can bleeding at 10/12 weeks be anything other than miscarriage?

[cp3]

I cant sleep, my head is all over the place. Im leaving Dp to sleep as he doesnt know what to say to make me feel better. bless him its his baby too.

Doc at hospital has done an internal and says my womb has contracyted back and the foetus is being expelled. he/she could have died a few days ago. I have a scan to confirm tomorrow.

Is ther any hope???

Thank you all. Mears hopefully i can follow in your footsteps then. i was planning on stopping after having my fourth anyway. So if i can just manage one more. Im glad it all turned out well for you in the end. Thank you for your support and help

Any adivce on telling people. Its easy with you lot (i mean that in the nicest possible way) but in real life actually having to say the words out loud just makes me cry.

CP3, I'm so sorry. I was so hoping things would work out OK after your scan.
I think telling people is always hard. I still well up when talking to people 10 weeks on. Don't be too hard on yourself, people will understand if you cry when telling them.
{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}} to you

cp3 - as others have said, I'm so sorry and really had fingers crossed all would work out well for you. As for telling people ... tell the smallest amount of people poss (I originally did it via text message as couldn't physically hold a conversation) and ask them to tell all your other friends/colleagues/relations etc. You don't want to have to have the same conversation over and over again and have to worry about being able to cope with their reaction.

Thinking of you xxx

cp3, I am so sorry you lost MadeleineDennis. A friend who went through similar a few months back named her baby Frances.
Hopefully people will not mind you crying. I did a lot of it and mostly people were great. But I wondered if there was a way to text/mail as many people as possible with your sad news, so as to minimise the number of times you burst into tears, if you feel uncomfortable about crying in front of others.
Hope you make a physical recovery quickly. We didn't wait four months either - I was pregnant again two months later and although it was a hard time, grieving for one baby while pregnant with another, we now have an adorable daughter of nearly two. And as she grows we and her big brother can show her our tree for Tom and tell her all about him. A tree is a lovely idea. Perhaps your other children can choose some plants to surround yours when you plant it out.
Glad the hospital have been supportive at this sad time. XXX

CP3 - I struggled at the thought of telling people about my first m/c 12 wks ago, we had told everyone important to us that we were pregnant quite soon after finding out, and never imagined that this would happen. Telling them that we had lost it was horrible and i remember standing on the playground at school trying so hard not to cry, but it didn't work i was a right mess. This was only 8 hours after returning from the hospital. I think i was still in shock. I called a lot of people and bit my lip while they tried to think of something good to say, then bawled my eyes out after each call. I also text the people i could, and got my mom and sister to let some people know. Thats the bets idea, get someone else to do it.

With the 2nd M/c 2 weeks ago, we ahrdly told anyone just for fear of it happening again and it did. But it was much easier telling just the close family what had happened, rather than telling the whole world like the first time.

If you're not ready to tell people then don't tell them yet. Give yourself some time to adjust, you need it.

How are you feeling? c**p i bet.
my thoughts are with you

Yep Diddle crap just about sums it all up. But not as bad as i was. Waking up was hard this morning, Ive been keeping really busy all day. If i stop i think and then it hurts. Ive taken everyones advice and e mailed or texted. Alot easier. Luckily not that many people knew.

Popped to Tescos today and just started booing at the thought of seeing a pregnant woman but i was allright in the end. Think they were all hiding today.

Marina, thats a lovely story. I was out tending my tree today and i felt strangley calm.

Honestly everyone im so much better and stronger than a few days ago. I couldnt have done it without alll your support. Im so glad i came back to Mn.

words can't express, CP3. I'm so very sorry. Take time to recover both physically & emotionally. xxx

CP3, Sorry to hear your sad news. My thoughts are with you and your family. Your tree was a lovely idea, hopes it brings you alots for comfort.

CP3 - how are you feeling today?

CP3 I've only just seen this. I am so so sorry. Please don't hide your feelings. We took a break after our mc and then tried again 6 months later. I am now 39 weeks pg. It has been a very difficult pg emotionally, so I would say to you, please let all your feelings out and accept that however you feel is the right way, even if you or anyone else thinks you should be over it by now. It gets better with time, of course, but I still think about the little one we lost, even though I am excited about having a new baby next week!

Cp3 totally missed this thread, I am so sorry that this happened to you, I hope you are finding some peace and acceptance and are resting ok.
Much love
Jane xx