Is anyone prepared to share what maintenance they receive on one child from xp?

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Separated from dds dad 12 yrs ago when she was 2 - we have private arrangement it doesn't feel anywhere enough but I'm not sure if I'm right

£80 a month. Self employed, hides his income, house next to his sold for £850,000 two years ago.

£70 a week. For that he has left us in peace for 4yrs, no contact, cards or anything. We're safe.

I don't care that he probably earns more these days. All that matters is that I can budget on that amount of money and it can stay like that for another 13yrs.

And we're going to be in for it when the CSA starts charging and raises his payment. I wake up scared stiff of what might happen .

He signs on the dole - but earns thousands each month on fleabay. Because he's on benefits, they automatically deduct £2.50 a week. Otherwise he wouldn't contribute anything. If the CSA deducted the 15% of his actual earnings, I suppose it would be about £180 a month in child support.nAs it isn't counted as income, that amount would certainly have kept us off the poverty line these past few years whilst I was dependant on state benefits, but I feel uncomfortable about accepting money from someone who has exiled his children anyway - he hasn't seen or spoke to them in 1.5 years.

When I read about some Mums on here complaining that they 'only' get £800 a month in child support my jaw drops. What child costs £800 a month? Are those same Mums also slogging their behinds off at work supporting their children financially, or living off the child support? It's a a Daily Fail view I know, but I'm curious how it's justified.

I've always thought that school shoes vouchers or help with uniform costs and a new winter coat once a year would be far more practical than money. That way the father knows his money is being spent on the children directly.

I never wanted any money from him and what the benefits office deduct I out towards their swimming cost each week, so at least they are enjoying some leisure activity courtesy of their father.

It's justified because that child should have a standard of living equal to their fathers. If they are paying £800 a month in maintenance the father must be earning a large amount. The child should benefit from that.

£0.00 for 2 dc. my ex has 2 houses in probate, signs on and earns £450 per week being self employed karma is all I rely on

I get £35 a week. One child. He is also self employed and able to hide earnings. Has several holidays and weekends away each year, new cars, motorbikes etc etc. he begrudges every penny.

£140 a month for the last 2 years, we separated when DD was 1, she's 11 now. Before that I got sweet fa because he decided to jack his job in and become a student for 7 years (7 years!!) to become a teacher so he could have all the school holidays off with DD while I worked.... Not.
The money I get has been decided by the CSA and is taken directly from him as I would still get nothing if left up to him. And he refuses point blank to contribute towards school uniform, shoes, school trips, anything she does unless it's on a weekend with him. He even tries to get the maintenance reduced when she's with him for 3 straight weeks in the summer holidays ffs. Says I get enough to be able to pay for all that and more.
I agree with the vouchers for school uniform or shoes, but not all of it. I still pay for swimming, music lessons, dancing, school trips because I don't want DD to miss out. I also have 3 other DCs (but their dad's lovely!)

£200, he very rarely sees DS though. They've sadly never had much of a relationship - we split up when DS was very young, and he moved away. He's recently started his own business, but I've always tried to be flexible re: maintenance, so hopefully this shouldn't become an issue.

We pay €450 a month (private arrangement) to DH's XW. Their DS is 20yo and doing equivalent of OU but much cheaper than OU. We paid 600 per month until he was 18 and at school full time. Now he has a pt job so we cut the allowance. He lives with his mum, no mortgage or rent for her. By law we have to contribute til he is 25 or in ft work. We haven't seen him since he was 15 :( He doesn't like me.

It's not all one-way traffic. I give my ex £1100 pm. She upped sticks to way out west with our daughters without any notice or consultation. She doesn't work, and has no interest in supporting herself. We barely communicate, despite my efforts. The only good thing is that we able to have managed an entirely reliable arrangement for every other weekend time for me with our daughters, though I have to to do all the travelling and pay for it. I don't earn a lot, though a reasonable amount, but living on my own in London is pretty crippling, so much so that I spent years living in a shared house with 3 other men. There's nothing I can do to improve the situation, legally. The trump card is the children. And it's played regularly.

I have real sympathy with those on here who have exes who refuse to take any responsibility, especially financial. It's gotta be hard.

£250 per month for DS. Has been that amount for 13 years. He earns double now but has also acquired a wife, 2 more DCs and a mortgage.

I'm not complaining. DD's father didn't pay a bean, and ditched his job when CSA filed an attachment of earnings

£50 a week, though the CSA calculator said it should be £89 so you can guess the kind of wage he pulls in. He "can't afford" the amount he's supposed to pay and if I "want to live a certain lifestyle" I should get a well paying job not scrounge off him

Mine is about £100 a month, but the CSA took about a year to get any money from him as he refused to pay so they now take it straight from his employer plus arrears for that year.

My mother got naff all for me, ever.

How come all these men are able to get away with not taking responsibility. Who picks up the slack? The taxpayer I presume, including people trying to support their own families.

Whos charged for the new csa next year? The father paying it or the mother recieving it?

Is that true about the CSA? That's awful if so. So many more women will get nothing.

IS that true re:CSA?

tiger + jules yes, in the future parents will be chaged if they cannot come to a private agreement. Even if people have suffered domestic abuse. And cases that have been running smoothly for years will be closed and set up again with the loss of charges. So XP's long standing £300 a month will be increased to £350 (the 50 odd quid will go to the CSA) AND we will be deducted £20 or so from our side. They cunts Tories were told not to do it by many charities, I wrote to my MP and some Lords, and the House Of Lords tried to stop it, but Cameron and his mates pushed it through anyway.

So because we can't get a private agreement with a man who threatened to kill us we'll lose money and be at risk when he is asked to pay more .

I'm going to ask the CSA if they can not raise his payment but take all the charges out of my money. I'd be worse off, but safe.

Sorry for typos! Am walking to work!

250/month worked out amicably without CSA. He could probably afford more but I have a good income so it's adequate for me.

What happens if the father pays £5 a week?

£40 a week (but that's for 2 kids so £20 a child)

What do you think he should pay OP? It's no good asking what others get, it isn't based on their xp income

My daughter is 24 now and her wanker father paid £5 per week