Questioning if I am being fair

[sayerville]

Sorry if this is long winded.
When I married we got a joint account, he put in £3.28 (yes I remember!) and I had a house with equity of half it's value £23K, plus some small savings.
Since then we have always pooled our incomes, I reduced to 2 days when DD was born, increasing to my now 70% contract. So we pool everything, recently I inherited £30K also pooled.
Today my DD said she didn't think it fair I only worked 70% but had half of everything and our spending money should be distributed more fairly, never thought of it like this before, but DH is slightly resentful he doesn't have his 'own' money. Wondered how everyone else does their finances? Am I being unfair as I work 'part time'?

Why isn't she hassling her dad to reduce his hours to match! Might be less money available to support her...

"Well the money I originally had was absorbed into the capital of this property when we moved 8 years later so it's kinda lost now."

You put in money to reduce the monthly outgoings for years. The equity in your previous property helped buy the one you have now. It wasn't lost, and made a valuable contribution.

Does DD have similarly strong feelings about women who share their 53k of capital with men who bring £3 to the marriage? She's being stupid, but plenty of us were naive and ignorant at that age. Try not to feel hurt. The 3 year old analogy was a good one.