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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Anyone else waiting for Natural MC to happen? Support together?

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Julezboo · 16/12/2009 18:23

I am supposed to be 8 weeks tomorrow, had some heavy bleeding last night and scan comfirmed this morning that baby hasn't made it. Preg sac and baby where still there though which shocked me as I thought after what i lost last night it wouldnt be...

So now waiting for it to happen...This is my 7th loss I think, the previous one before this was twins so 8 babies all in all. It's horrible. I do have two miracle boys as well

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Northernlebkuchen · 16/12/2009 18:27

Julezboo - no experience but saw you'd started this thread and just wanted to say how sorry I am that you have this again

I hope you can have as pain-free and quick an experience as possible, waiting must be so awful. Be very kind to yourself, lots of pain killers, cosy blankets and warm drinks.

So sorry

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Julezboo · 16/12/2009 18:34

Thanks northern. I'm doing better with it this time I think, although it may hit me tomorrow when I have no one else at home...

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sh77 · 16/12/2009 19:26

So sorry Julez. I had a MMC recently. Started spotting at 9 weeks but was told baby only measured 5-6. I waited about 3 weesk for a natural but nothing happened and so opted for ERPC. Heavy bleeding started on same day but I went ahead with ERPC. I hope that it physically over very soon. xx

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Julezboo · 16/12/2009 20:19

Lunatic - of course I do! We both need support at the moment. Was hoping you would see this.

I am feeling very washed out, exhausted but can't sleep.

I'm also doing ok until I actually have to say it out loud. I just told my dad and I got upset again. Poor DH has gotta go and tell all his work mates tomorrow He has to do them as we have a works ball to go to next wed and we dont want people congratulating me (i used to work there too!)

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Julezboo · 16/12/2009 21:06

Thanks Lunatic...

I have just popped my nightly dose of co codamol and filled my hot water bottle. Pain isn't so bad tonight and bleeding not so heavy.

Thankfully I have done my xmas preps! DS1 is in school tomorrow and DS2 is with his nan so I can get some rest and he has a christmas party to go.

This one has hit me though, all my losses have happened before 6 weeks when there was no "real" baby. I keep having shocking images of my poor peanut suffocating That's why I'm still awake right now instead of sleeping.

I'll check in tomorrow x

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Julezboo · 16/12/2009 21:09

Oh sorry - have to go to xmas ball, it is my old work place and worried we will get charged if we dont turn up. We are only going for teh food though and will slip away early x

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jocesar · 17/12/2009 11:42

I've just come back from an 8 wk scan having learnt my foetus isn't going to make it and I apparently just have to sit here and wait to miscarry. It's a horrible feeling.

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Julezboo · 17/12/2009 12:16

So sorry jocear. Have you started bleeding yet?

It's hit me like a tonne of bricks today. I'm home alone, pretty sure I passed baby this morning In a lot of pain and sick and dizzy

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DreamingAboutSleep · 17/12/2009 12:47

I had a MMC on Monday and am still reeling from it all, I was 9 weeks, started bleeding on Sunday had a scan Monday which showed the baby was all in the right place but only 5 weeks, they thought it might be confusion with dates at that point as my periods had only just returned after b/feeding DD1 for 12 months so left the hospital still bleeding but really hopeful.

But lost the baby Monday afternoon, spent all of Monday evening in hospital before they confirmed it.

It's the first time for me and I don't know how you have coped with it all or have the strength to keep trying. I feel like I wouldn't be able to cope with going through this again. Am thinking of you both Julezboo and Jocesar and hoping your not going through it alone, lots of mumsnetty hugs

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Julezboo · 17/12/2009 13:46

God it hurts

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just1moreplease · 17/12/2009 14:21

julez are you ok? (physically i mean.)

so sorry you have been through this again.

take care of yourself.

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Julezboo · 17/12/2009 14:31

yeah it hurts more than i expected it too i think.

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just1moreplease · 17/12/2009 14:52

julez if you are still in alot of painyou might not have passed it all yet.

please seek medical advice if you are bleeding heavily or if painkillers are not helping you.

i know you have been through mc before and i dont want to come across as interfering, but it is so easy to put off getting help.

with my 3rd mc i put of geting help and ended up passed out on bathroom floor at 4am.

hope you feel better quickly.

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Julezboo · 17/12/2009 16:19

Just - thanks. I am coping ok until about an hour before I can take more pain killers. DH will be with me soon.

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jocesar · 17/12/2009 16:44

OMG. hope you are OK. I haven't started miscarrying yet- it's a horrible waiting game. I find it unbelievable that we are sent home to 'deliver' a dead foetus at home into the toilet with no help nor support. Seems a bit barbaric.

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Julezboo · 17/12/2009 20:19

Thanks Lunatic, I just got home from DS1's carol concert where I won a bottle wine!

Pain has eased off but bleeding heavily still Just want it over with now tbh.

I am keeping DS1 off school tomorrow, he wont miss much and I could do with the company.

Jocesar and Dreaming - I hope your doing ok?

Lunatic, not desperate all all. In between DS1 and DS2 i had 4 mc's in a row, dec, jan, feb and mar - we didnt wait!

We also told DS1 today who got horribly upset - vowed not to tell him next time until we know everything is going to be ok! Poor boy. DS2 is too little to understand.

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DreamingAboutSleep · 17/12/2009 22:01

How are you doing Julezboo? Hope your through the worst of it now and the pains eased off some more.

Jocesar - How are you doing? I hope your ok and not still waiting for it all to happen, being sent home to wait does seem so wrong

Thanks Lunatic, it was being sent home twice with the hope that it would all be ok that really did me, I would never have imagined it would be so incredibly hard and that so little can be done for you. I am sure your right though, as I'm starting to feel better today (and so thinking when to start TTC again) and even if I did go through it all again I would know a bit more and be a bit more prepared for it.

Any how, glad your through the worst and I hope your feeling less icky and your DH is on board with a Christmas conception.

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Julezboo · 17/12/2009 22:06

dreaming thanks for asking I'm doing ok now. Don't think the worst is over yet, haven't passed anything at all just blood, pains have eased off somewhat but preparing myself for a long night.

Jocesar - were you given any other options? There are 3 options, ERPC, Tablets or naturally, i chose to wait naturally as I had already started to bleed quite heavily.

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jocesar · 18/12/2009 17:34

Started bleeding this morning- not too much, don't think I have passed the foetus yet. A slight stomach ache but nothing horrible. I'm actually relieved that it's starting to happen, i just want it all over with.

It's strange and I feel a bit guilty- I've had lots of friends that have miscarried but have not really given much thought to it. I will be so much more supportive in the future.

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Julezboo · 18/12/2009 21:16

Hi all,

Well I finally passed baby and sac around 5pm. Saw it clear as day It was an odd situation. Didnt quite know how to deal with it. I went for a pee and out it came after a massive pain, after me being almost pain free all dayy. TMI there was no blood so it was fairly easy to see. I didnt know what to do so I looked at it for a minute, said goodbye and then flushed.

Feels like a huge weight has been lifted and I feel loads better today

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pigletmania · 18/12/2009 21:42

Aww sorry Julez dont know what to say. The same thing happened to me last week, i started to bleed like a period, scan confirmed that the baby had stopped growing (9 weeks), soon after i went home for a sleep and was covered in blood, went to the loo and passed something bigger than the usual clot, i knew that it was the sac and i just felt empty inside i knew that it was gone. I had another scan this week, everything gone accept some clot which i have to wait to pass, have another scan on new years eve (oh joy). If the rest of the clot has not passed will have and EPC thingy. Just want it to be over so we can get on with life and back to trying again. I have a bautiful little girl 2.9 who has really helped soften the blow and given me something to focus on.

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