry does it sound like i am having a go, you wil have to excuse me, lots of messages and very little time to reply, before i forget what i was saying. I do appoligise if I have been short with anyone

Ah jasus kneehigh, yer ok chick!! You are in a terrible position, you want to and do give money but then getting the calls. The next step is the solicitor and then see what they advise, let us know how you are, you have a lot going on

Yikes !

I think you got jumped on a bit because the whole picture wasn't clear from your OP.

It sounds like you're going to be in dire straits, if you can't afford your mortgage BEFORE you're having to make payments to her. She can't have money you don't have though. Is she asking for a one off amount or a regular amount?

I dont think it matters why she is being the way she is.

The question is as to whether or not the OP can give the money direct to the teenagers, or has to give to the mother.

Well i hope for all of them this is resolved as soon as poss. Not a good place to be for all involved.

Look, you may be resentful that you and dh are struggling while his ex lives in a big house. But that doesn't mean dh is entitled to start buggering around with the child support. Doesn't matter if her parents are helping her out, none of your business. What is your business that your dh has five children. I'm sorry you are having a hard time, but it's not his ex's fault.

And even if, in some bizarre parallel universe, it was, you still can't muck about with child support in order to get some petty revenge.