Is he entitled to my redundancy?

[Moomintoes]

I am about to receive a redundancy pay out. My oh is my fiancé, we are not yet married and no current immediate plans as of yet.
We have 1 child together and I have 1 with a previous partner.
I/we have no plans to split up however if we ever fall out he likes to try and bring money and possessions into it, threatens to leave with the tv that HE paid for on his card etc that type of thing. I'm really not a possession person so he never gets a reaction from me and also we pay half of everything, get the same wages monthly and have the same left over after bills, joint account for shopping which we pay equally into.
Since finding out around a month ago that I will be made redundant he now uses this in any arguments and has said that he is entitled to half of my redundancy money.
Is this the case if we were to split up?

I do have a job to go to because despite him constantly trying to put me down and tell me to "get a job you lazy xyz" I have been offered 4 already in just 4 weeks so we are planning on using the money for a house deposit. (If I get my way as tenants in common 60/40 split due to the deposit being my redundancy money)

Don't marry him or get a prenup if you must.

Prenups aren't legally binding. At the digression of the judge whether it is upheld

Take yr money and buy a house alone.you would you put up with this shit though choice

Do not put the house in a 40/60 split - it's your deposit, you pay the mortgage repayments and you keep 100% of it. He sounds so money orientated that if you split, he'll sell up from under your feet to get his share with no thought for where you and your kids will live. As pp's have said above, he is entitled to £0 of your redundancy payout.

If he's like this now he'll likely be worse if you get married. He is financially abusive. And emotionally abusive. Right now he's entitled to nothing. Once you're married he's entitled to 50%.

Having 2 kids with 2 dads is fine. I have 3 kids with 2 dads. I've never suffered any adverse affects due to this. Never been judged. Not to my knowledge anyway!

Please don't marry him. You need to protect yourself and your kids from him.

I'm sorry to say this but he sounds emotionally absuive. Any man that puts you down constantly and dangles "if I left I'd take xyz" isn't a decent man.

He certainly doesn't have your best interests at heart.

He sounds awful. ☹️

Jesus, don't marry him. Then his entitlement to half of everything gets much stronger.

He's horrible, OP, can't you see that?

Don't marry him. Get rid and build your own life without someone who threatens you like this.

Don't put your redundancy money in any joint accounts! Keep it somewhere where only you can get it.

He's controlling and financially abusive.

I struggle to see his good points especially him telling you to "get a job you lazy $€$¥*!?"

Who the hell does he think he is? Value yourself more and leave him. You'll regret it if you don't.

And yes ring fence your redundancy money!

Thank you all. I'm so confused!

Don't be confused. He's a knob-head with twisted values. What's yours is his and what's his is his own, right?

Wrong.

Make plans for escape. Don't worry about the two dads thing. So what? You don't need to stay with the second one, it's already a fact. And really what other people think of you is none of your business. And those that point the finger usually have three fingers pointing back at themselves....I could go on but you get my meaning

I've been with my husband for 12 years. He has never once threatened to leave, the only thing he's possessive about are his socks and he would never try to take my wages.

Your partner is a douche. Do not marry him or buy a house - he will ruin you.

Oh my dear god leave him! Whatever you do don't marry him or buy a house with him.

Why do you think you are worth so little that you have to put up with being treated like this? Your children won't thank you.

Not sure why you are confused OP. He is giving you a very clear message about his intentions- he will leave at some point and attempt to take everything you collectively own. The fact that he can't actually do that is irrelevant because of the hassle it will cause when he tries.

As is often said on MN, when someone tells you who they are, believe them. He's telling you he's a grabby bastard. You will never be in a better position to leave him than you are right now. You have money for a deposit and job offers galore. Don't put your future self into a place of regret and difficulty.

You say you have no plans to split up but he obviously has as he has decided what he is taking when he goes.

Oh gosh, he sounds like a right grabby knob! Please don't marry him, but if you do than please get a prenup you protect yourself.

Wow op, honestly the redundancy money is the least of your problems (and as pp have said, is YOURS). What sofa are the kids allowed to sit on, as they paid for neither?? Please don't get a mortgage with him or marry him, this is very abusive.

Good god! I don't let my children speak to their friends like this. Why would adults behave this way? Don't marry him. He is probably just starting to show you his true colours. Where do you think the threats will end?