Termination because of abnormalities

[evanshayleyleanne]

Help. I am 14 weeks pregnant and on monday was told at the scan that my baby may not be okay. Its possible that his skull and brain arm't forming. I had another scan yesterday with the consultant who was unable to fully diagnose and we are waiting now for the specialist sonographer to see us tomorrow. In the meantime between monday and now i have been in hell. Its my second pregnancy and i look pregnant. I can feel the baby move and have bonded with him. I'm preparing for the worst tomorrow as if the diagnosis is bad the doctor has said that there is no chance of the baby surviving. If it doesn't die during pregnancy it will within 24 hours of birth. They will advise termination. I'm confused and depressed. My dh and i are both miserable and seen to be revolving in different worlds since this has happened. I need advice. Has this happened to anyone else? How do you cope?

I can't imagine what you are going through.
I'm so so sad for you

Hi again,

I am so sorry that you ended up with that diagnosis, and the outcome.

All I can say is that going through it doesn't mean we're strong - I felt utterly weak and paralysed too - it's just something we end up having to do, and having to live with. I wish I didn't have to live with it and I wish I'd never heard those words 'incompatible with life' either. I have heard them twice and terminated twice. I don't think you ever get over it - it has changed me forever. But life does carry on and if you have a child already to care for you almost have no time to grieve anyway.

I have found immense support on 'antenatal tests and choices' on the following thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_tests_choices/899148-Talk-Antenatal-support-thread-for-women-who-have -chosen-to

please do come and talk when you feel ready.

Thinking of you.

hi i had my 22 week scan yesterday and found out that my baby has Distal Arthrogryposis, been in a right state since.

Waiting for Tuesday when we are going to see a specialist, if nothing changes we have been advised to have a termination!

oh my god im so so sorry i had only read the op . i will report my post to mnhq and ask for it to be removed.

im so so sorry. hope your ok my deepest sympathies.

thinking of you at this time i have been through this 3 times 1 abortion and 2 late losses. i hate the term abortion as i was never really given a choice as doctors told me baby wouldnt survive. It does get easier and when you have other children it really helps to keep you focussed and not falling apart. please give yourself time to heal and get support there are some really good groups out there.

K2810

I'm so sorry to hear about this.

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K2810

I'm so sorry to hear about this.

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