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Homeless young family!

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babyhayley · 24/04/2011 10:57

Okie dokie, before I get started here I must stress I would talk to CAB/Dole Office whatever but as me and my husband work full time, despite our best efforts that's not working out for us as they are only ever open at stupid times and they never pick up the phone (maybe snail mail).

I'm in a bit of a fix with being able to afford a home. Me and my husband have private rented for years but the issue is we have to leave in September as l/l is selling and doesn't want to renew our tenancy. At this point I'll be 8 months pregnant!

I've spoke to the council but all they do is drag their heels and never give me an answer as to how our housing application may progress (they know i'm pg and I've been on the list for 7 years).

I'm starting to understand that I probably won't be able to rely on the council as we'll probably end up in a druggy bedsit at best. So, step in private renting! Only issue being I can't afford the deposit and months rent up front. It's not that I want to sponge, it's just that I need to seriously repair my car to keep on working until I drop to pay for baby stuff (thanks for removing my £500 bit of hope Mr Cameron), husbands salary just about covers all household bills and when you consider I will have to stop working a large deposit is simply too much. I've done a budget and allowing for all the expense I reckon we will be short of covering it all. Only by about £300 or so.

Looking at tax credit and maternity pay etc we could private rent no problem! The only issue then going forward is that I will probably have to go back to work after 6 months as my maternity allowance will stop. I'll be honest - I'd rather stay at home until the baby is at least 1!

It's a big mess - all happening to a young couple who earn £40,000 a year between them and have done for many years. How messed up is this Country when you can't get a decent start on those earnings!

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babyhayley · 24/04/2011 12:17

Nice suggestion, but Cray's Hill is a Gypsy camp and although I have nothing against that (a very dear friend of mine is Gypsy). This particular site is due to be evacuated by the local council / police.

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GypsyMoth · 24/04/2011 12:18

try your netmums local for baby stuff!!

GypsyMoth · 24/04/2011 12:18

also gumtree....for baby stuff and rental property

ivykaty44 · 24/04/2011 12:18

I can find a few other 2 bedroomed flats to rent in Essex for £450 per calendar month

babyhayley · 24/04/2011 12:20

Ivykaty44 - who on earth is going to want to live with a newborn baby waking up for a feed every 2-3 hours?

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TidyDancer · 24/04/2011 12:20

babyhayley, what areas of Essex are you willing to move to? People may be able to help you find somewhere.

babyhayley · 24/04/2011 12:21

Just see that message - I can't find anything for £450 to rent 2 bed flat wise.

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TidyDancer · 24/04/2011 12:21

Actually, I happen to think you're right OP, a house share if hardly practical with a newborn. Not for you, but for others. I think the cheapest place you can find just for the three of you would be best.

TidyDancer · 24/04/2011 12:21

if is

babyhayley · 24/04/2011 12:22

Well I live in Basildon which is one of the most deprived areas of Essex so anything would be a step up - so anywhere really. However I would like to be fairly near my Mum and Dad as they will be able to help babysit if I decide to return to work.

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ivykaty44 · 24/04/2011 12:26

I was giving a few options, ear plugs, skint and a positive attitude are helpfull when sharing with a newborn. As you say though its not for everyone.

ivykaty44 · 24/04/2011 12:27

one bedroomed flat £500 per month In basildon

ivykaty44 · 24/04/2011 12:28

one bedroom flat £500 per month

TidyDancer · 24/04/2011 12:29

Littlebury Green

Pitsea

Long Lynderswood, 2-bed

Timberlog Place

Any of those any good?

TidyDancer · 24/04/2011 12:29

All the links I gave are under £600 per month.

DarthNiqabi · 24/04/2011 12:30

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kuckingfunt · 24/04/2011 12:42

To me its simple - you need to save £60 per month from now until September to get your deposit but you are spending £50 per month on Sky? Get rid of the Sky - its hardly a necessity if you are struggling to find a home. You would only need to find £10 a month then and you will have your deposit.

babyhayley · 24/04/2011 12:44

TidyDancer - these places seem good. A few are in Pitsea which is a little far from work for my OH but that Long Lynderswood one is really good.

We didn't originally pay a deposit I'm afraid, as it was totally private we negotiated a pro-rata amount to cover. However from experience I know this we asked a letting agent to do this when we moved years ago and they said no. Apparently they can't use the money towards a new place until a check out inspection has been done which, they cannot do until you have left.

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babyhayley · 24/04/2011 12:45

I agree Kuckingfunt - good name!

I suppose there's many suggestions all being made so I'm taking them all on board. I'll be a billionaire at this rate lol (I wish)

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Collegemum38 · 24/04/2011 12:59

You do not need to spend £500 on baby stuff. I do appreciate its lovely to have it all new for a new a baby but if its a choice of druggy bedsit or good clean secondhand baby stuff I know what I would choose.

We were reasonably well off when I had my first DD but still had lots of second hand stuff bought at boot sales as I just did not see the point buying brand spanking new stuff when secondhand baby stuff tends to be as new anyway for a fraction of the cost. Infact the only item I insisted on having brand spanking new was a cot mattress.

Start looking at local boot sales, spring is here and lots will be on over the coming months. You can see for yourself they "type" of people you are buying stuff from and choose accordingly. You can barter too, especially if you buy a job lot of someone. Just be sure to check the items over thoroughly first. Most pushchair covers/seats come off and can be scrubbed by hand if not put in the washer. Stuff like baby clothes are never tatty or worn out because they are used for such a short time, same goes for cot and crib bedding - all can be washed and most boiled washed.

Buy a good anti bac spray and wipe down cots,highcahirs any toys etc too.

You may also like to look at these sites for baby stuff www.preloved.co.uk/ If you register, you can search your local area.

www.gumtree.com/

Tolalola · 24/04/2011 14:33

And remember you don't need everything straight away. e.g. a highchair etc can wait a few months. To be honest, you don't even need a pushchair for a tiny baby, as they can be carried in a sling.

All you really need to start with is for them to be clothed, fed, changed and bathed. You could post or PM me your list of new baby 'essentials' and we can tell you what you really actually need. It's very confusing and marketing-orientated for first time mums. Companies will try to convince you that you must have loads of things that you really don't need.

Celibin · 25/04/2011 14:47

What about applying to a Housing Association ? Next best to the Council . They do seem to gie priority to people with children.

GypsyMoth · 25/04/2011 14:48

you need alot more than children to gain priority on HA lists!!

Doobydoo · 25/04/2011 15:00

Round her you have to pay 6-8 weeks deposit and a months rent in advance.So even if 500 a month that is 1250 just to move in.It is bonkers.Also credit checks if you are going through an agency can cost between 100 and 250.It is mad.and I can seehow you would be struggling to find that amount up front.I doubt you would be eligible for the Council Deposit scheme and would be surprised if you even msde it onto the council house list.When we were in difficulty we were not eligible[it is bonkers imo].We rent through a private estate now and it is fantastic for so many reasons.I will never rent through agents or private landlords again[where they think they are doing you a favour!!]
Anyway,I digree.I think it is worth you trying to get through to CAB or equivalent if poss and I wish you all the best!

SouthGoingZax · 25/04/2011 15:00

I have a perfectly good car seat (used for 9 months for my own baby who is now in 2nd stage car seats) It's a Recaro seat, doesn't need ISOFIX, never been in an accident. You can have it for nothing if you like. PM me if you'd like it.

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