Worried about how I'm going to live

[Sadmummy123]

Hi after 10 years me and partner have decided to part ways just not getting on he however is being so horrid about it he left on Friday leaving me and our child with nothing
I have sent a text today asking is he going to help us until I'm paid from work due to be paid on the 28th so about a week just over his reply was to ignore me which is fine but I'm worried sick where can I get help
I no there's food banks but you can only use them .twice in 12 months were I live and we had to use them when partner got laid of and I wasn't due to be paid
I was due to go food shopping yesterday his wages went in his bank on Thursday night and we usually do the shopping Saturday now have no packed lunch things for tommorow and my electric is severely running out
I don't have anything worth anything to sell apart from my phone but as i don't have a landline it's my only way of school and work contacting me
Child benefit goes in his bank monthly I have just filled a form in to change bank details to mine but that's not due for 2 weeks
Any ideas ?? Thankyou xx

Yes. You could approach family and friends

The local church

The food bank again and explain

What have you got in your cupboards?

Ask work for an advance?

Or failing all that, order from 'milk and more' and pay once you get paid

It won't help straight away, but report your change in circumstances to the Tax Credits tomorrow and make sure you get child tax credits and any working tax credits in your name. Also, he has to give you 15% of what he earns for your DC in child maintenance, as a minimum.

Have you no overdraft or credit card to use for the short term?

Hi no no overdraft or credit card was silly when I was young catalogues etc now even my own bank won't help
I have asked family to help but they can't they just get buy them selves
I'm ringing tax credits tommorow
I have cereal ,chopped tomatoes ,2 pasta and sauces ,3 Tins of kids spaghetti shapes ,hot choc ,bread sticks ,pack biscuits .mayo etc
I'll be sorting the child support out in the morning
Don't really want to tell everyone what's happened at the minute just told close family who I've asked to help
Will contact the food bank tommorow see If they will help thanks everyone
It's more his pack lunch I'm worrying about at the mo

I did text my boss yesterday but they said they don't do advances but to chat to them in the morning

I my freezer I have enough food for today and tommorow aswell I've just looked xx

Local councils run welfare funding for emergencies. Only 2 per year are allowed.

This is an example of how and what they can offer but each council sets its own criteria. Worth a go I think in your situation.

Yes I'm going to ring around tommorow when I'm
Not busy at work and on my dinner
I'm thinking if I explain to school would they let him have dinners for the last 3 days he breaks up wed and I could settle up when they go back maybe I don't no if they can do that but worth a try

Maybe postdate a cheque for the 3 days so that the school still get their money but not right away.

Hi I don't have a cheque book
I'm just going to speak to the school as soon as it opens and ask I'm sure they will help
Then it's just food and electric for home
It's a nightmare but trying to hide it all from my little one

Hi everyone spoke to school schools willing to give him dinner
Food bank can't help me again as it's there criteria that you only get help twice in 12 months
I've just run out of toilet roll to
I've ring child maintenance some ones ringing me back

Finally managed to speak to my boss they won't give me and advance
It's something they don't do no matter what the circumstances
Any one ideas how I can make some money I've nothing to well I've been looking
What survey sites are good and pay out

Meant sell not well !!

Order from milk & more as suggested further up. Cash converters to pawn things that you don't want to sell but are worth something eg the tv. Contact your partner's family - if they can't help then they may be able to talk some sense into him so he gives you money for the kids?

I'll try that now milk and more I think I've tried them previously and they didn't deliver in my area
I actually haven't anything to sell if I had it would be gone the tv is a big backed one not sure if people take them now I'll ring in the morning
I have my phone but it's the only way to contact school work doctors etc
I have no landline at home
I've asked for child benefit to be paid weekly but don't think it will effect it for this week as it wasn't due for 2 weeks anyway
His family are worse than him and don't believe the things he put me through I can try but I no the answer
And mine haven't got anything at the minute I'll sort it though just feel like I'm banging my head against the wall

Could the food bank not help you now that you are on your own. Surely they would if youve got a child.

Sorry just realised what you've said about food bank.

I've got a phonecall appointment with cab on Tuesday afternoon I'm hoping they can point me in the right direction food bank are saying no but with an organisation asking I don't no if it changes things

Are u in Scotland? Google Scottish Welfare fund and your local authority and make an application for a crisis grant over the phone. In England I think it is still called crisis loans and done through dwp. R u on any benefits? If all else fails childrens social work services for destitution payment they will pay for food and towards electricity for the child though not for u unfortunately.
U do need to talk to family/friends, they will want to support u through break up! His disregard of little now's needs at mo in leaving without necessities, is this something he has done throughout?
Are u frightened of him at all, can women's aid help?

Hi I'm not on benefits but i get child benefit I've just changed it to weekly and requested tax credits do the same and pay it into my bank
He was financially controlling though out that's why I got myself a little job
I have just been rummaging and found 8 pound on a savings stamp for Iceland I started saving then forgot about it I'll be going to Iceland tommorow with it
School are aware and are giving him his dinner I can phone the education people when I get paid and make a card payment or settle up when they go back
I just panicked thankyou everyone for the ideas think over the weekend I'll be sorting through clothes and putting them on eBay aswell

Ask at the local church
Any church worth its salt will be very willing to help you.

Hi can you PM me your address and I'll do what I can to help

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Hi completely understand that post
And yes me to I'm sure they will child maintenance have been in touch today I have give all the details of my x so now he'll have no choice in the matter x

I hope you can get things sorted OP. My blood is boiling reading your posts, men like your ex really bug me when they just feel it's acceptable to abdicate all financial responsibility. What if you did the same, where would your DC be then? Get straight on the phone to the CSA, any maintenance is rightly yours and from the sound of it you need it ASAP. Good luck.