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Joint Account - Married for 10 years

31 replies

TeacherABC · 01/04/2016 13:01

Is anybody else in he position where they are married and don't have a joint bank account?

OP posts:
8angle · 01/04/2016 14:28

we do but we are one of the few couples that i know who do.

It works for some and not for others - lots of people have different experiences with what does and doesn't work.

how are your finances arranged ? are you looking to change things?

zikreetdreaming · 01/04/2016 14:56

We don't. We have had in the past but don't at the moment. Money completely shared though - just paid into separate accounts.

CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt · 01/04/2016 15:05

We have a joint bank acc. Been married 4 years.

I kept my original account from my single days though and when I need cash I'll ask my husband to transfer money across from our joint acc where both sets of wages are paid into. I also have a card to withdraw cash directly from that joint acc but never bother to do it.

Sounds a bit 1950s written down but it works for us Smile

Shutthatdoor · 01/04/2016 15:07

No we don't. Joint savings account yes but still have our own accounts.

hollyisalovelyname · 01/04/2016 15:26

We do. What's his is mine and what's mine is my own. Wink
I couldn't be faffing with 'I paid for this so you pay for that'

australiatiger · 01/04/2016 23:44

We have separate accounts, been married 14 years. We don't bother keeping track of who has paid for what, just view it as all one thing but in different places.

Luciferbox · 01/04/2016 23:46

Me. Been together for 16 years and we've never got around to it. We split our bills so we each pay our way but banks generally scare us so we haven't set up a joint account for bills yet.

ThePartyArtist · 01/04/2016 23:57

We have a joint account for shared household things e.g. rent, bills, supermarket shopping. Everything else separate (saves on guilt if we want to splash out on something). I don't know what we will do when we have kids though!

leccybill · 02/04/2016 00:05

Joint account for mortgage and bills.
Our own accounts - I pay the food bills and DH pays for 'leisure'.
Generally works out about even, although we don't keep track.

Those without a joint account - does one person pay the mortgage/rent?

zikreetdreaming · 02/04/2016 06:50

Leccy our rent is paid annually so a it of an endeavour :) We tend to just send out if either account and then transfer money between as needed. Our big monthly expenses go out of my credit card at the moment but that'll shift to DH's soon. Previously we had cards on each each others accounts but gave just shifted and haven't sorted that out. Money is genuinely shared - there's no concept if one if us paying the grocery bill.

Reason we have separate accounts is we live in a country where they freeze you account if you die and I have heard horror stories about the surviving spouse being left without access to money.

zikreetdreaming · 02/04/2016 06:51

If I were a proper mumsnetter I'd proof mu posts...

P1nkP0ppy · 02/04/2016 07:09

No joint account and we've been married 40 years.
Bills, including mortgage, are split between us and it works well.

HormonalHeap · 02/04/2016 21:45

Married 5 years, joint account but also separate ones. I don't work and dh does so it doesn't make a difference anyway.

BIWI · 02/04/2016 21:48

We both pay equal amounts into a joint account, which is for the mortgage and all our household bills. But we both also have our own bank accounts for the rest of our earnings. The reason we do this is that DH and I have very different attitudes to money. He hates being overdrawn whereas I'm more relaxed about money.

gingerdad · 03/04/2016 07:43

We just have everything paid into and out if one joint account. It's our money. Makes no odds who earns more

PotteringAlong · 03/04/2016 07:49

No joint account (although joint savings) - we just never got around to sorting it out. We also like a pp said don't keep any track of who pays for what, just see it as the same money in different places.

leccy my DH's account pays the mortgage - it was set up when i was on maternity leave like that and we've left it.

It works for us.

GeorgeTheThird · 03/04/2016 07:52

Why do you ask?

allegretto · 03/04/2016 07:55

We don't. He pays mortgage, bills and I pay other stuff.

Parker231 · 03/04/2016 07:59

We have a joint account which our salaries are paid into and from all bills and joint spending comes out of. An equal amount is paid into our separate bank accounts to do what we want with. It works for us, is easy to manage and most importantly we both have the same amount of our own money regardless of our salary.
I struggle to understand couples where one has more available cash than the other because they earn less or are the SAHP.

Feelingblue222 · 03/04/2016 08:07

We started out with a joint account for bills and left equal amounts of spending money in our original desperate accounts, but after I went on mat leave 5 years ago DH started paying all the bills out of his account and I was left with enough for food shopping and saving for hols etc.

Never got round to reverting so I now end up with all the 'spare' money and DH just pays bills/has a small amount left. Probably safer as he is not to be trusted with money anyway!
If we do (rarely!) go out together it's just whoever gets to the till first that pays - we view all the money a family money.

turkeyboots · 03/04/2016 08:43

No joint account and we've been together for 18yrs. Wages paid into our own accounts and bills are split between us, he has rent and utilities, I do council tax and food and childcare. But all money is family money and we have joint savings.

worcestersauce29 · 04/04/2016 19:44

22 years married, joint accounts from day 1…current and savings. Hub also has another personal account which is for a rental property.

GeorgeTheThird · 04/04/2016 20:17

How rude.

Dellarobia · 05/04/2016 16:40

Married 12 years, separate current accounts but joint savings. We are both natural savers not spenders and have never had an argument over money, so I think any approach would work really.

ShouldHaveStayedHome · 05/04/2016 18:17

We've been married 4 years but have had a joint account for 8 years to cover all our household bills including mortgage. We fund it from our separate joint accounts equally each month to cover the bills and have a little bit extra saving up too for emergencies. We do it this way to make the bills fair because DH and I don't get paid anywhere near the same salary; although I'm working on a career change for that!