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AND now he wants half my house...... where will it stop??

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Toothache · 15/08/2006 20:50

Got a letter from H's Solicitor.... he was half the profit on the house and a list of the assets.

He still hasn't paid me a penny.... CSA are officially USELESS! And he's not returned the car.

The AA membership and Insurance Direct Debits have been cancelled.

I've got an appointment with the Solicitor tomorrow.... I just want to curl up and go to sleep and to wake up when its all sorted out.

Feels like a losing battle. I pay for everything, I clothe him, buy a house, a car, pay all the bills whilst he ponced about on £11k...... and now he wants £25k and to see the kids for 5 hours on MOST Sundays (sometimes it won't be convenient for him)

Don't even have the energy to type an angry emoticon.

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Toothache · 16/08/2006 22:02

Thanks Spangles - He assaulted me in June and pled guilty. I've paid for everything and basically supported him.... house is mine, car is mine.... He's scum good and proper.

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WideWebWitch · 16/08/2006 22:06

Thinking of you Toothache. xx

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Toothache · 16/08/2006 22:15

Thanks WWW.

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spangles · 17/08/2006 07:57

Oh I am sorry your H is such a shit... does the fact that he assaulted you not affect his claim on your assets... seems very unfair that he can try to take so much. Anyway I hope you keep as moch as poss and thing get better for you very soon.

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Toothache · 20/08/2006 20:48

Well.... got a lovely phone call from H this morning at 9am. From what I could make out he said "Who the fuck is he.... now I know the fucking score....." Then I hung up and phoned the police. They couldn't really do much other than log the call and they went to his work to give him a 'friendly warning'.

What the feck????? Was he going to threaten me? I wish I had stayed on the line to hear what he had to say.... I may have had MORE evidence that could get him locked up. He's mental!
Luckily my friend stayed last night with her 2 wee ones so she was still here when he phoned. What a prick!?!!!

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iota · 20/08/2006 20:55

aawww Toothache - sorry it's going so badly for you. He's a rat

spangles · 20/08/2006 21:01

Hi toothache.. glad you wernt alone and hope someone is there with you tonight.
He sound like a bit of a psycho.. (like my ex)
Dont have any real advice except lock the doors

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Toothache · 20/08/2006 21:12

Noone here tonight.

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throckenholt · 20/08/2006 21:22

can you get something so that you can record incoming calls - so that you have evidence of what he is saying?

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Toothache · 20/08/2006 21:25

I don't think so unfortunately.... the police advised me to change my number. But at least if I know he's phoning....then I've got a hint as to what his mindset is and whether I'm in danger or not. I'm scared if I change my number he'll just come here.

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Toothache · 20/08/2006 22:40

Bump - is there anything he could do to hurt me... I mean.... financially. Could he go get a loan, for example, and us both to be joint liable for it?

He's definitely going to do something to hurt me. Can anyone offer any advice??? The police can do nothing unless he tries to hurt me, or leaves messages on my machine. He won't do that.

I'm terrified. Plus the police mentioned that they would have to record me as a vulnerable person, but the way they said it was quite ominous and they looked at ds when they saif it..... almost like it was something to do with the kids.

I'm scared and confused.

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iota · 20/08/2006 22:44

Toothache -I don't know what to say - I have no useful knowledge. Just bumping it for you

and a few ((((((hugs)))))

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Toothache · 20/08/2006 22:46

Thanks Iota. It's probably a question for the daytime time crew.... noone wants to get embroiled in a conversation like this at 10.45 on a school night.

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iota · 20/08/2006 22:46

it's not a school night in England - 2 more weeks to go

iota · 20/08/2006 22:48

did you ever get any advice from womens aid?

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Toothache · 20/08/2006 22:50

No they were shite!!!

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iota · 20/08/2006 22:51

oh sorry

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Toothache · 20/08/2006 22:54

Victim Support have sent someone to see me though. She's coming again in 2 weeks time. Doesn't help me when I'm in the house alone with the kids like tonight. Jumping at every creak or bang or car driving passed.

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iota · 20/08/2006 22:56

what a 'mare. Just don't know what to suggest.

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Toothache · 20/08/2006 22:59

I know Iota... I appreciate you talking to me though.

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iota · 20/08/2006 23:00

Tell me about your new man

iota · 20/08/2006 23:01

I'm on my own - have been for the last week because dh is working in South Africa

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Toothache · 20/08/2006 23:02

He's lovely. So supportive to me and he really doesn't need to be. I'd have run a mile if I was him!
Thats harsh, is he away alot?

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iota · 20/08/2006 23:04

It's really nice that you have met someone who appreciates you - good for the old self exteem, after all the crap X said to you

Kathlean · 20/08/2006 23:10

There is something you can do with your credit record, have a note attached saying you are nothing to do with your X and not liable for any debts etc that he incurs.

I don't understand how it works hopefully someone can point you in the right direction in the morning.