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Please help me i think i am MC i cant get my DH

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ScorpiowithabigS · 09/02/2009 12:21

5+3 since LMP

I dont know what to do

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sweetkitty · 10/02/2009 16:19

Scorpio - I am sure you can take cocodamol when BFing, I have been given it 3 times after given birth, two make me feel quite woozy but painfree, you should take yourself off to bed with a couple and a hot water bottle.

It's a horrible time but it will pass soon, try to rest up as much as you can (I know easier said than done, I had no one to look after me when I was going through it, and had a 3yo and 18mo to look after) but you will get through it.

chipmonkey · 10/02/2009 17:41

Scorpio, I had to take some powerful painkillers after all my CS's and was bfing each time so don't suffer unnecessarily because of bfing. I'm sure the emotional pain is bad enough without enduring more physical pain than you have to.
Look after yourself.

ladylush · 10/02/2009 18:56

Oh no Scorpio - I am so sorry I've been through it myself as you know, so am here (you can email me if you like) if you want to vent. I know every woman deals with it in her own way though, so quite understand if you want to be left alone. I hope the pain stops soon. I didn't have spontaneous m/c - they were always slow or mmc. Thinking of you (and your dh) xx

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ScorpiowithabigS · 10/02/2009 19:28

the pain is less now, but i seem to have NO breastmilk at all.

Loss when im justsitting is getting smaller; but when i go to the toilet (either iyswim) it gets more?

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MaureenMLove · 10/02/2009 19:36

Oh sweetie! I had no idea you were pg. I'm so sorry. Lots of love and hugs. xxxx

chipmonkey · 10/02/2009 20:53

Shock and stress can cause problems with let-down Scorpio so it is likely that the milk is there but just not being released IYKWIM. Keep putting Mimi to the breast and it will in all likelihood come back.

giraffescantdancethetango · 10/02/2009 21:56

Really sorry to hear of your loss scorpio x

ladylush · 10/02/2009 22:33

Glad the pain has lessened. Don't know much about m/c and Prolactin levels so can't advise. I found that blood loss was worse when going to the toilet as well - I think that's normal (though horrible)but monitor your blood loss. If it's too heavy and you start to feel weak you should go to hospital. God it must be so heartbreaking to attempt to breastfeed Mimi whilst you are losing your baby

Rhubarb · 11/02/2009 13:49

Still thinking of you x

KC11 · 11/02/2009 17:51

So sorry for you Scorpio.
xx

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ScorpiowithabigS · 11/02/2009 17:57

breastmilk gone

thats 2 things so precious

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ScorpiowithabigS · 11/02/2009 17:57

counsellor said i can try to get it back and explained but i am too weak to try

she came out in 10 mins notice today, she is coming again tomorrow to check me

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ladylush · 11/02/2009 18:06

Hope your milk comes back So sorry you are going through this.

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ScorpiowithabigS · 11/02/2009 18:06

i think im going to call BF a day, and just think i did ok doing the 10 months next week i have done.

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VictorianSqualor · 11/02/2009 18:13

You did more than ok!
You weren't even considering BFing at the beginning of Mimi's pregnancy! You did amazing.

WRT breastmilk being 'gone' are you sure it's 'gone' as in you have no milk?

Have you put out a thread for Tiktok?

dizzyTHETARTANARMYdixies · 11/02/2009 18:19

I agree completely with VS you've done fantastically well considering you didn't know how you'd get on with it at all

do what is best for you sweetie and if you want to keep going we'll give you all the support we can and if you don't thats ok too

theboob · 11/02/2009 18:35

oh scorpio i'm so sorry,you have done fab feeding for so long,i really hope it comes back ,thinking of you x x x

differentCupID · 11/02/2009 18:42

Scorpio, I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself ,ok?

Northernlurker · 11/02/2009 18:50

Scorpio - what a terrible time you've had. Very sorry to read this - it must have been a dreadful shock.

Regarding the breast milk - you have done great to feed her for so long and if you want to stop that's absolutely a reasonable decision - but if you want to try again in a few days I think you would find that your supply is so well established that it will return.

chipmonkey · 11/02/2009 19:03

Agree with Northernlurker but even if you don't feel up to it, you have done soooo well with Mimi! 10 months is a LOT longer than most babies get!

AlistairSim · 11/02/2009 19:10

Hey Scorpio, I'm so sorry you're having such a dreadful time.

Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you.

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ScorpiowithabigS · 11/02/2009 19:52

thankyou everyone this support is helping

i just feel too tired to try and get supply up. i feel so exhausted i cant even stand up for long, let alone try to get my body to do this as well

DH is looking after me and helping me feel better

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chipmonkey · 11/02/2009 20:29

Look at it this way, scorpio, you were going to stop in a few weeks anyway, weren't you? And MIM's a good eater, isn't she? You really have no reason to beat yourself up about it. And think of wh\t you've saved on 10 months worth of formula! That's got to be worth a couple of outfits....

chipmonkey · 11/02/2009 20:30

Mims?
Mimi, obviously!

ladylush · 11/02/2009 21:35

Scorpio - maybe you need to give yourself a break and go with the tiredness etc.? You've been through a terrible shock and it takes time to get over it. I do understand the guilt at giving up Bfeeding. I stopped at 7.5 months (when I went back to work) and even though that was my plan, I still felt very guilty. So maybe take some of the pressure off and see how you feel in a few days? You've done really well to bf as long as you have. Glad dh is taking good care of you - it must be very hard for him too.