To put money in a sympathy card? Yes or no?

[BabyB04]

The family have set up a go fund me page, I’d rather give it to someone in particular. I have reasons which I won’t state. Do you think this is acceptable? Or rude to put it in the card? Thank you

That would be very odd.

Don’t, a sympathy card is for expressing emotion, not sending £££.

Oh god no. No. Just no.

Oh god no. Not appropriate.

send flowers yes, money in a card no.

Putting money in a sympathy card isn't the usual thing to do. Not rude, I don't think, but not usual. However, in your circumstances I'd address the card to the person you want it to go to so it goes directly to them, not the family, and enclose the money with an explanatory note. I'm sorry for your loss

I think it is inappropriate although I cannot put a finger on why it makes me feel uncomfortable.

What is the go fund me for?

Without the background it's really hard to say.

Could be incredibly offensive or very appropriate. Without context it's almost impossible to judge.

No. Send it separately if you want to give it cash rather than online donation, but absolutely not in the card.

What about a sympathy money wallet? Thank you for all your responses x

No. It feels like you're suggesting that money will compensate for the loss. Very inappropriate.

No absolutely not. If you want to make a gesture then a donation to charity would be more appropriate.

I'm assuming the family are struggling to pay the funeral costs.
Is the person you want to give the money to responsible for paying the funeral? If that's the case I think I'd visit them and give them a seperate envelope with some cash in it.

Going against the grain, I would say yes. Presumably the go fund me page is for funeral costs? If so, then tbh I can't see the problem. A note in the wallet explaining why you're enclosing it should be fine. Sorry for your loss

EdtheBear

I'm assuming the family are struggling to pay the funeral costs.

Thats what I was wondering. But OP hasnt clarified what the go fund me page is for

Do not enclose money in a card or money wallet. If someone has been bereaved and you feel they need financial help directly then meet them directly and offer to help/ hand over money personally.

Say the deceased helped you at some point and you want to repay.

Find out about benefits or anything financial a bereaved person may be entitled to and give them advice. Not money in a card, sorry.

Sorry yes the go fund me page is to help with the cost of living for family and the actual funeral x

I'm in the US and giving money is commonplace. They are termed "memorials" and are given in the spirit of assisting the family with funeral costs, etc. At a recent funeral I attended I was actually charged with "minding" the basket that people deposited their cards (and money) in.

I think bearing in mind there is a GoFundMe page, including money would be entirely appropriate.

As you have explained what the money is for in the funding page, I am sure they will appreciate the money. An explaining note in the card will be helpful.

Money in a small envelope with message on the front "please accept as a token of my sincere well wishes", then put inside the card with a larger envelope.

No, no, no! The go fund me page may not have been set up by themselves and they may not have given their permission. So sending money may not be well received. When my husband died someone held a fundraising night for us.
They didn’t ask me
And just assumed I would need the money. Pissed me right off if I’m
Honest as someone who has always provided and would
Continue to provide for the household.

Me neither. If there has already been a Go Fund Me page set up then I really can't see what the difference is at all.

Have they looked at what the can claim

www.gov.uk/bereavement-allowance