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onto number 6, wish me luck....

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sunburntats · 31/10/2009 19:45

Stopped charting so no idea when my LMP was.

feeling funny, so did test, BFP.

next day bleeding.....ususal shite story for me. bleeding was tiny and over by the end of the day.

so waiting now for another week, then gonna go to EFAu.

sigh, here i go again.

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CarGirl · 31/10/2009 19:49

How heartbreaking

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sunburntats · 31/10/2009 19:51

my heart is now solid rock to be honest, its beyond broken.

i have no emotions, feeling just "normal" because this is a normal pattern for me.

never get excited about BFP, never get excited about symptoms of pregnancy, no matter how strong, it all means nothing.

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CarGirl · 31/10/2009 19:53

ever they made any progress with what may be the cause or what treatment they may be able to offer?

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sunburntats · 31/10/2009 19:55

na,
Offerd me Clomid because apparently i dont ovulate.

No explanation for continuous mcs. "just bad luck" i am told.....my arse!

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PacificWerewolfwoohood · 31/10/2009 20:00

Hi, sunburn, fingers tightly crossed here for you.
That's how I felt after repeated MMcs: cheated of the excitement of a positive pregnancy test but the BFP just did not mean much .

Anyway, very best of luck to you. You never know...

CarGirl · 31/10/2009 20:02

I know a couple of people who started taking half an aspirin a day although they had no diagnosis as it helps thicken the lining of the womb.

I would insist on some sort of scan to rule out fibroids, leasions, cysts etc.

ClaireDeLoon · 31/10/2009 20:10

I'm so sorry sunburn six is awful

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sunburntats · 31/10/2009 20:12

it all just means pain, bleeding, tablets, peseries, gas and air, morphine and overnight stay in hospital. Thats what it all means to me.

it means that every one else who excitedly anounce they are pregnant at 5/6/7/8 weeks same time as me, will get lovely healthy bumps like normal people do.
I dont even tell any one because its embarrasing and i look like a knob every time.

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CarGirl · 31/10/2009 20:12
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ClaireDeLoon · 31/10/2009 20:15

They should really be doing scans etc as CarGirl says - I am at a higher risk of mc because I have a bicornuate uterus for example, and in some instances that can be surgically corrected.

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sunburntats · 31/10/2009 20:18

had so many scans over the years, tons of them.

No point in going for a scanyet, they will only send me away and tell me to wait another week just to be sure that im going to mc again.

silver lining is that i know the routine now, so can organise it all so i donthave to take time off work.No one needs to know.

Why does this shit happen to people?
Why is there so little help out there?

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PacificWerewolfwoohood · 31/10/2009 20:19

Sunburn, you sound really low and lost about everything . As CarGirl said, have you had any tests done? How about counselling to deal with repeated lossess?
My local hospital has a Recurring Miscarriage Clinic; they have been brilliant over the years. Is there something similar available to you?
I've also found the Miscarriage Association really helpful.
Sorry if I am repeating stuff you already know.
I know what you mean about feeling stupid if you have told people about pregnancy already, and then you have to "untell" .

CarGirl · 31/10/2009 20:20

I'm shocked that there is so little out there for you. Have you the money to get a couple of private appointments?

I think there is a huge variance between PCTs as to what treatment you can get.

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sunburntats · 31/10/2009 20:23

yeah, sorry, i am fed up today.
Will be ok tomorrow. Im all doom and gloom today, i forget that just maybe this one may be ok.

I dont ovulate yet, only did bding once this month and hey presto...BFP. How weird is that!!

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CarGirl · 31/10/2009 20:25

it's okay to be fed up about it though, better than being in denial and pretending that you're okay with your lot in life at this particular moment in time.

ClaireDeLoon · 31/10/2009 20:28

Sorry sunburn when I said scan I meant a scan investigating causes, not a scan to see what is happening with your pregnancy. Some things are hard to diagnose when you're actually pregnant. Even though I had a few internal scans with my first miscarriage the problem with my uterus wasn't diagnised until I had a subsequent scan when not pregnant. Similarly they won't really be looking for fibroids etc.

Don't say sorry for being fed up you shouldn't apologise for feeling shit with what you are going through

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sunburntats · 31/10/2009 20:30

did test then went off on holiday with friends. following day bleeding.

had to pretend to be normal with them all.

think possibly about 5 weeks, so i know that they will jsut keep telling me to come back in a week, or in 10 days as its too soon so will wait till i think maybe i am 6 weeks in another week.

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sunburntats · 31/10/2009 20:34

Have had several follow up scans after all "products" are gone to check. empty uterus, overies look normal, uterus looks normal, tubes look normal.
bloods show low progesterone on day 21, thus takes about 2 years to get pregnant each time, then about 6/7 weeks to mc.

Im also 40 next year, so they are not keen to do too many investigations.

So fingers crossed, and EFAU in a week.

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CarGirl · 31/10/2009 20:35

could you pay for just one private appt?

A friend has just been for one and it was amazing how much help and advice she got compared to the NHS.

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sunburntats · 31/10/2009 20:37

where do you start with private appointments?
Who do you see and what do you get for your money?

How did your friend get an appointment carGirl?

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CarGirl · 31/10/2009 20:43

I'm not sure it was someone her boss had used at a localish place.

At the appointment they did a scan, discussed her full medical history - not just MC and she's been sent away with 3 different medications, aspirin, something to stabilise her blood sugars (she developed GD) and something else. She's also been told to go on a low carb diet. There may have been more that's just what she reported back to me.

The specialist said her womb lining was thin but noone else previously had noticed/mentioned/looked at this.

As far as I know they just rang up and booked the appointment you don't need a referral.

I guess I'd be asking around for local recommendations - get hunting on the net for forums with lots of other recurrent mc sufferers?

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sunburntats · 31/10/2009 20:47

wow, how weird! i decided that i needed a healthy BMI before starting the clomid and so have been on an intensive low carb diet for a month, lost half a stone so far, then bfp!
Come to think of it, last 2 pregancies were concieved while dieting and losing wight. Think that there is something i that.

boobs ar KILLING me, have had to have afternoon kips NOT like me at all but cant keep my eyes open at all.

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CarGirl · 31/10/2009 20:49

It must be even harder when you have such clear pregnancy symptoms

The specialist said that it's the high carb diets that cause the bloated belly look and we're not designed to eat them.

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sunburntats · 31/10/2009 20:53

it is because you are utterly convinced that its all ok, but actually the type of mcs i have always begin with very strong symptoms.

they suddenly stop, usually after the scan to tell me that i should expect to mc any time between now and 14 weeks.

Hmmm no wonder i get so pissed off, my body just lets us down over and over.

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PacificWerewolfwoohood · 31/10/2009 20:55

I had blood tests for general MOT, antiphospholipid antibodies, lupus antibodies, karyotype for me and DH, and yes scan when not pregnant. This was on the NHS, BTW. I am now almost 44 and 20 weeks pregnant. What I am trying to say, I did not feel that my age put them off doing tests, on the contrary, that seemed to put more urgency on everything, IYKWIM.

It is Very Good that you are having pregnancy symptoms . And lots of women have implantation bleeds .

Having lost weight will probably have helped conception and is a healthy thing all round, so good for you.
I hope this bean will turn out to be a sticky one.