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HELP Housing Association rules when splitting up.

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 08:40

Ok both names are on the tenancy. I have chucked him out but according to other people because his name is on the tenancy, I cannot legally kick him out and if he goes he will be seen to have made himself homeless and will not be entitled to re housing.

I can't find anything in any of my paperwork about this. I know that they give points for breakdown of relationship but surely they don't expect us to carry on living together until they can rehouse him.

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 08:57

bump

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littlerach · 08/02/2006 09:05

Haven't a clue, but you could try CAB.

How are you doing anyway?

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 09:07

Ok, a bit stressed this morning as xp is here going on and on about this.

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Hayls · 08/02/2006 09:19

I suspect that he does have rights but if you explained the situation to the HA they would remove his name from the tenancy then he could apply as homeless in his own right. MAke sure you mention ireconciliable (sp?) breakdown and the negative aspects of him remaining in th home and they should deal with it fairly quickly. To be classed as homeless he needs to have no other options and he must not stay in the home AT ALL otherwise they will say he has a temporary alternative. I don't think family breakdown means intentionaly homeless but I'm not an expert ( I do work in housing -not your situation- so might be able to help a bit)

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 09:33

Thanks Hayls, think i am going to try and ring CAB in a bit and see if they can tell me.

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 09:45

Rang the HA and they said that technically he would be making himself homeless but that when he applied for housing he wouold give the breakdown of the relationship as his reason for needing housing. I asked if he could go on their list and they said yeah but he will be waiting at least a year for anything.

He is insisting it has to be this estate, not this are this estate in which case he will be waiting years.

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 09:47

At this rate i will end up leaving.

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misdee · 08/02/2006 09:48

dont you dare. he is being an awkward arse. he is trying to weasle his way back in.

Surfermum · 08/02/2006 09:48

Why can't he rent privately?

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 09:49

He can't afford to rent privatly round here.

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tiredemma · 08/02/2006 09:53

cant he go on the council list?

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 09:55

Thats what i'm trying to persuade him to do because then he wouold get on every HA list for sutton and the council list.

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mummyhill · 08/02/2006 09:59

Nutty don't let him back in and don't leave hun you need to keep that roof over your head cause of the kids. Stay strong.

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 10:01

OK i think i got through to him a bit, he has agreed that it can be this area not just this estate, so next job is to get an appointment with the council housing department.

Half of this is his family talking, especially his psycotic mother.

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Hayls · 08/02/2006 10:11

Does he work, NUtcracker? If so he might be able to get help from the council with a rent deposit scheme, which would help him get a privat rent. HE will get extra points for family breakdown resulting in homelessness. He must make sure that they realise anywher he stays is temporary (i.e sleeping on floor/sofa/have to leave in 3 days etc) Don't leave, you can make him go.

tiredemma · 08/02/2006 10:46

why cant he go and live with his mom if she has so much too say on the matter!!!!

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 12:53

Oh don't even get me started on his mother, i'll end up exploding.

Right i think i have managed to talk a bit of sense in to him. He agreed he can't just apply for this estate, and I also think i may have even persuaded him to look for something closer to his family (south derbyshire). I think it wold do him the world of good to be closer to his brother. He is obviously concerned about being so far from the kids but i said to him that he is more than welcome to have them for weekends at a time or whatever.

I don't think him living on this estate will work.

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tiredemma · 08/02/2006 13:04

no, him living on your doorstep would be a huge mistake.

you would never be rid of him 100% if he has constant access to you.

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 13:05

Am just feeling so crap and guilty today. He is such a mess and it's all my fault.

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tiredemma · 08/02/2006 13:12

nutty, you will feel crap, but its his own fault that he is a mess. What about how shit you have been feeling?

coppertop · 08/02/2006 13:16

Definitely not your fault, Nutty. He's a grown man but seems to be relying on you to sort out his housing problems.

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 13:17

I feel responsible though, i mean i did chuck him out with nowhere to go and hardly any money.

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lou33 · 08/02/2006 13:17

you asked him to go but his behaviour is actually what caused it

Rhubarb · 08/02/2006 13:18

He's a mess and it's your fault? I don't think so! I wondered when he would do this to you. Custy will know about the Housing Association rules, can you CAT her or do you want me to do it?

He is trying to get you to take him back. He wants you to feel guilty, he'll play the victim for quite a while. But you just read over your previous threads and remind yourself of what a 'victim' he has been all through your marriage. Be strong ok?

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nutcracker · 08/02/2006 13:23

Ok, i am trying just struggling today.

I want him settled like now, but only so it's stops me feeling so guilty really.

I gave him some food and brought him a bounty LOL.

He told me to check my emails on Valentines day cos there will be something for me. Apparently he sorted it last week , probably an ecard or something i spose. He said he thought he should warn me.

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