Am I wrong? (Savings account from grandma)

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I’m gonna cut a really long story short I have 3 children, my 2 elder girls who don’t see their dad and my youngest boy who’s dad stays on weekends (he lives 100 miles away and has work commitments, we are not together and I moved back to my home in July last year becuase id had enough of his family)
ANYWAY
I haven’t spoke to any of his family since, and hardly did while I was there, they left me completely on my own for 2 years raising 3 kids, and now out of the blue my exes grandma wants to open a savings account for my youngest lad (I already have 3 future saver accounts olen for them and have gave them the details) so she’s been pestering for his birth certificate to open one but I’ve said straight no.
The reason being is because I don’t want them to turn up on 15 years wirh however much for him and my 2 girls absolutely nothing, my ex said I’m
Being unfair on him but I’ve alreasy said I have 3 children not one and they all get treated the same in my
Eyes and I won’t allow any of them to be treated differently ,
What’s your opinion? Am I right? Am I wrong? Am
I being unfair?
Baring in mind this is a family that promised to be there for me and my girls but when I fell down the stairs heavily pregnant holding my child and started bleeding they were too busy putting up a Christmas tree to come and help and I wasn’t even checked until 24 hours after the fall, maybe I’m bitter, they left my girls out at every chance, no Christmas cards, no birthday cards, but my boy got a party three behind my
Back ... what do you guys think?

You are not with her son anymore

Maybe If you were then things be diff and she would treat all kids he same

But you aren’t

Don’t deprive your son of some money from his grandparent

Maybe in years to come your eldest might get something from your ex’s parents

And they prob wouldn’t give anything to your son

And yes the nan could die and leave in will that her grandson gets thousands

ITs just one of those things you have to suck up when having different children with different fathers, I have a similar situation myself after having three then separating and having a child in my second relationship. The older three were very lucky indeed that they all were born in the timeframes that the government were giving children ctf accounts, so they all had £500-700 from the government, which I’ve only recently move to a investment ctf account so they have almost £1k each. My youngest child on the other hand, dps mum opened up a account and dps mum and grandparents pay into it on birthday/Xmas, I’ve no idea how much is in it but recently decided that I will open a Jisa with the same firm my other children’s ctf are with so that I can track all four easily online and add money to them easily online.
My youngest will get much lesser added than the older three as two are much much nearer 18, hopefully then when the older two get theirs to spend, I will then pay in More for the younger two in the hope they end up with roughly the same amounts.
Obviously my youngest child will have the other account set up by the grandparent but there’s not a lot I can do about that and it won’t be a massive amount by the time she’s 18 as it’s only probably £30-50 per bday/Xmas that’s being put in.