I am so insulted by tojoin actually.
Please don't think for one minute that you have any idea as to why some of us remain private.
It might be due to the absolute social suicide it would be yo actually show your name.
It might be due to the atrocities we have already faced.
It may be due to our families and friends being so worried about us because of what we faced that they come and stay with us just to allow us to break our hearts on their shoulders. That the sleepless nights, the fact I almost lost my relationship because of these 'friends' actually turned out to be an absolute farce.
Your sarcasm is not only rude but unnecessary. If you have read all the other posts, which I believe you have as your knowledge has suddenly increased in 2 hours, then you will have seen what some of us have endured, and if you have a heart and a conscience, then you would not be so rude, you would be empathetic towards people, regardless.
Don't dare laugh that we hide behind nicknames, you have no idea what you're talking about or what we have been through.
Sorry guys, it has made me annoyed and my friends who are reading tojoins comments. Until you live through it don't dare ever try to insinuate that we are just people who failed.