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Help me get through this

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girlsyearapart · 20/12/2009 17:45

5 weeks pregnant with dc3.

Lots of bleeding this morning.

Been to hospital they said very likely miscarriage but can't scan until tomorrow.

I'm totally unprepared for how upset this has made me.

Anyone tell me what will happen after the scan? Will I have to have any procedure?

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StealthPolarBear · 20/12/2009 17:46

oh shit. I'm so sorry

StealthPolarBear · 20/12/2009 17:51

bump, as i have no advice, just sympathy

Trafficcone · 20/12/2009 17:51

So sorry. It's highly unlikely if you are bleeding and oy 5 wks that you'll need an ERPC. At this stage it's more likely to just happen naturally. Mind you, bleeding doesn't always mean miscarriage. Don't expect too much from the scan tho, at 5wks you're only likely to see the sac and maybe a foetal pole but not a hb.
Good luck x

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girlsyearapart · 20/12/2009 17:56

Thanks.

There has been one episode of lots of bright red blood- no clots or anything and all has stopped now but I can't imagine for a second that there is anything left after that.

I had an 8wk scan with dd2 and there was a heartbeat but I'm not expecting anything at 5wks.

Stealth how's your latest arrival?

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detoxdiva · 20/12/2009 18:01

Sorry to hear this. As Trafficcone said, it is unlikely you'll see much at a scan so early...bleeding doesn't always mean a mc but if you have had heavy bleeding then it doesn't sound too hopeful, sorry. It is unlikely you'll need an ERPC if you are bleeding naturally.

Even at such an early stage, don't underestimate how losing a pregnancy makes you feel - I had a mmc last Oct which was picked up at my 12 week scan....the best advice would be to take it easy for a few days, put your feet up (hard I know it fou have dc already and esp so close to Christmas) and talk it through with your dp. Wishing you well for your scan tomorrow.

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girlsyearapart · 20/12/2009 18:08

Thankyou.

I am knocked for six at how upset I feel. I know there are people who have never been able to have children at all and I have two beautiful daughters but I just feel awful.

I have no hope whatsover that this wasn't a miscarriage I just don't think I could face any kind of intervention.

My sister has taken dd1 overnight and DH is seeing to Dd2. I feel useless.

I so wish it wasn't so close to Christmas everyone expects you to be jolly and happy. The only way to get people to leave me alone is to tell them and I'm not very good with too much attention/sympathy iyswim.

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StealthPolarBear · 20/12/2009 18:13

She's lovely thanks
Do you have a time for a scan tomorrow?
I think you might have to fake some mild flu over Christmas to explain any lack of sociableness, no one could blame you for that.

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girlsyearapart · 20/12/2009 18:16

dd2 has injections at 10am DH taking her.

My nieces birthday party is at 3.

want it all to go away

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StealthPolarBear · 20/12/2009 18:45

hope you can get throught it xx

Julezboo · 20/12/2009 19:06

girls as the pp's have said it is very unlikely that you will need an EPRC. I just had my 7th mc at 8 weeks, i started to bleed and chose to let it happen naturally.

Emotionally its tought though so take it easy on yourself, All my heavy bleeding and clotting finished (i hope) on Friday so I have decided to be happy and sociable for my boys...although this is my 7th time going through this I guess in a way I know the motions.

I can imagine its hit you hard though unmumnettyhugs x

StealthPolarBear · 20/12/2009 19:09

sorry to hear it's happened to you too Julez

Spaceman · 20/12/2009 19:18

Sorry to hear it, OP. It's unlikely at five weeks you'll have any procedures apart from a scan as it is so early on - it doesn't make it less upsetting though.

I had two MC's - eight and seven weeks and I was totally scarred and messed up until I had a successful pregnancy again six months later.

Just don't try to get pg again too soon like I did - let your body recover first and go at it with a clean slate.

Take care.x.

Julezboo · 20/12/2009 20:14

Thanks stealth I'm doing ok though x

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girlsyearapart · 20/12/2009 20:43

Thanks.

Stories from people who've had this happen over and over again make me feel worse for being upset.

The only thing DH wants to know is when we can try again. I don't know if I want to.

I'm glad to hear that you all seem to think I won't have to have any procedures though.

So sorry to hear about your losses Julez and spaceman

I'll post again tomorrow

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Julezboo · 20/12/2009 21:23

girls - dont feel bad for being upset, greive, you need to. Whether someone has gone through one or more its still the most upsetting thing I have ever experienced xxx

BooPen · 20/12/2009 21:35

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've had 3 mc at around 6-8 weeks and not needed intervention. Only my first one required an ERPC.
I will be thinking of you tomorrow and hoping that the scan will bring positive news x

Julezboo · 20/12/2009 21:44

Also from the other end of the spectrum, I bled alot, heavily with DC2 good luck for your scan tomorrow and please update us x

Wheelybug · 20/12/2009 21:48

Sorry to see this girls. I've been there too - at 7 weeks (didn't need any medical procedure at that point).

I hope it isn't as bad as you think. Thinking of you...

pigletmania · 20/12/2009 22:49

Sorry girlsyearapart no expert advice big hugs. I have my scan on 31st dec to see if there is anything remaining, i miscarried the baby but still have something left. It is so hard over this period, everybody happy and jolly when you just feel like crap. Bleeding does not necessarily mean miscarriage as my fil who is a gp told me.

pigletmania · 20/12/2009 22:51

Gosh julz just read a few of the posts, big hugs to you how do you do it, this is my first and i am really cut up.

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girlsyearapart · 21/12/2009 12:40

meant to be having the scan now but they called to change to 230.

only a few hours but it was hard enough already. Now my childcare arrangements have had to be changed and me and DH will either be late/not there for our nieces party. Mum and dad won't be there either as they are stuck in belgium and can't get home.

more later.

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StealthPolarBear · 21/12/2009 13:37

oh no!!

Jewelsandgems · 21/12/2009 14:23

GYA (waves from other thread) I had so much bleeding with DD2 at 5 weeks that I really thought it was my period being late (was not ttc) and I even used tampons. But it wasn't, stopped after just 1 day and it was implementation bleeding.

My thoughts are with you in your scan. xx

Julezboo · 21/12/2009 17:18

any news yet girls?

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girlsyearapart · 21/12/2009 19:23

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!

OH MY GOD it's all fine!

I cannot believe it. We went to the scan I just expected the worst there was so much blood.

But no the baby is there and there is a heartbeat, all in right place, can't see a reason for bleeding and I am in fact 7 weeks 3 days!

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